dressing up Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 So I quite often have random guys smile at me on the streets. I sometimes smile back (if I catch their smiles in time). But they are always stuck within the smile zone. Am I not giving off the right vibes, or are they just smiling at someone they think look good but not want anything more from, or are they just being friendly so don't plan to chat me up? How many of you guys smile at girls on the streets for all reasons but know the girl better?
Green Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 I don't think there is such a thing a s the "smile zone" maybe you are stuck in the twighlight zone
Morals Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 So I quite often have random guys smile at me on the streets. I sometimes smile back (if I catch their smiles in time). But they are always stuck within the smile zone. Am I not giving off the right vibes, or are they just smiling at someone they think look good but not want anything more from, or are they just being friendly so don't plan to chat me up? How many of you guys smile at girls on the streets for all reasons but know the girl better? I don't understand what you mean by "the smile zone". Are you referring to the fact that they smile back but never do anything more? I'm going to go off a hunch that that it is partly today's conditioning... What I mean is that it seems like most girls these days are too nice when it comes to relationships. They never say "I'm not interested in you" they just say "call me sometime" but then they never respond. Same thing goes for "smiling". Most guys think that a girl smiling at them is just the girl being "nice". Smiling shows no real interest, it's something people do in passing. If you are trying to get something more, smile and say hi. Simply saying hi, or saying anything will let the guy know there's at least a modicum of interest. Hope that is what you are referring to.
brainygirl Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 eye contact and smiling are generally considered good things.
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Maybe get off your dead ass and go talk to the guy instead of sitting there wondering why your lame games arent getting the reactions you want. Women piss me off how they think they are giving off such HUGE signs and the guy just has to realize you are intereested in him. I'll break it down for you women almost never are the chasers. So when they do want to try to get the attention of a guy, they feel like they are going way out on a limb making a big production, to get him to notice her. When in reality, your actions are subtle, almost to the point of barely noticeable.
Author dressing up Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 I don't understand what you mean by "the smile zone". Are you referring to the fact that they smile back but never do anything more? Yep, I was referring to that. I'm going to go off a hunch that that it is partly today's conditioning... What I mean is that it seems like most girls these days are too nice when it comes to relationships. They never say "I'm not interested in you" they just say "call me sometime" but then they never respond. Same thing goes for "smiling". Most guys think that a girl smiling at them is just the girl being "nice". Smiling shows no real interest, it's something people do in passing. If you are trying to get something more, smile and say hi. Simply saying hi, or saying anything will let the guy know there's at least a modicum of interest. The "hi" is a good idea. I never knew what to do because it usually happened when I was walking on the streets, so we could just brush past each other and I never knew what to do to make the smile "last."
Author dressing up Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Maybe get off your dead ass and go talk to the guy instead of sitting there wondering why your lame games arent getting the reactions you want. Women piss me off how they think they are giving off such HUGE signs and the guy just has to realize you are intereested in him. I'll break it down for you women almost never are the chasers. So when they do want to try to get the attention of a guy, they feel like they are going way out on a limb making a big production, to get him to notice her. When in reality, your actions are subtle, almost to the point of barely noticeable. I know that my actions, if any, are subtle. Sometimes I don't even realize they were smiling at me because I wasn't looking in their direction until too late! Anyway, I usually am walking on the streets when I catch them smiling. I don't know how I could stop and go up to talk to them.
