Older women

[Peitho]

My recent thread about men and 19 yo hotties which brought some unexpected results (unexpected to me) prompted me to ask another question:

 

Men, are you attracted to women your age or older?

How much older?

 

It would be interesting to hear what older (over 40) men think.

Particularly married men.

 

Are your wives your age?

Younger?

Older?

 

Are you attracted to your wives?

[linwood]

I`m 43

My wife is 39

 

We`ve been married 10 years.

 

I`m very attracted to my wife, she`s stunningly beautiful.

 

I find women of all ages attractive but there`s no way I could have anything resembling a relationship with a girl/woman only 19 years old.

 

If I were single I don`t think I could date anyone much younger than 30.

 

I don`t know what we`d have in common for the most part.

[Iconoclast]

I'm 47, wife 41.

Married 14 years.

Attractive? ... Minimum 'bout 35 or so in looks. Max, no max really, case by case basis. So yes, older, and yes, much older.

 

Extremely attracted to my wife. She hits about 95% of my physical desires, and about the same emotionally. Keeper.

Edited June 1, 2010 by Iconoclast
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[She's_NotInLove_w/Me]

In the other thread you asked if males age 35+ have an ultimate fantasy of being with a 19 yr old... I would have zero interest in that. really...

 

Now, and older woman, if I frame from the same perspective and ask if I would be interested in a woman 15+ years my senior... Me being 39, that that would put them at 54+... I'll respond the same way. ZERO interest...

 

One might say I am narrow minded. And perhaps that is true. My wife of 16+ years is only 3 months my junior, and as far as intellect, maturity, sex appeal and physical attributes, I would say she's just about perfect for me...

[redtail]

When I got divorced some 12 years ago, I'm 54 now, I was truly only looking for someone my age or older. Mature women have so much more to offer and their life experiences make them much more interesting.

 

It's strange that I hooked up with the woman that I am married to now, she's six(6) years younger than I am. But she's always been interested in older men since for her younger men are too immature.

 

And yes, I did then and do now find her very attractive!

[califnan]

Somehow I think that it is always acceptable for a man to marry a younger woman, but should a much older woman go after a younger man - I would consider it theft.

 

Also an older woman (cougar) should always consider that scarfing up on a younger man is only for the moment.. I would think it would only be a matter of time before he would start looking over his shoulder at the younger stuff..

 

I joined pof and match a few years back .. Have had as many younger ones approach as the old ones.. I toss the young ones back (all of them back) ha ha .. And as for my sons: I don't want the old women stealing their youth either ..

[Shakz]

Do you mean physically attracted? I'm 48 and to be perfectly honest, no, I am not physically attracted to 9 out of 10 women in my age group. Gravity is a ruthless master, and menopause a cruel mistress.

[soserious1]

Do you mean physically attracted? I'm 48 and to be perfectly honest, no, I am not physically attracted to 9 out of 10 women in my age group. Gravity is a ruthless master, and menopause a cruel mistress.

 

Wow, my ex-husband has an account here? lol, wonders will never cease.

[soserious1]

Somehow I think that it is always acceptable for a man to marry a younger woman, but should a much older woman go after a younger man - I would consider it theft.

 

Also an older woman (cougar) should always consider that scarfing up on a younger man is only for the moment.. I would think it would only be a matter of time before he would start looking over his shoulder at the younger stuff..

 

I joined pof and match a few years back .. Have had as many younger ones approach as the old ones.. I toss the young ones back (all of them back) ha ha .. And as for my sons: I don't want the old women stealing their youth either ..

 

I agree with you pretty much, unfortunately I'm not attracted to men in their early 70's so I've decided I will remain alone now until I die, it's at least honorable.

[SarahRose]

Somehow I think that it is always acceptable for a man to marry a younger woman, but should a much older woman go after a younger man - I would consider it theft.

 

Also an older woman (cougar) should always consider that scarfing up on a younger man is only for the moment.. I would think it would only be a matter of time before he would start looking over his shoulder at the younger stuff..

