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Why do we find it so hard to just move on? Why doesn't the mind just except it and move on???

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For many reasons.

 

We tend to go into a state of shock when a relationship ends. We are protected by a numbing barrier and out emotions and thoughts don't hit us at full whack. You'll think you dreamnt it or that you're in a parallel universe.

 

Also, if you had the type of relationship that was always a little on and off, you'll never know if there's another chance or if that really was it.

 

Its hard to break away from someone; not just in terms of love, but in the hopes and expectations you established for your future. Depending on what you invested and the castles in the sky you let yourself build, it takes a lot to mourn the loss of all of those things, learn from them and learn to live in the now.

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It's the way your brain is wired. There was a show on TV called "This Emotional Life" and in it, they discussed this very topic. Studies have shown that your brain doesn't adapt very well to this because there are alternate outcomes and other options.

 

People's minds adapt extremely well if there is no alternative. If you lose your legs in a freak blimp accident, well, there's no alternative so you might as well get living with your life. However, if the Starbucks latte machine is broken, oh holy hell I'm crying in the corner curled into an assball.

 

You just have to give it time. You have to try as hard as you can to help your mind get off the subject. In due time, you will accept things.

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For many reasons.

 

We tend to go into a state of shock when a relationship ends. We are protected by a numbing barrier and out emotions and thoughts don't hit us at full whack. You'll think you dreamnt it or that you're in a parallel universe.

 

Also, if you had the type of relationship that was always a little on and off, you'll never know if there's another chance or if that really was it.

 

Its hard to break away from someone; not just in terms of love, but in the hopes and expectations you established for your future. Depending on what you invested and the castles in the sky you let yourself build, it takes a lot to mourn the loss of all of those things, learn from them and learn to live in the now.

 

 

 

Hey thanks for the post. I get the state of shock. I went into a state of shock a while back and didn't want to beleive it. I have passed that stage now. Truth is I am still quite numb. Weird eh. Thanks tho

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It's the way your brain is wired. There was a show on TV called "This Emotional Life" and in it, they discussed this very topic. Studies have shown that your brain doesn't adapt very well to this because there are alternate outcomes and other options.

 

People's minds adapt extremely well if there is no alternative. If you lose your legs in a freak blimp accident, well, there's no alternative so you might as well get living with your life. However, if the Starbucks latte machine is broken, oh holy hell I'm crying in the corner curled into an assball.

 

You just have to give it time. You have to try as hard as you can to help your mind get off the subject. In due time, you will accept things.

 

 

 

Hey, I wish I had seen that programe. I kinda understand what your are saying my mind makes up loads of diffrent ways that it could turn out. Even tho it's turned out this way. I think I need to start some sort of brain training or something to block out the thoughts of her;(

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