LoveBites Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Met this girl way out of my league and somehow we hit it off the first night. She soon changed her facebook default as a picture of both of us. We texted each other for hours for 2 straight weeks. We went on 3 movie dates and they went well... held hands,made out a little, and got a good night kiss from her after each date. A week ago, I texted her to have fun at this event she was going to. She sent a text "ok" back.... it was really weird because it usually would have been something like "thanks!! :)" Then after the event I asked her if she had fun and she replied "Yeah".... also really weird. The next day I asked if she wanted to hang out in a couple of days. She said yeah but was very unenthusiastic. The day of the date, she sent me a text saying she forgot about some thing she was gonna go to. We havent spoken since, and recently she changed her profile pic. I am pretty sure it is over, but I am confused to why. Is there such thing as over-text? I mean we texted so much that a lot of times we didnt have much to talk about so the text convos did get a little boring the last couple of days. How do I come about to ask her what went wrong? I don't want to look desperate or annoying or hurt.
F2boi Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Stop contacting her and start seeing someone else. Either this girl will wonder what went wrong and start chasing you, or she's already written you off completely.
Art_Critic Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 What went wrong is she was dating you and someone else.. or she was dating you but wanting to date someone else. The someone else is who tripped her trigger more.. You didn't so anything wrong.. sometimes things just don't work out.. One of the reasons dating is tough is that both people have to feel the same way about the other in order for it to work and it is hard to find that.. If you think it is over then just stop talking to her and don't ask her what went wrong.. you won't get the truth anyhow
skydiveaddict Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I'm sorry my friend, but I think you've been put in the friendzone
Confusedalways Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Mutual friends? Maybe someone told her something bad about you? It's weird to go from THAT hot to cold without anything...
Author LoveBites Posted May 29, 2010 Author Posted May 29, 2010 (edited) Mutual friends? Maybe someone told her something bad about you? It's weird to go from THAT hot to cold without anything... I know! The only mutual friend is my best friend Edited May 29, 2010 by LoveBites
Confusedalways Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I don't know. I'm a girl and I definitely feel you're owed some sort of explanation. "Friendzoned" after the way you guys were texting and such doesn't really make sense. There is DEFINITELY a reason. I'm trying to brainstorm - but I really think you're going to have to be direct in this case. If you don't want to be direct- any chance your friend might know what happened?
Author LoveBites Posted May 29, 2010 Author Posted May 29, 2010 I've thought about asking my friend to find out but doesnt that sound like a wimp... have to get your friend to find out info for you. I guess I will just ask her in a few days randomly
knaveman Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I had something similar happen to me a couple of years ago. Everything great for a while, then nothing. No explanation. It sucks when you have no closure and no idea what happened. My only suggestion is to move on. Sorry.
sagetalk Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Hot girls are some of the flakiest people on the planet. They have tons of options and they like using them. She probably changed her photo to you and her to make some guy that she has the hots for jealous. I've been used like that before and it sucks.
Green Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I will evaluate and tell you everything you did wrong... but first even if you hadn't done anything wrong some times things just don't work out... so don't beat yourself up just think of this as a learning experience Met this girl way out of my league and somehow we hit it off the first night. She soon changed her facebook default as a picture of both of us. We texted each other for hours for 2 straight weeks. We went on 3 movie dates and they went well... held hands,made out a little, and got a good night kiss from her after each date. It's a very bad mind set to think to yourself "Met this girl way out of my leage and somehow hit it off." You need to say to yourself "Met a beautiful girl and heck yes we hit it off." A week ago, I texted her to have fun at this event she was going to. She sent a text "ok" back.... it was really weird because it usually would have been something like "thanks!! :)" Then after the event I asked her if she had fun and she replied "Yeah".... also really weird. Never ask a girl if she was having fun. You'll be able to tell if she had fun. More importantly focus on your own fun because that is all you can control... and if you are fun then she has more of a chance of having fun. so, to repeat DON'T ASK GIRLS IF THEY HAD FUN...its a kiss of death question do you really expect them to be like NO I DIDN't... its a stroke your own ego question and it makes you seem lame The next day I asked if she wanted to hang out in a couple of days. She said yeah but was very unenthusiastic. The day of the date, she sent me a text saying she forgot about some thing she was gonna go to. Of course she sent you the txt saying she forgot about something. NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT IN FAR ADVANCE in the begining. When you have only been dating a girl a few weeks I think you are best off just assuming you will do something in a couple of days and asking the girl out THE DAY OF THE EVENT... like "lets get dinner tonight." at most you ask the day before. We havent spoken since, and recently she changed her profile pic. I am pretty sure it is over, but I am confused to why. Dude she was bound to change her profile pic even if you got married to her. Is there such thing as over-text? I mean we texted so much that a lot of times we didnt have much to talk about so the text convos did get a little boring the last couple of days. Yes there is. Just be yourself... treat her like any other person... Don't just txt or call to talk about the weather. How do I come about to ask her what went wrong? I don't want to look desperate or annoying or hurt. I wouldn't ask her what wen wrong. If you guys arn't exclusive I would just continue asking out other girls... and I would just ask her out as if nothing were wrong. Invite her back to your place... or go to her place and have sex with her is my sugestion.
