jamal Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 (edited) I know that I have probably violated the #1 guy rule of not being an eager beaver but I really feel for this woman. I met a lady from out of town on line and got to see her that same evening. She was in town for just a week of apartment hunting since she is planning on moving to this side. I went to her hotel and picked her up for coffee and a short stroll. no physical contact whatsoever. At the end of the date she gave me a handshake and said it was a pleasure meeting me. Thought the lack of a hug meant she was not interested. Anyway, I was civil about the whole thing and promised to call her the following day. The following day I emailed (through the dating site) her early in the morning to tell her about how I enjoyed the date and how I found her so attractive. During the afternoon I checked the site and it showed that she had not opened my message yet. So I decided to call her up and what a coincidence. At that exact same time she was only 5 minutes away from my place in a cab going to see an apartment close to me. I offered to show her that part of the city in my car instead of her going around in a cab. She finally agreed after initially indicating that she did not want to impose on me and take up my time. She even remarked that she didnt think I was gonna call her. We spent the whole afternoon driving around. Around late afternoon we went back to my place and made love. We made some more love and I asked her to stay the night. She said she would love to. She slept over and the lovemaking was steamy. It wasnt just sex. We also watched movies and had great convo. We even took a shower together and went out to pick up something for dinner. We even cuddled in bed and she spent the whole night in my embrace. The following morning we showered together again and I offered to make her breakfast but all she wanted was a coffee. Took her to an apartment only 5 minutes away from my house and she signed the lease yada yada. I later on called her that afternoon just to check how she was doing. Over the next few days she was in town I called her about twice. After she had gone back I called her two more times. The issue is that she has not called me or emailed me. I am the only one initiating contact. Last spoke to her last weekend but decided that I will not contact her this weekend, since I do not wanna appear desperate. However, when we last spoke we talked for like 2 hours. Should I just forget about this and move on. I must admit that I did show her I had feelings for her and wanted this to be more than just a one night stand. Also, I am in my early 30s and she in her mid 40s. She told me she did not have an issue with that during our 2 hour convo but she is reluctant to say where we stand. Edited May 30, 2010 by jamal
Cracker Jack Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 No telling. She could be busy, but she also might be having second thoughts. It really is hard to tell with some women. But yeah, you should probably just try not to overthink things. If she feels strongly enough about you, she'll get back in contact with you. Until then, you probably should move on.
Author jamal Posted May 31, 2010 Author Posted May 31, 2010 Thanks Jack for your advice. Have not called her in like 9 days now. I have to admit that it is all killing me softly and the urge to pick up the phone is so strong. I thought women viewed sex differently from us guys. I have had one night stands where it is the women who were now bugging me. I could never fathom the reverse. What makes it so confusing is that we also spent lot of time talking and getting to know each other: as in she told me about her career, ethnic and family background e.t.c Guess if it is meant to be she will get in touch. Why cant women be more upfront about their feelings instead of sending these mixed signals. For a woman in her mid 40s she should at least be candid about her feelings.
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