What is she thinking

[Tricky94]

Me and my now ex-girlfriend are both around 16 and were in a relationship for about a month or so we got on really well and saw eachother as much as we could fit in, about two or three times a week even though we have both been really under preasure from exams which have been going on at the same time. She was even planning to do something nice for my 16th birthday which is next week, I was her first ever relationship and I think kiss aswell and we were going really well and I was so sure that I was making her very very happy I could just tell. I was never too much or clingy as I know that is unattractive but she even tolded me she loved the way I cared for her and she made it clear she liked me alot. She used to say she was not used to the attention she got, for instance massaging the back of her leg or neck or even simple things like holding a door open for her but she said she liked it and that it was nice. I saw her on thursday to study together and we were just normal and on our break she kissed me and then after told me she loved me and burried her head in my chest but then a few days later called me and told me that she didnt want a relationship, so I met up with her and we had a talk and she started crying and was saying she did not want a commitment and she was not readdy to have a boyfriend and wont be for a long time. I asked her if she liked me anymore and she said that she wouldnt answer untill I persisted and she said she was closing the posibilities of liking me away. I dont see how someones feelings towards me can change from so strong to breaking it up in such a short period of time. I dont know if this is just an overload of stress from exams and its all just happend at the wrong time and I dont know what to do because ive never liked or put as much effort in for a girl like I have for her but i know if i dont give up or just stay friends im not going to stop liking her and its just going to prolong the pain and fustration I get from the whole situation.

 

Recently we have just tried to be friends and given eachother more space, which has been tought considering how much she used to love talking to me before and used to regulaly tell me how amazing I was to her, But now she seems eager to not say one nice thing about me even about the pettiest things. I dont know if shes saying it just to try and prove to herself she does not like me, or because Ive acctually done something wrong, which I havent. When we broke up I said "Deep down you know you still have feelings for me" and she was like "I Probably do but not as much because im trying not to think about it" I dont see how someone can change theirr mind on someone who makes them so happy so quickly.

 

what is she thinking and what do I do....? (Girls advice mainly is possible)

 

Thankss

[sedgwick]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but nobody can know what she's thinking except for her! And given that you're both teenagers, and, as such, your brains are still developing, what she's thinking may well change from moment to moment!