Bogo123 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Is she playing hard to get? We're at a lounge on our 2nd date sitting on a couch and she's rubbing my arms and looking into my eyes and so I go for the kiss. I'd say we had about 5 kisses and then she ended the kissing with me wanting more. A little later in the night I go for it again and this time it was 3-4 kisses. As we are leaving the place waiting for the elevator, I grab her by the waist and pull her in for more kissing and once again its only a few kisses and she ends it. In the cab ride home she's rubbing my chest and playing with the scruff on my chin. I didn't go for the kiss this time and the night ended with a hug and a peck. Im trying to figure out if she's playing hard to get or she's just not feeling it. So my question is, how should I approach it on the next date (assuming there is one)? Peck her on the lips as soon as I see her, or don't even try anything and see if she initiates?
Disintegration Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I would say if she wasn't interested she wouldn't be making contact with you by rubbing or caressing you, and looking into your eyes as if she wanted you to make the move and kiss her. Maybe she is playing hard to get. Is it working? Some guys like the challenge, but don't like a tease either. Give it another try, and see how it goes. Some females like to take it slowly too so they know you aren't after just one thing.
Kamille Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 hmmm... You call it playing hard to get, I call it building up sexual tension. And when I do it, I do it more for myself than to tease the guy. Go for more kisses and start teasing her. Drive her crazy. That, or maybe she's no one for long make out sessions. Even then, keep going in for kisses. Or, it could be that your kissing style is throwing her off. Do you kiss "hard"? then try kissing softly next time. Kiss soft? put a little bit more pressure. (I prefer soft kisses, so not too much pressure!) Good luck and enjoy! Kissing is so much fun!
Morals Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Is she playing hard to get? We're at a lounge on our 2nd date sitting on a couch and she's rubbing my arms and looking into my eyes and so I go for the kiss. I'd say we had about 5 kisses and then she ended the kissing with me wanting more. A little later in the night I go for it again and this time it was 3-4 kisses. As we are leaving the place waiting for the elevator, I grab her by the waist and pull her in for more kissing and once again its only a few kisses and she ends it. In the cab ride home she's rubbing my chest and playing with the scruff on my chin. I didn't go for the kiss this time and the night ended with a hug and a peck. Im trying to figure out if she's playing hard to get or she's just not feeling it. So my question is, how should I approach it on the next date (assuming there is one)? Peck her on the lips as soon as I see her, or don't even try anything and see if she initiates? How exactly did she "end" it 3 times in one night? Details would help us diagnose your situation...
reservoirdog1 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Text her, tell her you had a great time last night, and that she has lovely lips.
marsle85 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Nooo, she's interested- she would NOT be touching you like that if she wasn't. I know this behavior, and it only means she wanted to slow things down- didn' you notice as the end of the night got closer, she kissed less? She wants to, but she doesn't want you to get the idea she was going to take you home, etc. She's interested. Just wants to take it slow.
Author Bogo123 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 Yeah, that's why I was confused because of the touching. Maybe my kisses were a little hard for a first kiss, that could be it as well. Anyway, I have no problem taking it slow, but I wanna know for sure if she's interested because these dates are getting expensive . She ended the kissing with small pecks. The "let's wrap it up" type kisses. I'm not gonna try kissing her at all on the next date and see what happens.
crimsonmike Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Yeah, that's why I was confused because of the touching. Maybe my kisses were a little hard for a first kiss, that could be it as well. Anyway, I have no problem taking it slow, but I wanna know for sure if she's interested because these dates are getting expensive . She ended the kissing with small pecks. The "let's wrap it up" type kisses. I'm not gonna try kissing her at all on the next date and see what happens. R U nuts?!!! It's time to steal 2nd, baby!!! She's into it.
