martha smith Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Hi guys! Few months ago I started dating a guy I was introduced to by my friend and his relative. When I met him he said his previous relationship ended and got over it. Altough when we went out he was still living with his ex who was abroad for long vacation. He said that she is planning to move out as soon as she comes back. She found out about me and started calling him to get him back. He said that she will get over and I shouldn't worry about it. When she came back she managed to convinced him that she is not ready to meet me. When I came over to his apartment on weekend (she was not there ) I realized my dress disappered from his closet and he didn't seem to be concern about it. She didn't move out since "she have to save money" and still not ready to meet me. He said he cannot move out for the same reason. After a month she bought a guinea pig and he takes care of it. She calls him every day and he said "she just wanna stay friends". He said that he wants to be with me and looks like there is no problem for him. Few weeks ago I couldn't go camping with him and his friends. After that I found out picture of him holding her in arms sitting on the beach. He said that nothing happened, they were "just drunk". He says he loves me and she is a friend. How to explain him that what he is doing is totally unacceptable? In my opinion he strongly supports his ex to ruin our relationship.I tried to explain it but he seems to don't get it .He says that I am unreasonable. What arguments should I use? What do you think?
brainygirl Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I wouldn't date him if he still shared a home with is "ex"
ADF Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Your BF is lying to you. Or at least not telling you everything. Although I cannot say for certain, I would bet his relationship with his ex is nowhere near as "over" as he claims. Don't argue with him. Tell him he needs to either move out or move her out RIGHT NOW. If he cannot get out tomorrow, then he needs to stay somewhere else (or she does) until they can find their own places. If he balks at this in any way or gives you any excuses, DUMP HIM.
crimsonmike Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 He's playin you. No doubt in my mind. Come on, He's LIVING WITH HIS EX.
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