turnstone Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I have a great friend, someone I've known for a very long time and although we've both got pretty busy jobs that rarely allow us to be in the same place at the same time, we've always managed to stay in touch and we've always managed to arrange semi regular meets. Note the past tense! Yes, this situation has in the last year has significantly reduced. Actually that's a lie, he has stopped communicating, even on Facebook, altogether. Not for want of trying on my part though. I have emailed, messaged, written on his wall, commented on his photos, tried every method of communication* I can, to no avail. The only thing I can put it down to is the fact he now has a girlfriend and when they started seriously dating is when we lost contact. I know what its like when you start a new relationship, friendships tend to get put on the back burner and I feel that that's right and proper, but to the extent of not replying to a single thing (and I've included his girlfriend in all my emails to him) even an invitation (sent to both of them) to come out here on [a cheap] holiday, is odd, surely? But I can't believe (don't want to believe) that this can be right, we're all old enough to not get jealous, surely? *we tend not to phone each other because of our respective jobs - there are too many times when its not convenient to chat and so we've tended prearranged calls.
Author turnstone Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 Ok, this is just spooky, I can't believe the coincidence, but I have just now received an email from him, so I guess I was worrying over nothing. I'm just freaked about the timing now!
Ronni_W Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 (edited) EDIT: For some weird reason I didn't see your second post. I'm glad to hear that! I trust you'll sort things out. Best of luck. (Ignore the rest of this. <lol>) turnstone, I agree it seems odd that he'd totally cut-off even minimal contact with you just because he has a new girl in his life. Are you sure there's no possibility at all that you did or said something that he misinterpreted, and ended up feeling hurt or offended? You mention someone getting jealous -- I assume you mean his new girl? I'd tend not to jump to that conclusion until I heard it directly from him or her. As you've written it, that just sounds like a guess or assumption on your part. As the saying goes, "desperate times call for desperate measures." I'd be making phone calls until my timing is convenient for my great friend. Quite honestly, your reason for not already having done so (under the circumstances)...sounds a little like you've also been trying to avoid having whatever conversation desperately needs to be had. Other option is to realize and accept that this friendship has run its course, and just let it go with gratitude and grace. Edited June 1, 2010 by Ronni_W
riyaasr Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 it seems that he is losing interest in you as it can happen in the professional world but u need to be proactive now ask yourself whether you want to stay with him or finish it now
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