lissab113 Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I dated a great guy for four months. He's 25 and I'm 29. We had a lot of fun together and I fell pretty hard for him. The first 3 months were amazing, but the last month we were both unhappy so he ended it. He still texts and emails me a lot and still wants to hang out, but I don't think he feels that he can devote time to the relationship. Here's the issue: I just found out that I'm pregnant. It's definitely his. I've been going back and forth between keeping it and not but I guess I don't think that I can go through with an abortion. I'm petrified of what his reaction is going to be, even though he's a great guy. I don't want to trap him or get back together just because of this. I'm just not sure how to tell him or what to ask for. I have an amazing support system of friends and family. He's kind of immature and I don't think he'll take this well. Any advice is appreciated.
sedgwick Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 You have to tell him right away. It's as much his responsibility as it is yours! He may not be happy about it, but that's too bad, you aren't either. If you make the choice to have sex, you take the chance of making a baby, and he knows that.
ADF Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 Don' tell him a thing until you decide what to do. If you decide to end your pregnancy--and if you think it will be tough having an abortion, compare that to the prospect on raising a child on your own--you can tell him or not tell him. The choice is yours, not his. If you decide to keep the baby, make sure he at least pays child support. If he wants to do more, be an involved father, wonderful. But don;t risk having your child go without just so as not to piss off the father. Best of luck.
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