Kang Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 You probably get a lot of this around here, sorry for making another one: I've known this girl I'm interested in for about a year but I only started hanging around her and her friends in the last few months. I get the feeling she likes me because she goes out of her way sometimes to hang out with me and always invites me to go for a smoke or something. And sometimes when I text her she sounds very happy to hang out. Yet when I'm with her - which is with her friends as well most of the time - its almost like I don't exist. I can usually spot attraction with body language but she isn't showing any signs other than the fact that I catch her looking at me sometimes. Is there a casual way I can get her alone and find out if she likes me without making it awkward? Or should I just take the initiative and tell her how I feel? She is a really good friend and I don't want to ruin it. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.
brainygirl Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 yes, call her and say "I have fun hanging out with you, how about you and I go (insert fun mutual interest thing here) next (insert time and date here)."
legallyblonde289 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 You probably get a lot of this around here, sorry for making another one: I've known this girl I'm interested in for about a year but I only started hanging around her and her friends in the last few months. I get the feeling she likes me because she goes out of her way sometimes to hang out with me and always invites me to go for a smoke or something. And sometimes when I text her she sounds very happy to hang out. Yet when I'm with her - which is with her friends as well most of the time - its almost like I don't exist. I can usually spot attraction with body language but she isn't showing any signs other than the fact that I catch her looking at me sometimes. Is there a casual way I can get her alone and find out if she likes me without making it awkward? Or should I just take the initiative and tell her how I feel? She is a really good friend and I don't want to ruin it. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance. can you explain this? this doesnt make sense to me, she's a really good friend but acts like you don't exist?
Green Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Dude telling a girl how you feel is never the answer... If you tell her "I like you" or sum lame thing like that ... well don't expect her to just be like "I like you too... please kiss me"... Look dude just assume she likes you, in fact assume any girl YOU LIKE ALSO LIKES YOU BACK. Then proceed to <A> Asking her out to do something like eat at a resteraunt or go see a movie with you or a concert or the beach... what ever you feel like really <B> this is the most important part some time durring the date.... at a minimum before you say goodbye... well you need to KISS HER ON THE LIPS. These things are much more likely to suceed and much more romantic then just telling her "I really like you" and expecting her to just confess it back
Author Kang Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 can you explain this? this doesnt make sense to me, she's a really good friend but acts like you don't exist? Yeah she picks me up when I'm down and stuff like that, what I meant by that comment was she doesn't try to make conversation between us when with friends, nor does she turn it down but its hard to chat her up when shes in the middle of some girl talk lol. I keep catching those looks and I'm starting to think she wants me to talk to her more. I think I'm overthinking things and should just do as brainy said. and @ Green when I say tell her my feelings its not gonna be some mushy confession, just asking a girl out will tell her how you feel lol. Thanks for the input.
Green Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 and @ Green when I say tell her my feelings its not gonna be some mushy confession, just asking a girl out will tell her how you feel lol. Thanks for the input. I'm guessing you are young like early twenties or less... No, just asking her out will not show her how you feel... you need to KISS THE GIRL
Author Kang Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 I'm guessing you are young like early twenties or less... No, just asking her out will not show her how you feel... you need to KISS THE GIRL Yeah but that comes after she accepts the date, unless you know.. you want to be that guy that kissed that girl and got slapped really hard for it lol
trueluV Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I think she's interested in you and waiting for you to initiate. I'm that kind of girl-though i like the guy, i would be shy or feel insecure (if the guy would pull back, or would reject me), and wait for the guy to make a move on me. it's very simple: ask her out. you guys are already friends. you can suggest something low-key, and see how it goes from there. good luck!
brainygirl Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Yeah but that comes after she accepts the date, unless you know.. you want to be that guy that kissed that girl and got slapped really hard for it lol Good kissing makes me melt for a man. Great kissing makes me wanna drag him into the bedroom. Trust me, seal the deal with a great kiss. Try this. You are on a date with her. Maybe in the car and say "I want to try something" then kiss her, not sloppily or aggressively. Then tell her it was nice.
Green Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Yeah but that comes after she accepts the date, unless you know.. you want to be that guy that kissed that girl and got slapped really hard for it lol Getting slapped by a girl is really funny, Yes of course ask her out.... and then be sure to kiss her once you have her at dinner or bowling or what ever. Like I said just assume any girl you like also likes you back. Its the best way really
Author Kang Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 Well I'll see how it goes on Monday, thanks for the advice.
crimsonmike Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I'm going with Green. Kiss her. If she smiles, you're in. If she slaps you, you have a hilarious story to tell your buddies. Win, win situation.
Green Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I'm going with Green. Kiss her. If she smiles, you're in. If she slaps you, you have a hilarious story to tell your buddies. Win, win situation. He still might be in even if she slaps him
ADF Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Tell her what you're thinking, and do it sooner rather than later. Keep in mind that most unattached women are being sought after by several men at any given time. If you linger too long, you'll lose your chance. Yoo'll end up being pushed aside by some other guy who is more aggressive.
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