counterman Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 (edited) There is this girl I wanna ask out but she's always surrounded by guys. I see her all the time and have been introduced to her as well, but was in a rush to get to somewhere, so we only know each other's name. Since holidays are coming up real soon, I feel that I must ask her out. I know that I will see her around next time though. Should I wait until she is by herself then go for it or just talk to her and ask her out in front of her guy friends? OR is there something I could do to get her away from them? There seems to be little windows of opportunity but majority of the time she is occupied. Edited June 1, 2010 by counterman
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Sup Counter. Quick question. Has she given you her phone number yet? Is she a friend on Facebook, maybe? You need a way to initiate a conversation/dialouge where asking her out wouldn't seem awkward and out of the blue. Find a way to get digits from her if u don't have em yet.
Author counterman Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 That's the thing, I had the briefest of introductions with het then I had to go. So, no digits or facebook. You are right. I need some time to talk with her and flirt, anything to work with.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Matter of fact, I would casually observe her from a distance until I knew a hobby or personal interest of hers and try to connect that way. Let's just assume she likes horseback riding and u discover this. Next time you see her around just mention "so I hear you're a great rider, how long have you been into the sport? Or, do you compete at all?" Subtle chit chat about some interest of hers could land you digits. End with something like, "I've always wanted to give riding a shot. Maybe I can call you & pick your brain sometime..." If there's any interest she'll give you her number. That's of course assuming you don't have her number or some way to connect with her. Good luck.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 That's the thing, I had the briefest of introductions with het then I had to go. So, no digits or facebook. You are right. I need some time to talk with her and flirt, anything to work with. Was it a mutual friend that introduced you guys?
Author counterman Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 I have noticed a hobby of hers and I suppose we could both enjoy it. I think connecting with her is not a problem but having the chance to might be. One of my friends was talking to her (he has a gf), and as I was leaving I went over to say goodbye to him. Then, I introduced myself. She does not gave a traditional name so when I tried to spell it out and pronounce it, she said "you can call me that if you want" with a smile. I suppose that's my nickname for her.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I have noticed a hobby of hers and I suppose we could both enjoy it. I think connecting with her is not a problem but having the chance to might be. One of my friends was talking to her (he has a gf), and as I was leaving I went over to say goodbye to him. Then, I introduced myself. She does not gave a traditional name so when I tried to spell it out and pronounce it, she said "you can call me that if you want" with a smile. I suppose that's my nickname for her. She seems friendly and approachable, which is great. On more than one occasion I've passed a note to get my chance alone with a girl who's always surrounded. For instance, (this is with a girl I barely knew) I wrote a hand written note citing something I've observed with a question attached. No more than a sentence or two; I.e.: "I heard/saw that you do/are into X. I want to ask you something later on." Usually I'll get a note back - they'll play along. However, even if she doesn't send anything back, she'll be waiting for you to approach her with what you wanted to discuss. That mystery has created interest for girls i've pursued before - even in a bar setting, lol. I find it works well in a group of girls because girls will ALWAYS let their friends read it and usually encourage their gf to play along. If she's surrounded by guys I'd probably either hold off until she's with at least one or two girls or just approach her & talk when she's alone.
Morals Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Sup Counter. Quick question. Has she given you her phone number yet? Is she a friend on Facebook, maybe? You need a way to initiate a conversation/dialouge where asking her out wouldn't seem awkward and out of the blue. Find a way to get digits from her if u don't have em yet. Isn't facebook the "kiss of death" in terms of finding a relationship? From what I've read here, and from what little experience I've had. Facebook without digits=friendzone. Facebook WITH digits=Maybe friendzone.
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 you always ask a girl out in a private setting....that is the gentlemanly thing to do
Author counterman Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Yes, I will definitely ask her out in private. Whatever happens, next time I'll talk to her and we'll do something together. I'll ask her out then and we'll go from there. As for the notes suggestion, it would be okay if she was with girlfriends, but being around guys... they'll find a reason for it not to get to her or better else, make fun of her with it. She won't be with them ALL the time.
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