Els Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Neither the age nor gender matters. People should not have sex with anybody they have authority over and vice versa. It's a completely different issue. So who gets to decide what matters and what doesn't? Why do you get to say that 'age doesn't matter' but 'authority does'? Why does anyone else not have the right to think differently? The issue here is judging people based on who they have sex with.
Author Green Posted May 30, 2010 Author Posted May 30, 2010 Hi. I'm a 21 year old girl and my father is not 40 yet. So you think me dating a 40 yr old guy is cool? I think I just threw up in my mouth. Let's put it this way. When a 40 year old man was my age, I was only 1 year old. No thanks. And yes, it's nasty, and gross and a pedophile. Plus what in the world would an 18 yr old and a 40 yr old have in common? I can't believe someone would make such statements AND be serious! Jelous? No thanks, at 21 I think I still have morals and would like to stick to dating men my own age! Have a nice day and stop grossing people out. *throws up some more* :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick: So your dad was a teenager when you were born. I think its perfectly fine that you yourself don't want to date men of that age. I think you are very imature to bring morals and pedophiles into this discussion as a man who is your dads age dating some one your age (21) is not a pedophile or lacking in morals.
Ilovehim Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 So your dad was a teenager when you were born. I think its perfectly fine that you yourself don't want to date men of that age. I think you are very imature to bring morals and pedophiles into this discussion as a man who is your dads age dating some one your age (21) is not a pedophile or lacking in morals. I didn't mean to be offensive towards your opinion but as you can understand, my father is 39, about to be 40 and I find it disturbing to think of someone that age having sex with someone my age. Also I believe it is disrespectful to older women. Think about it. What could you possibly have in common mentally with an 18 year old who JUST graduated high school? If you had a daughter, you would understand.
somedude81 Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 It's all predatory behaviour whether they have the given power to coerce or just a talent at manipulation. Young girls are easy to manipulate and control. Really? Are you talking about girls 18-22? I've mostly been manipulated by girls in that age bracket. So who gets to decide what matters and what doesn't? Why do you get to say that 'age doesn't matter' but 'authority does'? Why does anyone else not have the right to think differently? The issue here is judging people based on who they have sex with. Do you really fail to see a difference between one dating somebody older than them and one dating somebody who has power over them?
MrNate Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Did I say I was staying out of this? Yamaha said it perfectly. Green and Cracker Jack, I am really really trying to understand your point of view . . . who is jealous of whom? When I was 19 (a million years ago) I CERTAINLY WAS NOT JEALOUS of a girl my age with an old guy. Ewwww! And now, I am not jealous of such relationships, I just cannot understand what a young girl sees in an old man. That's all it is . . . please explain who is jealous of whom??? Wait, did my popcorn post get deleted?? L.O.L.
threebyfate Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Really? Are you talking about girls 18-22? I've mostly been manipulated by girls in that age bracket.I have no idea how old you are but maybe you're in the same stage of life as your bracket category of 18 - 22. If you're a man in your 40's, this doesn't bode well for you.
Author Green Posted May 30, 2010 Author Posted May 30, 2010 I have no idea how old you are but maybe you're in the same stage of life as your bracket category of 18 - 22. If you're a man in your 40's, this doesn't bode well for you. why not... seriously, why do you care if a 40 year old man enjoys having sex with 18-22 year olds
threebyfate Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 why not... seriously, why do you care if a 40 year old man enjoys having sex with 18-22 year oldsPredatory and compensating behaviour. My question to you is why you care enough to post this thread. Since you posted this thread, I chose to respond to it.
Els Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Do you really fail to see a difference between one dating somebody older than them and one dating somebody who has power over them? I fail to see the difference between dating someone 30 years older than me and dating someone in authority, yes.