 

I joined pof and match a few years back .. Have had as many younger ones approach as the old ones.. I toss the young ones back (all of them back) ha ha .. And as for my sons: I don't want the old women stealing their youth either ..

 

It makes me wonder why even bothering with relationships at all.

[califnan]

It makes me wonder why even bothering with relationships at all.

 

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Ha .. Isn't That the truth! My husband was two years older - and it took me awhile to realize that when he wanted to sit down at an amusement park, or so .. it was also to also to take in the women ..

 

These men on the singles' sights act so eager for a woman - probably until they Have one..

[califnan]

I agree with you pretty much, unfortunately I'm not attracted to men in their early 70's so I've decided I will remain alone now until I die, it's at least honorable.

 

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I don't want a man that old either... Furthermore, from what I have seen in the pictures on the singles' sights, men age worse than women..

 

I guess where there's life... there's hope ..

[Woggle]

I'm married to an older woman and I would not have it any other way though I feel her age is beside the point. The amount of years a person has lived on this earth really doesn't matter much in the long run.

[califnan]

I'm married to an older woman and I would not have it any other way though I feel her age is beside the point. The amount of years a person has lived on this earth really doesn't matter much in the long run.

 

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tell me tell me ... How old are you and how old is she..

[LittleTiger]

Do you mean physically attracted? I'm 48 and to be perfectly honest, no, I am not physically attracted to 9 out of 10 women in my age group. Gravity is a ruthless master, and menopause a cruel mistress.

 

That's interesting. So what you're saying is that, for you, physical attraction is based entirely on looks.

 

You don't mention your relationship status but your post makes me wonder if a man who thinks this way will inevitably end up alone in later life - or at best in an unhappy relationship with a woman he finds unattractive.

 

I'm not judging you in any way here and it may be of no concern to you at all, but I just wondered if this had ever crossed your mind?

[LittleTiger]

It makes me wonder why even bothering with relationships at all.

 

Because a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are as a person (heart, soul, mind, intellect), and loves your body because it is yours, not because it is young, firm and flawless, is something incredibly special and rewarding.

 

I'd happily bet that the guys on here who have declared a strong attraction for their middle aged (or approaching middle aged) wives are not married to women who look like underwear models.

 

Men who genuinely love their partners do not waste time at amusement parks, or anywhere else, looking at other women.

[just_some_guy]

Because a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are as a person (heart, soul, mind, intellect), and loves your body because it is yours, not because it is young, firm and flawless, is something incredibly special and rewarding.

 

I'd happily bet that the guys on here who have declared a strong attraction for their middle aged (or approaching middle aged) wives are not married to women who look like underwear models.

 

Men who genuinely love their partners do not waste time at amusement parks, or anywhere else, looking at other women.

 

That is pure, unadulterated FANTASY.

 

It simply is not true and the expectation of that requires a god, not a human male.

 

To the OP's question, I prefer women near to and somewhat older than I am. Just how I'm wired up. A woman in my age range who takes good care of herself, eats right, exercises regularly, takes pride in her appearance and clothing is a joy to behold. A few wrinkles, some greys and the natural effects of time do not detract from beauty. Lack of self-care does.

[Els]

That is pure, unadulterated FANTASY.

 

It simply is not true and the expectation of that requires a god, not a human male.

 

 

All good and well for you, as long as you cut your partners the same slack, and don't mind them lusting after other men.

[Crusoe]

That is pure, unadulterated FANTASY.

 

It simply is not true and the expectation of that requires a god, not a human male.

 

 

 

It is not fantasy, I can honestly say that during the years I was with both my wife and my ex I never once looked at another woman. I am also, in no way shape or form a god, just a normal fella who loved his woman.

[xxoo]

That is pure, unadulterated FANTASY.

 

It simply is not true and the expectation of that requires a god, not a human male.