Author LoveBites Posted May 29, 2010 Author Posted May 29, 2010 I will evaluate and tell you everything you did wrong... but first even if you hadn't done anything wrong some times things just don't work out... so don't beat yourself up just think of this as a learning experience It's a very bad mind set to think to yourself "Met this girl way out of my leage and somehow hit it off." You need to say to yourself "Met a beautiful girl and heck yes we hit it off." Never ask a girl if she was having fun. You'll be able to tell if she had fun. More importantly focus on your own fun because that is all you can control... and if you are fun then she has more of a chance of having fun. so, to repeat DON'T ASK GIRLS IF THEY HAD FUN...its a kiss of death question do you really expect them to be like NO I DIDN't... its a stroke your own ego question and it makes you seem lame Of course she sent you the txt saying she forgot about something. NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT IN FAR ADVANCE in the begining. When you have only been dating a girl a few weeks I think you are best off just assuming you will do something in a couple of days and asking the girl out THE DAY OF THE EVENT... like "lets get dinner tonight." at most you ask the day before. Dude she was bound to change her profile pic even if you got married to her. Yes there is. Just be yourself... treat her like any other person... Don't just txt or call to talk about the weather. I wouldn't ask her what wen wrong. If you guys arn't exclusive I would just continue asking out other girls... and I would just ask her out as if nothing were wrong. Invite her back to your place... or go to her place and have sex with her is my sugestion. Thanks for the breakdown. I have recently dated girls but they werent not nearly as attractive and as nice as this one.... probably why I am still thinking about it. You know when you see an average looking guy with a bombshell.... that was me for 2-3 weeks. I think part of my problem was I did over-text. I read that you should quit texting during the climax of the text message (say you gotta go do somethin) and this will make the girl interested and thinking about you. Lesson learned I guess.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 I read that you should quit texting during the climax of the text message (say you gotta go do somethin) and this will make the girl interested and thinking about you. Lesson learned I guess. Stop reading about dating. There is no manual on how to get a girl. Have your own life and do what you think is right. And for heavens sake - don't play these stupid games like "you've to quit texting during the climax" etc.
USMCHokie Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Never ask a girl if she was having fun. You'll be able to tell if she had fun. More importantly focus on your own fun because that is all you can control... and if you are fun then she has more of a chance of having fun. so, to repeat DON'T ASK GIRLS IF THEY HAD FUN...its a kiss of death question do you really expect them to be like NO I DIDN't... its a stroke your own ego question and it makes you seem lame Agree. You need to cool it with all the texting...in the early dating phases, the only reason you should ever call or text is to arrange the next date... Of course she sent you the txt saying she forgot about something. NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT IN FAR ADVANCE in the begining. When you have only been dating a girl a few weeks I think you are best off just assuming you will do something in a couple of days and asking the girl out THE DAY OF THE EVENT... like "lets get dinner tonight." at most you ask the day before. Disagree. But maybe I'm just a bit more considerate than this. The girl has her own life too and it's rather presumptous of you to assume that her life should revolve around yours. I'd go with 2 or 3 days notice...definitely not the day of... Dude she was bound to change her profile pic even if you got married to her. This is just weird...and yes, it screams revenge rebound... Yes there is. Just be yourself... treat her like any other person... Don't just txt or call to talk about the weather. Agree. Too much texting/calling at the beginning is lame.
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