fbislife Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 This really sucks. I get to see my girlfriend like once a week twice if I'm lucky. And today I asked her to go to my formal and she says she can't. Not because she doesn't want too but because we go to different schools and her parents wouldn't aprove of me because of my race. I don't think there really racist I just think they want her to date a arab person plus there strict catholics and I don't go to church. This really sucks because I don't want to go to the formal by myself its not like a regular dance. And I think she should just let me meet her parents because I'm a pretty likeable person. She says its just gonna cause trouble but I think if she told them I would be able to see her more even if it was under there supervision. What should I do?
ADF Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 If this woman's parents don't want her to date you because you are an Arab, then they are racist by definition. They sound like they may be religious bigots as well. Unfortunately, the one who has to step up here is her, not you. Unless she is willing to stand up to her parents, there's not much you can do.
marsle85 Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 This comes down to her, not you. If she's uncomfortable with you meeting her parents, you have to respect it. Because, in the end- she lives with them, not you...and once you leave, she deals with the repercussions.
summerl0vesyou Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 my brother has been dating a girl for 10 mths and her parents dont know...unfortunately if she says no, you either just have to do it her way or breakup. thats all there is to it...hopefully she can tell at some point though...
jthorne Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 (edited) Then you're temporary.I'm sorry, OP, but I have to agree. If she wants to hide you because of your race, then she doesn't likely foresee a future with you. OTOH- what keeps you from taking someone else to the formal? If she's not that serious about you, why do you have to be that serious about her? Is she going to skip her formal dance, or is she taking someone else? Edited May 28, 2010 by jthorne
marsle85 Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I'm sorry, OP, but I have to agree. If she wants to hide you because of your race, then she doesn't likely foresee a future with you. Guys, they're in highschool. OP, the girl could be head over heels for you and just scared to tell her parents. This is completely normal, and I don't think it's a hugely substantial indicator to how she feels about you at this age.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Guys, they're in highschool. OP, the girl could be head over heels for you and just scared to tell her parents. This is completely normal, and I don't think it's a hugely substantial indicator to how she feels about you at this age. yeah i agree with this. you also have to consider she might be worried that if she tells her parents, they might forbid her from seeing you, which would make it harder for you guys to have a relationship.
Krytie TV Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Guys, they're in highschool. OP, the girl could be head over heels for you and just scared to tell her parents. This is completely normal, and I don't think it's a hugely substantial indicator to how she feels about you at this age. Wrong. He's temporary.
marsle85 Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Wrong. He's temporary. How can I defend myself against all of that evidence?
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