WheatusDirtBag Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Okay, I am going to make this as short as possible, but it is a rather long story. So, 2 semesters ago I met this guy in this class, thought he was really cute, and ended up finding him on myspace (I was too shy to say anything in person). He ended up accepting the request and started talking to me a lot on there. (Commenting on my page just about every day or every other day). Right away, I thought this meant he was at least a little interested, because no guy I have ever befriended on myspace has ever talked to me before. They usually accept the friend request to add to their number of friends, and then ignore me even if I message them. Sad to say...but it's true, most of the guys I know don't talk to me...ever. So anyway, we basically started to get to know each other online...the next time I saw him in class he came over to sit by me and started talking to me a LOT. One day class was canceled which gave us an hour to talk and get to know each other. The rest of the semester, he would talk to me DURING class when the teacher wasn't talking as well. The last day of class he asked me for my number and well, basically, started sending me a sh** load of texts (there's no better way to say it lol). The ENTIRE winter break he texted me every day and every night. I seriously don't think he missed one day or night of texting me...he said he wanted to do something twice, but really late at night when it was too late to do anything. I couldn't come up with anything to do, so we never wound up meeting up. He signed up with another class the following semester (this last semester) because I asked him to and I'm pretty sure he needed to take the class anyway. So, I basically just went through another entire semester with him. He would always come over and sit by me and talk to me every day. The teacher gave us assigned seating (don't ask why) so he couldn't sit by me, so on the days we were both there early, he would come over and talk to me. He would also walk me out every day and talk to me for about 10 min before we both had to go to our next classes... One morning, class was canceled so he asked me if I wanted to go get coffee...we went in his car, and he paid for mine when we got there. Towards the end of the semester, he invited me over to his house to drink and play video games (in his room, alone...) He ended up buying me my drink... Nothing happened (physically) or anything, but it was still rather...suggestive...if you know what I mean. At least it was to me... Here's the confusing part...I have openly told him (with strong encouragement from a friend, even though I didn't want to) that I like him like that (over text)...and he has openly told me that he doesn't like me like that. (over IM) Basically, what I'm getting from him is that he either A)wants to be REALLY good friends, B) he doesn't know what he wants or C) he really does like me because every thing he is doing is different than what any of my other guy friends do. I mean... I have never even talked to a guy this much that I have dated. Most guys I know just simply don't talk to me...ever. Anyway, the semester(s) are both over now, and he has backed off A LOT on talking to me. He doesn't text me anymore and he does still IM me, but not as much as usual. NOW I am starting to think "okay, maybe he doesn't like me" but I am still confused as to what happened over these past 2 semesters. Is he playing mind games? Is he not ready? Does he really not like me and is just super friendly? I am so confused...again, he has backed off drastically on talking to me...but he still does. More than any of my other guy friends. I mean, all the other guys I know basically ignore me. Which just makes this even harder, because I really don't have any other true guy friends but him. Anyway...told you this was long. I am just so confused right now. I feel like nobody has or will ever like me and that guys just like to play games.
callalilly Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 He may be gay and in denial. I had a guy friend like this when I was young, and he really tried hard to get himself to feel that way about me because he was very fond of me. In the end, he couldn't and years later I asked him point blank and he confirmed it.
Green Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Something is wrong with this guy. I mean seriously who pays this much attention to a girl then invites her back to his room... and then doesn't jump on her and rip her clothes off... hmmm either gay and in denial or stupid
Author WheatusDirtBag Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 I am gonna have to go with stupid, because I really don't think he is gay. :confused:I guess anything is possible, though. He also constantly talks about sexual stuff with me. But I *think* he does that with other girls he is friends with, too...I have no idea. I can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me insane. So much to the point where I don't want to even think about dating anyone else. I am too hurt by this situation. ::feels bad::
shadowplay Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I agree that there's something cracked about this guy. I don't think he's interested, just weird and fcked up. There's no point trying to understand somebody like that, because his behavior is so bizarre. I would ignore him from now on. I doubt he'll come around, and even if he ever did you wouldn't want to date somebody that screwy.
Author WheatusDirtBag Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 I feel so down and out of it. He doesn't text me anymore and the amount of times he IMs me online has drastically decreased.
seekandfind Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I would wager that this guy was mildly interested in you, but either wasn't physically attracted enough, or only liked you a little more than a normal friend. However he enjoyed your company and liked getting attention from you. But eventually he got bored of the situation, or met someone he likes more. The only other explanation could be that he was really shy and afraid of making an actual move on you. Does this seem like a possibility? At this point though, I would try not to think about him anymore. He really did have his chance, and has apparently moved on. There are a lot of other good guys out there. Work on making more guy friends, and hopefully you will meet someone new.
DreamerGirl27 Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Okay, well, now I am really confused. He has gone from backing off, to talking to me again on fb and he's never posted on my wall before, it's always been me posting on his wall and he usually just IMs me. Well, he posted something on my wall the other day...oy. He is confusing. I don't get how 2 single people hanging out in a room alone together is innocent at all. Granted, that was awhile ago. I still find it to be misleading on his part, though.
Author WheatusDirtBag Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Oops. sorry, don't wanna use that screen name anymore. Okay, well, now I am really confused. He has gone from backing off, to talking to me again on fb and he's never posted on my wall before, it's always been me posting on his wall and he usually just IMs me. Well, he posted something on my wall the other day...oy. He is confusing. I don't get how 2 single people hanging out in a room alone together is innocent at all. Granted, that was awhile ago. I still find it to be misleading on his part, though.
Author WheatusDirtBag Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 I think he was almost gonna ask me out last night. lol He was talking about some stuff he likes to do and about this one particular place here that has a lot of fun stuff to do, but he never actually asked me to go with him. Then he mentioned something he has going on next week that I think he wants me to go to...but then his status went to "away" on IM. lol and I was really exhausted last night so I couldn't wait very long for him to come back, so I got off and fell asleep! haha I am most certain I'll talk to him before then, so we'll see if he really wants me to go. I think he's just shy...like...really...really...shy. Or something... ::sigh:: He is muy confusing.
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