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An Epidemic of Stupid: Questions from The Backburner


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Many moons since I've been on LS but this has went on long enough and well, I need opinions/answers/sensible thoughts on the matter, and well anything else ya'll can give me.;)

 

The story:

2 yrs ago good friend and I went on date. His bff got in the middle of things and convinced him to call it quits with me. This completely screwed up the friendship between he and I for months but last year we finally started trying to be normal (platonic friends) again...or so I thought. Now fast forward to the present day...

 

Since our initial break, he has been doing this thing where he'll call and make plans or it'll seem he's trying to rekindle things but then poof, he disappears just as quick (usually within weeks of us reconnecting). And he's done this like 5 times now and not only is it confusing/frustrating but well..it's just plain wrong! I can't figure out if he regrets the break, misses the friendship or what?! :confused: We were never intimate so I know it's not about a booty call and there's only a small age difference (I'm older. Late 20's vs early) but still...it's like why go to the trouble to call/text on a semi-regular basis, only to ride back off into the sunset like a month later- or on occasion sometimes within the same night??

 

I've tried NC. I've tried being nice. I've even tried to show him I wouldn't be against a possible 'nother' shot but he doesn't seem content with any of these options. So what my dear LS friends does this freak want??

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Sounds like he can't decide or he's chickening out. I have a friend from high school who does this. We were best friends in grade school, grew apart a little in high school. He will email me and say he's going to be in town and we'll plan a meal or something. Then he never shows up.

 

We were never romantic, in fact he's gay. I think he's just a flake or a coward about something.

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So on last week, guy in question began what I thought was just this strange “communication cycle” again (I mean literally blowing up my phone) but this time, he asked if I’d be interested in hanging out. I thought about this and against my better judgment, decided to go, for which we actually wound up having a really great time. Before our night ended he told me he “had fun and we should hang out again sometime” to which I agreed. However that was a week ago and I haven’t really heard much from him since. He’s only spoke to me a few times online, just briefly in person and once or twice over text. So what gives? Is he genuinely trying to reconnect and if so is it just for friendship or more? I can’t lie and say I wouldn’t be interested in giving things a go again because we always have a great time together, but I can’t read this guy to save my life! Any suggestions or thoughts?

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Sounds like he wants to keep you around just in case. Are you sure this guy is single?

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Sounds like he wants to keep you around just in case. Are you sure this guy is single?

 

Yes he's single. His last relationship ended a little over 2 months (she dumped him).

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