VC10851 Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I am a 24 year old single male. I am currently in the process of buying a new home. The 30 year old female real estate agent that is assisting me with the process is very attractive. Anyway, as we are going over the large amount of forms I need to fill out for the home, I observe she is obviously flirting with me, saying things like, " It looks like you keep yourself fit, do you go to the gym a lot?" She also tells me she's a good cook and maybe she could cook for me some time. She also is looking me deep in my eyes and smiling at me if that makes any sense. She is really laying it on strong and it should be noted I'm not that good at noticing when a female is flirting with me. So I go home without asking her out. while I'm watching TV I grow some balls, call her at her job and ask her if she would like to go out some time. She replies, " Thank you, I'm flattered, but I have a boyfriend. I would go out with you in a second if I was single." That was basically the end of that conversation. On a side note, it was not like she was trying to sell me anything, I had already bought the house through a different agent. The way I took it was she was trying to see if she could get me to ask her out, so I could boost her ego. Then reject me, like it was some kind of game. So does anyone have any ideas. Thank you
BeautifulMan Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Tell her you'd like to hang out just as friends if that's cool. Girls are just friends you haven't screwed yet.
westrock Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I am currently in the process of buying a new home. The 30 year old female real estate agent that is assisting me with the process is very attractive. it was not like she was trying to sell me anything, I had already bought the house through a different agent. Those two sentences contradict each other.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 It happens to alot of us guys, like right when you about to close the deal. it's like oh i have a boyfriend, oh im married, oh im gay. god it drives me crazy too. lol.
Author VC10851 Posted May 29, 2010 Author Posted May 29, 2010 Those two sentences contradict each other. Sorry detective, I should have said a different agent was the one getting the commission on the deal. The girl helping me was assisting the other agent with forms.
LoveBites Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Attractive girls have a way of flirting without realizing it.
thisismystory Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I knew a girl like that. She knew she was attractive and took it to her advantage. She would flirt with guys so she could get things her way. In the end, they end up falling for her and she ends up denying them, haha. I think you somewhat answered your own question. She probably just wanted an ego booster. Or some people are naturally good at flirting and they don't realize it.
Krytie TV Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 My now wife flirted with me for a year before we went out... or so I thought. She had no idea I was perceiving it that way. However this woman seemed to be pretty intentional about it. Sometimes people just like to remind themselves that they are sexual creatures and engage in some harmless flirting. I would guess that's all this was. She wanted to know she still had "it".
Green Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Well first off this girl sounds like trouble because she did this with a bf... but then again you REALLY screwed up by not acting on it at the time this was all going on... There is a WINDOW OF OPORTUNITY with these things... some times that window only lasts minutes... you should have asked her out in person while this was all going down. like when she said the cook for you thing... you could have been like "how about you cook me something tonight" if she said no then "well atleast let me take you out and you'll cook for me some other time"... she might not even have a bf... maybe she felt rejected when you didn't ask her out there on the spot and decided to reject you... no longer thought you were smooth. The in person ask out it always the best... makes it harder for them to say no
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Some taken women just need outside male validation. Sounds like a typical AW to me.
rewe4reel Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 She doesn't want to "go out" with you because she has a bf for that. She does want to have a no strings attached sexual relationship. Call her back when the real estate stuff is wrapping up, ask her out for drinks, specifically tell her "this is not on a personal level, I know you have a bf, this is just a professional thank you for your assistance in helping out with the paperwork, you did a great job with that and I'd like to show my appreciation." If she bites then take her out for drinks, but have a plan as to how you get her back to your new place. Maybe get her back there by telling her you're having trouble deciding on how to decorate it and want to get her opinion. If she actually goes back to her place, then f*ck her, but make it clear you're not interested in pursuing a relationship with her.
MrNate Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Some taken women just need outside male validation. Sounds like a typical AW to me. I agree with this.
jenifer1972 Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 These people are 'teases' and they come in both sexes. They need validation from others besides their partners, and frankly I try to avoid narcissists like this like a bad rash.!
singlelife Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I agree with 4reel. A lot of women in my town have a bf but just want some side nookie. If you act like you want a gf she will move on. But if they know you don't tell they will pass you around to all their friends. You should always let it be known that you only want to be bed buds and in know time you will be laying these girls.
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