colliejoanie Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 I'm 34. I left my ex a year and a half ago. My daughter is now 2. In the last year and a half he and I have made a few sad attempts at reconcilliation, but it's over for good. He's not even in my daughter's life. I have so much going on right now that I don't know if it's the right time to get out there and start dating.....or even if it's possible. I weigh 30 lbs more than I should, I'm a full time student, I work two part time jobs, single mom, financially strapped, and I have a broken tooth (thanks to the ex) that I can't fix until I get health insurance. I'm going to a counselor to overcome the "inside" issues from this past relationship. I don't FEEL pretty (although I once was - and felt it). But I'm SO DAMNED LONELY!!! I know the kind of guy I want, but don't think that kind of guy would be interested in me given all my present baggage. Should I wait until I've at least lost the weight?
yume Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Don't start looking just because you're lonely. By the sounds of what you wrote, I think you need more time to feel better about yourself...sure, we all want someone to hold us when we're down, but that might not translate into you being ready to be someone's partner just yet. Like you said, you're pretty busy, so take that into account - would you really be able to pay good attention to a SO right now? Probably not. Focus on yourself for now and eventually you'll know when the time is right.
Author colliejoanie Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Thank you so much.....just your short post reinforced in me the fact that I need to take this summer and work on me.....I can't afford to go to school over the summer because my vehicle just broke down. I was stressing over how to do it all, but reading this, I think I'll take this summer to work on me....and my little girl. Thanks again!!
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