Author Green Posted May 30, 2010 Author Posted May 30, 2010 Predatory and compensating behaviour. My question to you is why you care enough to post this thread. Since you posted this thread, I chose to respond to it. because I know a lot of people friends and family who this type of thing has worked out for and its so silly that people have to extend there beliefs onto other people. I think its perfectly reasonable for a young women to want to date guys her own age... what I don't think is reasonable is all the women of all ages who seem to condemn this kind of thing
Cracker Jack Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Did I say I was staying out of this? Yamaha said it perfectly. Green and Cracker Jack, I am really really trying to understand your point of view . . . who is jealous of whom? When I was 19 (a million years ago) I CERTAINLY WAS NOT JEALOUS of a girl my age with an old guy. Ewwww! And now, I am not jealous of such relationships, I just cannot understand what a young girl sees in an old man. That's all it is . . . please explain who is jealous of whom??? I've often seen the jealousy emitted from younger men, not women. And really, it isn't even outlandish to conceive. If a younger guy hasn't had much success with women around his age, then see's some Grandpa Willis guy kissing and rubbing a hotty (Most likely around his age) in public, it isn't difficult to see some jealousy build-up from it; depending on the individual, of course. You must've just thought I was referring to women. I should've been more specific.
Els Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 because I know a lot of people friends and family who this type of thing has worked out for and its so silly that people have to extend there beliefs onto other people. I think its perfectly reasonable for a young women to want to date guys her own age... what I don't think is reasonable is all the women of all ages who seem to condemn this kind of thing I have also seen it work out between a woman and her boss/the boss of a relative of hers. Why condemn that then?
threebyfate Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 because I know a lot of people friends and family who this type of thing has worked out for and its so silly that people have to extend there beliefs onto other people. I think its perfectly reasonable for a young women to want to date guys her own age... what I don't think is reasonable is all the women of all ages who seem to condemn this kind of thingAs it stands, with this thread, you're extending your belief onto others. IRL, I don't approach people cold and state my opinion about this. Also, notice my first post about stage in life? If people are in the same stage in life, that's fine. But when I was single, I'll admit that this was a disqualifier for partners since I have major issues with predators.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 It is simply a case of society trying to emasculate men. I bet these same women think Madonna is sexually liberated because she is dating an 18 year old. I don't why the actions of consenting adults should be the concern of anybody but the people involved.
Zed Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Personaly I'm creeped out when I see a hot 20 year old dating a gross 20 year old... my point is many WOMEN atleast on this internet forum have hatred of men like yourself... there hatred does subseed a little if the guy is handsom or what ever but still... just think about it... plenty of hot twenty year old girls go out with real loser twenty year old guys who will go on to hit them/ make them feel like crap/ and impregnate them so hmmm why all the hatred of a 30 or 40 year old man who dates young women.... Jelousy and anger I've seen some very beautiful 40 year old women... but they look young... you know who else looks young... young women. The supposed resentment of mean spirited, sour older women is not about the supposed scarcity of older men who feel they have more options with younger women because their stock goes up and a woman’s goes down as they age or the age of the woman itself. As it stands culturally old men and young women is thousands of years old. I think that level of resentment is small compared to the scathing indictment of a woman’s physicality as less than and in fact corrosive to men who can’t pull off looking eternally young. From what I have observed is older/old men flaunting their relative success with younger women by bringing in qualifiers that they couldn’t imagine being with or touching an older women because of being assaulted by the sight of wrinkled, flabby, saggy, baggy flesh compared to the more “nubile” younger women. The exceptions are of course that the older woman doesn’t look old and is able to maintain the patina of youth due to good genes and/or thousands of dollars of cosmetic enhancements—then of course she is the exception and not the rule. Whereas the old saggy, baggy, flabby male counterparts are conveniently ignored and/or seen as anomalies because old, uglier women are so much more common.
