missy197 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Apart from the advice and solace I undoubtably get from this forum, does anyone have any recommended reading (books and/or ebooks) I can get to help me get over her? Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance
KafkasLastWords Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I recently read "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" - was great to read when it was fresh since it is written in a funny light-hearted way while still making really valid, legit points that are mini wake-up calls. It's now been a few weeks and I am in a phase where I am exploring why I make the decisions I make and what drives me in relationships so I'm reading this http://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0375709223 So far so good... very interesting! Hope this helps
Cantcope Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Missy....I just want to give you a great big hug! I completely feel how you feel. It's good to know that we're not alone, but all at once, it's so sad to think that there are so many of us feeling this way. = (
Author missy197 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 thanks cantcope - that has nearly made me cry! I just want to get in touch with her, tell her to stop being so stupid and that we can sort it out, and give her a big cuddle!! Then I will probably wanna throttle her in a couple of hours! Have you seen my posts or something? x
GrayClouds Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 The book "Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson consistently gets high marks. Not only does it help to understand the emotions of a break-up but gives some helpful (though at first seem silly) expercises to not only heal but develop self awareness and sufficiency.
Cantcope Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I have read some of your posts. I have to work with my ex too and it's torture. Seeing his smug face every damn day! I want to grab him, shake him and say "WTF are you doing dummy....no one will ever love and support you the way that I do". But at the same time, I want him to see all of that on his own. It's scary as hell thinking that he won't ever feel that way. But what do we miss? Really? The companionship is what wee miss.....and we can get that elsewhere. I recently divorced my husband of 13 years, and it didn't take a toll on me like this. Is it the rejection? I'm so upset that I'm actually going on my lunch break alone right now, so I can go sit in my car and ball my eyes out for an hour. LOVELY!
Author missy197 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 Thanks for the recommendations. I have just purchased them.. Cantcope, she has got another job, back near where she is from and has only got 6 weeks left. It's really tough, in a way when she's there it's like at least I can see her. Now, we're on holiday (we're teachers) I am not seeing her so it's really tough. I know it will be best when she goes. At present I try to be cool in the staffroom sometimes, but most of the time I stay in my room and have lunch there. I hate it. She is not enjoying it either, I was the only reason she is here, so during the week she sees no one really and goes back at weekends (she is from 160 miles away). I don't know if when she moves out for good that she will realise, cos at present she can see me when she likes, she thinks she can get me back when she likes, she doesn't want what she can't have...I don't actually want her back (I really don't) after what has happened. It's the rejection. I just pray that she will get in touch, just for me to say "sorry, no chance". That will be my closure. If she doesn't then I have a long wait ahead of me I suspect..
sandiego Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I'm 8 months deep into my break up, and have looked for books to help me through. Here are a few I've found very helpful. 1) Getting Past Your Breakup - Susan J. Elliot 2) The Power of Now -Eckhart Tolle 3) The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra I would highly recommend all three! Good luck, I know what you're going through, SD
Scarlett513 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I recently read "Whom Not to Marry" and "Dealbreakers." Both of them helped me understand my ex and why our relationship went wrong, so I was able to get a sense of closure. Also, they both gave me insight on how to avoid certain toxic personalities in the future. And watch 500 Days of Summer! Best break up movie ever. When you're feeling nostalgic, it's the perfect movie to remind you that everything wasn't always perfect, and that eventually, things will get better.
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