Morals Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 I know that my actions, if any, are subtle. Sometimes I don't even realize they were smiling at me because I wasn't looking in their direction until too late! Anyway, I usually am walking on the streets when I catch them smiling. I don't know how I could stop and go up to talk to them. Well, I don't know how to help you with stopping them... I'm gonna come out and tell you, there really is no way. Unless you are traveling the same direction and happen to be at a crosswalk...then you have a chance at striking up a conversation while you wait for the crosswalk sign to let you cross. You could turn to him and ask him what time of day it is, the weather, anything to break the ice and let him know "Hey, I'm interested in talking to you!" The other alternative (if they are going in the opposite direction of you) is to say "hey, I'm looking for <insert place here> and I think it's around here...do you know where it is?" The best idea here is ask about a restaurant. That way if he does know where it is, you can say "Oh thanks!...Have you been there before? How is the food?" (You can see where this is leading...I hope you can at least! ). If he doesnt know, then say..."Would you like to join me for a drink/cup of coffee/lunch? You can help me find it!" That's my thoughts! DISCLAIMER: I'm going to say right now THIS ONLY WORKS IF YOU ARE A GIRL! Do not try this as a guy, guys who do this, unless you are REALLY REALLY handsome, do not try this. Girls will get really creeped out.
Author dressing up Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Well, I don't know how to help you with stopping them... I'm gonna come out and tell you, there really is no way. Unless you are traveling the same direction and happen to be at a crosswalk...then you have a chance at striking up a conversation while you wait for the crosswalk sign to let you cross. You could turn to him and ask him what time of day it is, the weather, anything to break the ice and let him know "Hey, I'm interested in talking to you!" The other alternative (if they are going in the opposite direction of you) is to say "hey, I'm looking for <insert place here> and I think it's around here...do you know where it is?" The best idea here is ask about a restaurant. That way if he does know where it is, you can say "Oh thanks!...Have you been there before? How is the food?" (You can see where this is leading...I hope you can at least! ). If he doesnt know, then say..."Would you like to join me for a drink/cup of coffee/lunch? You can help me find it!" That's my thoughts! DISCLAIMER: I'm going to say right now THIS ONLY WORKS IF YOU ARE A GIRL! Do not try this as a guy, guys who do this, unless you are REALLY REALLY handsome, do not try this. Girls will get really creeped out. Thanks. Usually we're walking in the opposite direction. The comments sound good though I may not be quick enough to come up with something. Their smiles usually catch me offguard. But why do guys just smile? Sometimes I think they're just being polite. Even if they have a girlfriend, it doesn't stop them from trying to make this world a nicer place by smiling. So I'm wary of reading too much into a smile even if I would like them to do more than just smile (not that I don't want to be the one to show some signs of interest).
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Even if they have a girlfriend, it doesn't stop them from trying to make this world a nicer place by smiling Are you that naive ? Guys are smiling at you because : - they are undressing you with their eyes - they are getting a mental picture of you to use later when they are alone - they want to get a smile back from you to boost their ego Many Many guys go through multiple ego checks on a daily basis. Guys rationalize in their head that lots of women want them. Why do you think guys wait 10 mins at a register line with a hot girl working at it, compared to a dude working the fast checkout line. They make small talk with the register girl for 30 seconds, then as they walk away, they tell themselves, yea she thinks im hot. I'm a guy so I know what guys do. I am not like this myself because I am ef'd up. But guys I know talk about this stupid crap on a daily basis.
Author dressing up Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Are you that naive ? Guys are smiling at you because : - they are undressing you with their eyes - they are getting a mental picture of you to use later when they are alone - they want to get a smile back from you to boost their ego Many Many guys go through multiple ego checks on a daily basis. Guys rationalize in their head that lots of women want them. Why do you think guys wait 10 mins at a register line with a hot girl working at it, compared to a dude working the fast checkout line. They make small talk with the register girl for 30 seconds, then as they walk away, they tell themselves, yea she thinks im hot. I'm a guy so I know what guys do. I am not like this myself because I am ef'd up. But guys I know talk about this stupid crap on a daily basis. So that means the smiles don't mean anything *nice* at all?
Serenitynow Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 Correct. Its a slim chance that guys that pass you on the street are thinking oh what a nice lady, let me smile at her to brighten her day. Always exceptions, but its better to be safe than sorry, never trust until its proven.
Author dressing up Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 Great. Now I shall growl at them so they can't keep a mental picture for use later.
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