BetterOffWithoutYou Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 it's been a little over a month since the ex left, and i am now seeing all the things that love had blinded me to. one of these things is how similar the ex was to the ex before! i can't believe how i didn't see the similarities while i was in the relationship one thing they both had in common was the alter ego... i am wondering if other women have dated this type of man before as well, or men do you have any friends like this? let me explain a little deeper. for example, my first ex and i were in a long relationship, almost 7 years. after about 3 years in, he reconnected with some old friends who were into rapping. he got really into this dream of becoming a rapper, and created an alter ego for it. the problem is he became this other person... the most narcissistic person i had ever met! he changed so much i eventually had to leave bc he was treating me so poorly and became emotionally abusive. when i had first met him he told me his grandmother told him he was heartless...i couldn't understand how she could say this until the alter ego showed his true colors. the current ex had a career but enjoyed break dancing as a hobby. he had an alter ego for his dancing as well. i got to know the REAL him, this was a side he never even showed to his friends or family. the times i saw him dance battle (i know this sounds ridiculous!) as his alter ego i didn't know him at all... it was a different person. he had told me his dance crew members had always told him he had no soul...again i couldn't understand this until he left. looking back there is truth in this and it is also obvious he liked being his alter ego more than himself. soooooo anyone else have similar experiences with exes or friends??? i am trying to find some support so i don't feel so alone in this. and believe me, i am never dating a man with an alter ego again!!!!!
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