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To put it shortly: met a guy who I'd met years ago through a friend. Went on a date. Had a really nice time, he seemed really into me. His brothers birthday was this saturday, made plans to quickly bump into each other on saturday as we realized we'd be near each other on the night.

 

We kept texting throughout the week, he even came across as a bit insecure, said things ( half-jokingly) like "I'm so happy you agreed to go out on a date with me". Said he was really looking forward to seeing me. We also tentatively made plans on meeting today ( sunday) as he was supposed to help me with putting up a shelf ( mentioned it during our date, he offered to help). On saturday he kept texting funny texts throughout the day and night but then later on he texted saying something had happened with his brother, and that he was going to go home. I texted back saying is he ok? and that hopefully he managed to enjoy his birthday. Now its Sunday and I haven't heard back.

 

Obviously something happened with his brother, but I'm also thinking maybe something else happened? Maybe he lost interest/met someone else. Any thoughts?

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he even came across as a bit insecure, said things ( half-jokingly) like "I'm so happy you agreed to go out on a date with me". Said he was really looking forward to seeing me

 

Someone please answer me HOW does the female mind take the above comment as being insecure ?

 

Should the guy have said, " I'd rather be at home drinking but I guess I can spend some time with you tonight "

 

Would that make you feel better if he expresses no interest in you at all ?

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Someone please answer me HOW does the female mind take the above comment as being insecure ?

 

Should the guy have said, " I'd rather be at home drinking but I guess I can spend some time with you tonight "

 

Would that make you feel better if he expresses no interest in you at all ?

 

 

Anybody figure this out, I'd like to know too. W T H.

 

To OP, I'd say something happenned with his brother. Why does everything have to be about subliminal messaging all the time?

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Someone please answer me HOW does the female mind take the above comment as being insecure ?

 

Should the guy have said, " I'd rather be at home drinking but I guess I can spend some time with you tonight "

 

Would that make you feel better if he expresses no interest in you at all ?

 

That would be a double edged sword my friend...

 

Another instance of a case where women say one thing, then mean another.

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Someone please answer me HOW does the female mind take the above comment as being insecure ?

 

Should the guy have said, " I'd rather be at home drinking but I guess I can spend some time with you tonight "

 

Would that make you feel better if he expresses no interest in you at all ?

 

im guessing his tone of voice sounded like he couldn't believe she actually agreed to go on a date with him. if a guy smiling and confidently said something like "i'm glad we're doing this" i wouldnt think it was insecure, but sweet. its all in the delivery IMO.

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I don't understand how that statement would come across as insecure either. If i'm excited about going on a date with someone that I like, I would say the same thing. It has nothing to do with being insecure.

 

As far as the OP goes, I wouldn't be freaking out about it. He showed obvious interest in you, and plans ended up falling through. It happens all the time. I'd wait to hear from him before you begin jumping to any conclusions yet.

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