mortensorchid Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I went to a BBQ tonight, invited by someone to the house of the guy I had mentioned from the previous thread. I was wary about going over, as he (the one who said that he was all of a sudden "in a relationship" on Facebook after two dates with me, and he was not in said relationship with me) also lived there. His female roommate, who is a very sweet gal, has befriended me, and she assured me that all would be find if I came over. So I agreed, and I decided I was going to have a chat with him and say that everything is cool with me and him, since we will have to see each other in the same circles there will be no animosity. I walk in the house and see him, I walk right over to him and said hello. I asked how he'd been, he said he'd been busy and things. I said I'd been as well, then his new girlfriend walks in and he puts his arm around her and said "And then I met this!" She is HUGE, I am thin and if I do say so myself I have a pretty rockin body. I was about to introduce myself and shake her hand, but she walked off. He said "You went away" before I could say anything. This is refering to a two week long road trip where I went to New York and Chicago; I was about to say it's not like I moved away and I was never coming back. Then he walked away. WHAT A DOUCHEBAG!!!! Talk about dodging a bullet, huh?
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Dont let it bother you. Its pointless to worry about comparing yourself to what he left you for. Just move on knowing you are in a better situation
Morals Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I.........You.......... Are you....complaining about a guy choosing another girl who was heavier then you? Maybe that's who makes him happy? I dunno...your statement just left me completely speechless.
brainygirl Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 If he hit it off with her . . . what's the problem? that she's not as hot as you are? You went on two dates with him and then went out of town, he was supposed to wait for you? He met someone he felt like he clicked with. It happens. quit being so shallow and go find another guy, if your so smokin hot it wont be a problem.
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 if your so smokin hot it wont be a problem LOL I'm in northeast ohio if you are smokin hot
BeautifulMan Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 LOL I'm in northeast ohio if you are smokin hot Pics of said rocking body?
MrNate Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Pics of said rocking body? I figured someone would mention it. This thread is worthless without pics.
make me believe Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I don't see how this makes him a douchebag... I think most of us have been in a situation where we're thinking "you dumped me for that?!" but really, it's immature thinking. You guys went on two dates and then you went away for two weeks. In that two weeks he happened to meet someone else he clicked with more than you. It's not really a big deal..
Peter Attis Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 <---- *Gets his popcorn ready AND a large coke.* *Steals your popcorn*
Citizen Erased Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I'm not sure how large she really is but I actually admire him for not being superficial. Clearly he's not embarrassed by her, he had no problem with introducing you to her. You weren't around, you weren't official and he found someone else. Her weight is irrelevant.
norajane Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Somewhere on the internet, a fat woman has started a thread saying, "This woman he went out with only twice and then disappeared on him showed up at the party and walked straight over to him without even saying hello to the hostess. So I went over to my bf, and when he introduced us, she looked down her nose at me like I was a turd, so I had to walk away from the bitch before I smacked that nasty look off her face."
MrNate Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I'm not sure how large she really is but I actually admire him for not being superficial. Clearly he's not embarrassed by her, he had no problem with introducing you to her. You weren't around, you weren't official and he found someone else. Her weight is irrelevant. Wait, Citizen, you mean to tell me not all guys are attracted to physically hot women?
Ronni_W Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (the one who said that he was all of a sudden "in a relationship" on Facebook after two dates with me, and he was not in said relationship with me) Unless he specifically told you that his FB status was about you...maybe he had already met his current girlfriend by that time, and SHE was the one to whom he was referring as being "in a relationship" with on Facebook? Or maybe he had been using you to prove to her how much he really is attracted to her? Who knows? Like CE said, though, her body shape and size is (obviously) irrelevant to this guy. We'd have to guess-assume that he values other qualities and traits much higher than he does rockin' bodies. I do agree with you, though, that somebody dodged a bullet.