DanielMadr Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 hmmm... You call it playing hard to get, I call it building up sexual tension. And when I do it, I do it more for myself than to tease the guy. Go for more kisses and start teasing her. Drive her crazy. That, or maybe she's no one for long make out sessions. Even then, keep going in for kisses. Or, it could be that your kissing style is throwing her off. Do you kiss "hard"? then try kissing softly next time. Kiss soft? put a little bit more pressure. (I prefer soft kisses, so not too much pressure!) Good luck and enjoy! Kissing is so much fun! PERFECT ADVICE. I'm delighted. In more layman terms....don't be too eager...tease her...break the contact first...than go for the neck (my favorite - I must be a Vampire or something), ears or whatever you feel like it in the moment. Improvise, enjoy, ravish Annnnnd STOP....look in her eyes, play with her hair, kiss her soflty, then back off....and here we go again. Remember this is not a script...just be playful not a buldozer. My signature move....I just love it....hug her and press on her really hard squeezing...the point is not to make her pregnant through your clothes....but an erection is nothing to be ashamed of - never got any complaints. And a dude's advice....caress her boob and azz, very lightly at first...just like the breeze. Then you can grab it for real...just to get a taste.... If you feel like it of course but I bet you will.
marsle85 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I'm not gonna try kissing her at all on the next date and see what happens. No. Don't do that. You're slowly seducing her, and stopping that will halt the emotional and sexual connection Look up the definition of SEDUCE. It's enduring, slow, sensual. Take your time, there is no rush- and it will be sooo sweet when you finally get there. She was touching you because she wanted to, she wants that with you- but then the kissing got really involved, and she knew that if she were to continue that, you'd get the wrong idea. Sounds like a keeper to me.
linwood Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I agree with the rest of the advice in this thread. She definitely wants it or she wouldn`t be touching you so intimately. Sounds like she just wants it to go slower/last longer and if she got deep into a heavy make-out session she knows it`s going to happen NOW. So she`s controlling the speed and tension this way. Keep it up.
Confusedalways Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Nooo, she's interested- she would NOT be touching you like that if she wasn't. I know this behavior, and it only means she wanted to slow things down- didn' you notice as the end of the night got closer, she kissed less? She wants to, but she doesn't want you to get the idea she was going to take you home, etc. She's interested. Just wants to take it slow. This is exactly right. I am definitely always the one to break it off first and this is why. Not mixed signals at all.
Shakz Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Is she playing hard to get? We're at a lounge on our 2nd date sitting on a couch and she's rubbing my arms and looking into my eyes and so I go for the kiss. I'd say we had about 5 kisses and then she ended the kissing with me wanting more. A little later in the night I go for it again and this time it was 3-4 kisses. As we are leaving the place waiting for the elevator, I grab her by the waist and pull her in for more kissing and once again its only a few kisses and she ends it. In the cab ride home she's rubbing my chest and playing with the scruff on my chin. I didn't go for the kiss this time and the night ended with a hug and a peck. Im trying to figure out if she's playing hard to get or she's just not feeling it. So my question is, how should I approach it on the next date (assuming there is one)? Peck her on the lips as soon as I see her, or don't even try anything and see if she initiates? Some people are uncomfortable kissing in public, even if you're alone together in a public place. That may be what's going on here. You were in a lounge and then in an elevator foyer, public places and she cut off the kiss. She finally gets you in the semi-privacy of a taxi-cab so she can get in some good lip time and now you play hard-to-get! She's probably wondering what she did wrong! Kiss her on your next date ASAP, somewhere you can be alone, and see if that's the trouble.
Author Bogo123 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 These replies are really reassuring. I really dig this chick, hopefully she feels the same. I just left her a voicemail, hopefully she calls me back Ok ok, ill kiss her on the next date, but no deep kissing.
Morals Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 These replies are really reassuring. I really dig this chick, hopefully she feels the same. I just left her a voicemail, hopefully she calls me back Ok ok, ill kiss her on the next date, but no deep kissing. Correct, she should enjoy your tongue...not need a heimlich maneuver .
marsle85 Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Ok ok, ill kiss her on the next date, but no deep kissing. Aww that's the best thing you can do, and you don't even know why. She won't feel pressured AND she'll want you even more. Just make sure you're attentive and show that you're into her- so else she doesn't think you're not interested. This will work in your favor. Guarantee she tries to kiss you hard.
Author Bogo123 Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 Aww that's the best thing you can do, and you don't even know why. She won't feel pressured AND she'll want you even more. Just make sure you're attentive and show that you're into her- so else she doesn't think you're not interested. This will work in your favor. Guarantee she tries to kiss you hard. See this I don't get. If I asked her out on another date, isn't it obvious that im into her? Besides, showing too much interest can be a turn off and she can lose attraction for me. I thought women like challenges
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