 

I agree that it is fantasy for most people. But that is true for the human male AND female. I am thankful to be in a relationship where neither of us feels threatened by the other noticing an attractive person (we are respectful, though, and don't gawk or gape like a teenager ).

 

And....my H is most attracted to shapely mothers, age 40-55. Always has been, even since we were both teens (we are 2 years apart in age). I'm now approaching that age, and he is SO DARNED EXCITED about it!

 

I love it

[janie423]

Somehow I think that it is always acceptable for a man to marry a younger woman, but should a much older woman go after a younger man - I would consider it theft.

 

Also an older woman (cougar) should always consider that scarfing up on a younger man is only for the moment.. I would think it would only be a matter of time before he would start looking over his shoulder at the younger stuff..

 

I joined pof and match a few years back .. Have had as many younger ones approach as the old ones.. I toss the young ones back (all of them back) ha ha .. And as for my sons: I don't want the old women stealing their youth either ..

 

I'm married 25 years to a man 4.5 years younger. Doesn't sound like for the moment to me. Glad I didn't throw him back. And he would never call me names like "cougar".

[Woggle]

All good and well for you, as long as you cut your partners the same slack, and don't mind them lusting after other men.

 

It is one thing to look at other people. We all do but I have no interest in ever doing anything. I can look at a woman and think damn she is hot and then move on and healthy women do that as well.

 

The problem is when simply looking at another person turns into the situation that I saw today on this board where a woman has a great guy but can't resist trying to cheat. I am against that in both genders.

[LittleTiger]

That is pure, unadulterated FANTASY.

 

It simply is not true and the expectation of that requires a god, not a human male.

 

It is not fantasy, I can honestly say that during the years I was with both my wife and my ex I never once looked at another woman. I am also, in no way shape or form a god, just a normal fella who loved his woman.

 

You may not be a God, Crusoe but, by the sounds of it, you stand head and shoulders above the majority of men.

 

I am thankful to be in a relationship where neither of us feels threatened by the other noticing an attractive person (we are respectful, though, and don't gawk or gape like a teenager ).

 

I am also in a relationship like this and for just_some_guy's benefit I'd like to point out that looking at attractive people is not the same as 'sitting down at amusement parks to 'take in' other women as califnan's husband did.

 

There is a world of difference between noticing very attractive people whilst thinking 'wow he/she is hot' and oggling them with thoughts of what you'd like to do to, or with, them in the sack!

 

It is one thing to look at other people. We all do but I have no interest in ever doing anything. I can look at a woman and think damn she is hot and then move on and healthy women do that as well.

 

That's exactly what I meant Woggle.

 

I have no doubt there are many men (and women) who spend their lives eyeing up the opposite sex and wanting to sleep with them BUT I sure as hell wouldn't waste my time with a man like that when there are plenty of men who think like Crusoe, Woggle and my own partner.

[You Go Girl]

I think the men who ogle, make the special effort to go to a place to watch eye candy, read these threads and don't believe other men are honest when they say they don't do this. They simply can't comprehend finding a woman beautiful, or attractive, without thinking about sexing them up.

There's a difference between noticing what is right in front of you, and searching for eye candy.

 

I don't think I'll have strict age limits when I get out there and date again. I won't be after a 100 year old man, and I won't be after young men asking if they are legal yet.

But I do know that sometimes, the right person is more than a decade older or younger than oneself. I know of too many successful marriages like this to not acknowledge them here.

[BentSpine]

Because a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are as a person (heart, soul, mind, intellect), and loves your body because it is yours,

It seems Little Tiger defines a real person not through their body but by their heart, soul, mind and intellect. And she goes on to believe that any decent man will be attracted to your body because of YOU, i.e. your heart, soul, mind & intellect. Keep believing that if it works for you. But I'm a firm believer that to other people than ourselves, our looks is part and parcel of YOU; when they look at you. Your looks is as real to them as your character. That's why people treat you better after you've lost weight: to them, YOU have changed even though you yourself feel pretty much the same as before.