aeren944 Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 So, I, like many of you, and suffering through a serious breakup. Today, I'm almost obsessed with how and when we'll get back together. She cheated on me, and left me for her new girlfriend. Her mom says it's probably just a phase... I find myself obsessing about how we're going to get back together. This is to myself, and to all you other LS'ers in pain... IT'S NOT OUR JOB TO SIT AROUND AND WAIT FOR THEM! It hurts tremendously to know it's over. I hurts so badly to think about them with someone else, or having fun without you. But, all of those are wasted thoughts. It's up to US to make our own lives better... without them, so we can meet someone that truly deserves our love, our devotion. What they're doing, who they're with... none of that means anything to us now. It doesn't affect our lives, or change the circumstances at all. It's over, and IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON!! I'm kinda just venting, but I needed to get that thought out... It's not up to me to wait for her, and make it "easy" to come back. She's the loser in this... not me, in the end.
HowCouldShe Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 (edited) Very encouraging words. I'm starting to realize that in my own situation as well. She left me 10 days after the birth of our child back in January and started dating a guy who she now says she's in "love" with only 2 months later. They've been dating for about 2 1/2 months now. The tough part of my situation is having to drop off our son every Sunday night to their apartment. It breaks my heart to know how easily she replaced me (especially since we just had a child in January) but i've come to terms w/ it (not totally...but getting there) and find myself not worrying so much about how THEIR lives are and concentrating more and more on my son and OUR life. Edited May 31, 2010 by HowCouldShe
Author aeren944 Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 That's awesome, HowCouldShe... I really hoping you continue along that path. There are days that are worse than others, but knowing that people like you are getting stronger as the time goes by... that helps me tremendously. Please, keep at it... hang in there. Please, for people like me, do yourself proud and live for the better you. It's an inspiration to me...
This Hurts Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 find myself not worrying so much about how THEIR lives are and concentrating more and more on my son and OUR life. I've realized time does this, and I love it. It's like the longer you go worrying and worrying about them, the more annoyed you get with it and it reaches a point where your mind automatically says, "Well, this isn't getting anywhere. Time to focus on something else." without your permission. It just does it on it's own, and then after a while you realize it and start seeing that maybe life DOES go on. And you start thinking about yourself more, and your life, and your future, and they slowly start fading away. This recovery process is a true journey, and a complete pain in the ass. But in it's own way, it's also beautiful.
Cantcope Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I've realized time does this, and I love it. It's like the longer you go worrying and worrying about them, the more annoyed you get with it and it reaches a point where your mind automatically says, "Well, this isn't getting anywhere. Time to focus on something else." without your permission. It just does it on it's own, and then after a while you realize it and start seeing that maybe life DOES go on. And you start thinking about yourself more, and your life, and your future, and they slowly start fading away. This recovery process is a true journey, and a complete pain in the ass. But in it's own way, it's also beautiful. Man, you better be right about this! lol I'm counting on it, and I don't like to be let down! lol
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