Ilovehim Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 (edited) I've often seen the jealousy emitted from younger men, not women. And really, it isn't even outlandish to conceive. If a younger guy hasn't had much success with women around his age, then see's some Grandpa Willis guy kissing and rubbing a hotty (Most likely around his age) in public, it isn't difficult to see some jealousy build-up from it; depending on the individual, of course. You must've just thought I was referring to women. I should've been more specific. The word "jealous" makes me laugh. I'm a young girl and it makes me sick to my stomach the thought of old men with teenagers/ Why is that not a pedophile? Please explain this to me. An 18 year old with a 50 year old is definetely an AWESOME IDEA! Yay! Go you for having this mentality. *rolls eyes* Also why stop at 18 year olds? Why not sleep with 16's and 14's since kids now are so developed? I mean a 16 year old can be VERY mature as well. EW! EW! EW! EW! Edited May 30, 2010 by Ilovehim
Ilovehim Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 The supposed resentment of mean spirited, sour older women is not about the supposed scarcity of older men who feel they have more options with younger women because their stock goes up and a woman’s goes down as they age or the age of the woman itself. As it stands culturally old men and young women is thousands of years old. I think that level of resentment is small compared to the scathing indictment of a woman’s physicality as less than and in fact corrosive to men who can’t pull off looking eternally young. From what I have observed is older/old men flaunting their relative success with younger women by bringing in qualifiers that they couldn’t imagine being with or touching an older women because of being assaulted by the sight of wrinkled, flabby, saggy, baggy flesh compared to the more “nubile” younger women. The exceptions are of course that the older woman doesn’t look old and is able to maintain the patina of youth due to good genes and/or thousands of dollars of cosmetic enhancements—then of course she is the exception and not the rule. Whereas the old saggy, baggy, flabby male counterparts are conveniently ignored and/or seen as anomalies because old, uglier women are so much more common. What about old wrinkly balls and d**s that dont even get up without viagra?
Author Green Posted May 30, 2010 Author Posted May 30, 2010 What about old wrinkly balls and d**s that dont even get up without viagra? cmon girl whats the deal with the wrinkled balls comment. I'm curious how old in your imagination is the oldest you would date? Ok this topic is old.. Next !! So ur a woman?
Els Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 It is simply a case of society trying to emasculate men. I bet these same women think Madonna is sexually liberated because she is dating an 18 year old. I don't why the actions of consenting adults should be the concern of anybody but the people involved. Oh come ON. In that case it would be okay to sleep with a married man/woman, no? Oh, right, in this case, morals prevail I suppose? Well then, how about your best friend's newly-broken up ex? Or um, your 18-year-old cousin? Your best friend's single dad? Both are consenting adults and it shouldn't be the concern of anybody but the people involved, right?
Author Green Posted May 30, 2010 Author Posted May 30, 2010 Oh come ON. In that case it would be okay to sleep with a married man/woman, no? Oh, right, in this case, morals prevail I suppose? Well then, how about your best friend's newly-broken up ex? Or um, your 18-year-old cousin? Your best friend's single dad? Both are consenting adults and it shouldn't be the concern of anybody but the people involved, right? Women seem less enraged about married women sleeping around then an older man younger woman romance
Cracker Jack Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 The word "jealous" makes me laugh. I'm a young girl and it makes me sick to my stomach the thought of old men with teenagers/ Why is that not a pedophile? Please explain this to me. An 18 year old with a 50 year old is definetely an AWESOME IDEA! Yay! Go you for having this mentality. *rolls eyes* Also why stop at 18 year olds? Why not sleep with 16's and 14's since kids now are so developed? I mean a 16 year old can be VERY mature as well. EW! EW! EW! EW! It goes both ways, though. Older women often do the same, and, realistically, this is never looked down upon as much as it is when it comes to men. Why? I have no clue.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Sleeping with mw or mm is different. You are violating another person's relationship and even then I am changing my view on men sleeping with MW. It is easy sex and it is her choice to cheat. Two single consenting adults who affect nobody but themselves though should not be lectured on how to live their lives.
Els Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Women seem less enraged about married women sleeping around then an older man younger woman romance You must be talking to some screwed up women then. Both are disgusting.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 It goes both ways, though. Older women often do the same, and, realistically, this is never looked down upon as much as it is when it comes to men. Why? I have no clue. True. Is Madonna creepy as well or is it different when it comes to her?
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