Citizen Erased Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Wait, Citizen, you mean to tell me not all guys are attracted to physically hot women? I'm sure all men are attracted to them, they're called hot for a reason. But for some it's not a priority, same with some women. I think people are under the mistaken impression that looks are everything to everyone, just because they mean so much to themselves.
summerl0vesyou Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 wow... thats just awkward. you clearly take pride in your body...well, unfortunately i dont think this is based on bodies...if he wanted an rship and she went for the hook, there must be something else there that was more important than her shape. but that does suck...ive had body issues before and got really skinny and thought it would make me better to be with, but it never really did much.. im a normal weight now and get hit on plenty....meh
SarahRose Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I went to a BBQ tonight, invited by someone to the house of the guy I had mentioned from the previous thread. I was wary about going over, as he (the one who said that he was all of a sudden "in a relationship" on Facebook after two dates with me, and he was not in said relationship with me) also lived there. His female roommate, who is a very sweet gal, has befriended me, and she assured me that all would be find if I came over. So I agreed, and I decided I was going to have a chat with him and say that everything is cool with me and him, since we will have to see each other in the same circles there will be no animosity. I walk in the house and see him, I walk right over to him and said hello. I asked how he'd been, he said he'd been busy and things. I said I'd been as well, then his new girlfriend walks in and he puts his arm around her and said "And then I met this!" She is HUGE, I am thin and if I do say so myself I have a pretty rockin body. I was about to introduce myself and shake her hand, but she walked off. He said "You went away" before I could say anything. This is refering to a two week long road trip where I went to New York and Chicago; I was about to say it's not like I moved away and I was never coming back. Then he walked away. WHAT A DOUCHEBAG!!!! Talk about dodging a bullet, huh? Why would you even care what someone does who you've only been on 2 dates with? Maybe he is the one who dodged the bullet.
BS76 Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (edited) If he hit it off with her . . . what's the problem? that she's not as hot as you are? You went on two dates with him and then went out of town, he was supposed to wait for you? He met someone he felt like he clicked with. It happens. quit being so shallow and go find another guy, if your so smokin hot it wont be a problem. Good post. Also, looks aren't everything. To put it bluntly the OP sounds like the typical westernized spoiled princess that's all too common these days, that thinks she should be waited on hand and foot because she's good looking/thin. Sorry sweet cheeks, the world doesn't revolve around you. And just wait until you get older and your looks fade. Whooo boy are you in for a rude awakening! Ask yourself this, what do you bring to the table if someone were to get into a relationship with you? How do you make a man's life better? What makes you worthy of a man's attention beyond how you may look? That's what's going to matter over the long haul, because looks most certainly are fleeting. Edited May 31, 2010 by BS76
Anela Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (edited) I'm not sure how large she really is but I actually admire him for not being superficial. Clearly he's not embarrassed by her, he had no problem with introducing you to her. I was thinking the same thing. I find it kind of refreshing, to read this (though it's obviously easy for me to feel that way, since I wasn't the one who was dumped - had I been, her weight would be irrelevant). Edited May 31, 2010 by Anela
txsilkysmoothe Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I'm guessing, in addition to more weight - she also has more personality, intellectual depth, and emotional maturity. And LESS shallowness and sense of self importance. Kuddos to him!
marsle85 Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I do agree you're being pretty inconsiderate with your generalizations, but I think the real matter here is his desire to jump in a relationship. He wanted something now (like a lot of guys) and she was there and available.
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (edited) He knew you were going to be there.. My theory.. She wasn't his GF, I'm guessing she was posing as his GF to get back at you for what he thought was taking off and dumping him.. If she really was his GF then he wanted to show her off to you and she didn't want any part of it.. Either way you dodged a bullet and he seems happy.. Edited May 31, 2010 by Art_Critic
harmfulsweetz Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I don't get the big deal, it sounded like you weren't even that interested in him and why are you judging her for her weight? If anything, that makes you shallow, and he dodged the bullet, not you.
Arabella Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (edited) She clearly has qualities that attracted him much more than that body of yours. It isn't surprising that he chose her over you if you're the kind of person that would make a post like THIS. "How could he choose her over me, when I'm so much hotter than her!"... lol. Conceited much? Arabella Edited May 31, 2010 by Arabella
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