Letting Go of Anger

[lsb]

How does one let go of the anger towards their ex? I seriously hate him and everything he stands for. How he keeps this girl around just for kicks.

 

I feel like saying something. I feel like telling him off.

[lsb]

I'm scared it's never going to fade and that I am always going to want to "punish" him.

[Cantcope]

It will fade. Has to right? I believe that anger is just one of the many emotions that we feel during this crappy time.

 

I'm going to take a kick boxing class to try to channel some of my anger. It's hard to get a grip on it sometimes!

[JoboF4i]

Trust me, it will fade. Probobly right now even thinking about your ex in any way will put you into a semi-pissed off mood. But you'll eventually become tired of being angry and just wont care anymore. And then youll be pissed that you wasted so much time and energy thinking/being angry about it. All it takes is time....

[reservoirdog1]

Firstly, definitely do the kickboxing thing. I did that for about six months, a year and a bit post-split from XW, and it helped channel the anger.

 

It didn't make it go away, though. What did that was time, pure and simple. It wasn't anything I specifically did that made it happen -- it just DID. It took about two and a half years. It was actually kind of strange, but it happened quite suddenly. She and I had just been having one of our worst post-breakup periods of tension (we have two kids, hence the continued contact). And fairly suddenly, the anger just... ended. That was four years ago, and things between her and me are good, and we co-parent well.

 

Also remember that your recovery from the end of the relationship won't happen on a straight upward line. There will be lots of ups and downs but the general trend will be positive. Don't get discouraged if you experience "relapses".

[Ilovecake]

Heh I just strated a thread about hating the ex. I have no idea how to get over it.