Does a guy ever think about his ex in a rebound relationship?

[LoveTruthChaos]

Just curious...

 

My ex broke it off with me almost 2 months ago now, and was cheating on me for at least a month before he ended it. During that month he was cheating (I didn't know at the time, I found out later), and we were still communicating perfectly normally.

 

I realise now that the final stages of communication were all an act, but when he broke up with me, he seemed genuinely upset. He was almost crying over the phone (we were in an LDR, so couldn't end it in person).

 

Now, he's still with the person he was cheating on me with. I know that in his head he'd ended it with me before he actually did, and that he seems happy now, but would he ever still think about me?

 

She's a rebound, and I don't think she has ANY idea that there was actually an overlap period between me and her. Would this be playing on his mind? Because it was such a quick transition, would he be emotionally affected?

 

I guess I'm asking because I want him to be hung up on me still, coz I'm warped like that LOL

[ADF]

It is quite possible that he is ambivelant about his break up with you and thinks about it sometimes. Maybe often. But so what? He is a liar and a cheater. You don't need him.

 

LDR are almost always a bad idea. Someone might flay me alive for saying that--they have before--but it is true. Relationships almost never survive the stress of long-term seperation. Heck, even Nelson and Winnie Mandela's marriage fell apart, and they had about as good a reason for not being together as anyone in the world.

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I guess I'm asking because I want him to be hung up on me still, coz I'm warped like that LOL

 

So well, obviously you are still bitter, and it's understandable. You gotta let go, because whether you know it or not, or even care to admit it, it's affecting you life in a negative way. He's obviously moved on, and he's a bum, yet he still has an influence in your life, and you are allowing it. Work on yourself, and be your best self. Who knows - one day you might meet him out of the and he'll ask, "what have you been up to?", then when you mention all the great things in your life, he will think "I should have never let this one go."

[LoveTruthChaos]

Well, that's the thing - I was doing really well until yesterday. In the last 2 months I deleted him off Facebook, spent time with friends, delved into creating some new poems and photography and lost 8 kilos (16 pounds). I should mention that since the day we broke up, there has been NO contact. Absolutely none. I'm not the kind to humiliate myself by crawling on my knees.

 

And then yesterday, I found myself crying about him for absolutely no apparent reason. I hadn't cried over him for at least 3 weeks. I do tend to be VERY intuitive to the point of being psychic, and I took the crying to mean that his life has been thrown into chaos.

 

Last night, I dreamt about him. I dream in opposites - as in, whatever I dream, the opposite of that is happening in real life. I had a dream that I was being airlifted out of America by helicopter. All my friends were there to see me off, as well as a 'new boyfriend' (?), but I was very upset that my ex wasn't there to say goodbye.

 

The fact that he 'wasn't there' in my dream means that in real life, he's trying to figure out a way to contact me, it seems. Which of course, has thrown me in a tailspin

 

Who knows - one day you might meet him out of the and he'll ask, "what have you been up to?", then when you mention all the great things in your life, he will think "I should have never let this one go."

 

I'd be more the kind to just walk away...