Can you enjoy sex in a loveless marriage and if so, how?

[naturegirl]

I was just reading another thread about staying together for the kids and several describe their relationship with their spouse as loveless, yet they indicate they have good or even great sex a couple of times a month. It got me to wondering how this could be.

 

Are there any of you out there who are at a point where you are no longer in love with your spouse, but enjoy having sex with them?

[Toodamnpragmatic]

I was just reading another thread about staying together for the kids and several describe their relationship with their spouse as loveless, yet they indicate they have good or even great sex a couple of times a month. It got me to wondering how this could be.

 

Are there any of you out there who are at a point where you are no longer in love with your spouse, but enjoy having sex with them?

 

my spouse laughs everytime I ask "do you want to make love":p.... At the end of the day you are f*#$ing not "making love"....

 

Do I generally understand it? Yes and no..... Sometimes you just need to clean out the pipes and it is not a terrible experience......

[tnttim]

You are looking at the surface issue, no love. The deep down story and reason sex is good is because of the ramifications of the situation.

 

Sex is exciting when you aren't supposed to be having it, when you think the other person isn't begging you for it, when there is no pressure, and when there is no feeling of obligation.

 

So yes you can.

[Tropic]

I am not married but I've had sex with previous boyfriends when I was not in love with them, and planning on leaving, so I am sure it can be enjoyed. Off course, not as great as when you are in love.

 

Think of it like a kind of masturbation, or as someone said "cleaning the pipes".

[rewe4reel]

The reason sex can be enjoyable without love is because we are biologically programmed to want to have sex for reproductive purposes.

 

Sex is enjoyable because the enjoyment we feel is the biological/evolutionary incentive to engage in sex in the first place.

[califnan]

I was just reading another thread about staying together for the kids and several describe their relationship with their spouse as loveless, yet they indicate they have good or even great sex a couple of times a month. It got me to wondering how this could be.

 

Are there any of you out there who are at a point where you are no longer in love with your spouse, but enjoy having sex with them?

 

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With marriage being created by God, sanctified by God - and the two are one flesh, their bodies belonging to each - I have a hard time believing that with all of the Respect due marriage - that the intimacy is less than that of an outside encounter - excepting for thoughts that the devil may have planted into a partner.

[scatterd]

I would think if it was loveless he would not be having sex their has to be some kind of attraction or love.So many say they are there for the kids only its not always true it depends on why and who they are trying to convince.some people believe because the newness wore off they feel that way but that happens to most people that have been together many years.love is not bassed on sex alone.

[giotto]

I don't think in any of the other threads there was a mention of a "loveless" marriage... maybe a marriage with less love than one would like, but some kind of love (not up to me to define it), nevertheless... otherwise, sex would not be possible, because I read loveless as in "resentful"...

[tnttim]

Have you ever cheated on your spouse?

 

Never, I fix my marriage problems within my marriage.

[Honorable_Venerable]

I don't think in any of the other threads there was a mention of a "loveless" marriage... maybe a marriage with less love than one would like, but some kind of love (not up to me to define it), nevertheless... otherwise, sex would not be possible, because I read loveless as in "resentful"...

 

 

There's a school of thought that the opposite of love isn't hate / resentment, it's apathy. That love / hate are aspects of the same side of the balance (strong emotion) whereas the other side is simply not GAS about it.