crimsonmike Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I've been on one friggin date with this woman I really like. She says she wants to take it slow, but she also wants to be exclusive AFTER ONE DATE!!! How the hell are you taking it slow if you are exclusive after date 1??? I'm guessing this means I get all the girlfriend "benefits" minus the sex? Sounds fun. [sarcasm off.] I do like her a lot, so I guess I'll put up with it a while. Any other way to interpret this?
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 At least she knows how to communicate and be upfront. I've never been the type of guy to date multiple women at the same time, so I cant really give you any advice. But I do understand most guys like to have a few different women to juggle.
summerl0vesyou Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Hmm...thats a good point, about being the gf minus the sex. thats sorta true. honestly i dont even think people should be exclusive unless they are bf/gf, its sorta stupid...but im in that situation now so i cant say much:laugh: well if you like her, id just see what happens. im not sure about the contradiction...she wants to take it slow but wants to be exclusive...well maybe she has a good idea that she wants to end up with you, but isnt ready yet obviously or else youd be bf/gf already, thats sorta the situation for me..its way too soon to actually be together, but im sure she doesnt want to get feelings etc unless you're gonna be trying to only be with her. so it only kinda contradicts...but ultimately it does make sense if she just wants one person and isnt into the multi dating. if you dont want to be exclusive you arent being forced and its not cheating if you see other women etc but if you gave her your word or something then clearly its just a moral thing....not cheating though. but dont do something you dont want to do.
skydiveaddict Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 she really likes you too. She just wants to be exclusive before she takes it any farther. She sounds like a great catch to me! you should be happy
Author crimsonmike Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 How'd the beach trip go...? Weather sucked and concert we were going to got rained out. Other than that, Ok. Least there wasn't oil everywhere.
USMCHokie Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Weather sucked and concert we were going to got rained out. Other than that, Ok. Least there wasn't oil everywhere. So what'd you two do instead? Or was the entire date canned?
Author crimsonmike Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 So what'd you two do instead? Or was the entire date canned? Hung out at my buddies beach house, BSed, and drank Pina Colada's. I don't really do "canned." I don't plan much of anything. Concert was spur of the moment.
USMCHokie Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Hung out at my buddies beach house, BSed, and drank Pina Colada's. I don't really do "canned." I don't plan much of anything. Concert was spur of the moment. Heh, "canned" = canceled...not like canned as in a completely preplanned arrangement... So will there be a third date?
Author crimsonmike Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Heh, "canned" = canceled...not like canned as in a completely preplanned arrangement... So will there be a third date? Oops. My bad. Yeah, I'm sure we'll go out again. I kinda pissed her off today by trying to make her explain her definition of "taking it slow," but she'll get over it. She pulled that political trick where you give a long winded answer without ever saying anything. I called her on it, but she's good. She managed to avoid answering before I gave up.
Green Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 She'll probably give bj's but wants to wait a few dates for sex. I say push it to the limit you may get to go all the way.
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