crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 New user. Ok, I met up with a girl I met online this past weekend and things went great. Really great. She was into me big time, or I thought. We spent the whole day Saturday together. She actually told me that it was the best first date she had ever been on. Things went so well, I asked her what she was doing for memorial day. She said she had to work memorial day. I said, "Oh, well nevermind. I'm going to the beach, but if you have to work, I guess you can't go." She then volunteers that she can just come down and go back Sunday if that's ok. I say sure. She even made the comment that she didn't want me seeing anybody else. AFTER ONE DATE. Now, normally I'd be a little put off by this, but I've never hit it off with anyone this well. To end the night, we made out a while and she went home. Ok. Now it's Wed. She won't half return my texts or phone calls. I'm getting annoyed and am really tempted to just say the heck with it. Am I missing something? If I back off her and she starts calling me, I'm gonna be real pissed because I'm so sick of that game and I told her so to start with.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 this is CLASSIC. I hate it too man, I cant stand when women do this. Move on man, if you keep calling and texting you will push her away, if she likes you then she should make an effort to contact you. Go see other women and move on. If you dont like games don't play them and leave the players behind.
Author crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Dude, I can't FIND a woman who doesn't play this game! The last chic I dated started that crap. I assumed she was losing interest so I broke it off. She actually started crying! WTH women! Don't do this BS!
Ihavenoidea Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Tell me about it. I cam out of a LTR a few months ago and it seems all the women I ask out do this. Things have definetly changed.
jadepeony Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Either she's really sick (which I highly doubt), or she hit it off with someone else she found over the internet. I'm a girl, and honestly, I don't know what the heck she's doing either. If she was interested in you, she would've texted you back or something too.
USMCHokie Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Ok. Now it's Wed. She won't half return my texts or phone calls. I'm getting annoyed and am really tempted to just say the heck with it. Am I missing something? If I back off her and she starts calling me, I'm gonna be real pissed because I'm so sick of that game and I told her so to start with. Ummm, hate to be blunt (actually, I love to be blunt), but you've already made plans with her for this coming weekend...so what the hell do you have to call or text her about...? It's not a game at all, as much as you want to think it is...it's called "live your own life"...you've only been out with this girl once, and you're already expecting you two to be attached at the hip via phone...? In my opinion, in the early stages of dating, you should really only be calling or texting to set up the next date...since you already set up the beach date, the only reason to call might be late this week to confirm and set up the details...
deux ex machina Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 This could be an issue of different expectations. Maybe relaxing a little on the contact would be a good idea right now. She's going out with you again, and that's good!
Author crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Ummm, hate to be blunt (actually, I love to be blunt), but you've already made plans with her for this coming weekend...so what the hell do you have to call or text her about...? It's not a game at all, as much as you want to think it is...it's called "live your own life"...you've only been out with this girl once, and you're already expecting you two to be attached at the hip via phone...? In my opinion, in the early stages of dating, you should really only be calling or texting to set up the next date...since you already set up the beach date, the only reason to call might be late this week to confirm and set up the details... I'd like to think that, but before Sat., she wanted me to call her everyday. Being I'm going down tomorrow, if I don't hear today, I'm just gonna move on.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I agree with USMC that you need to live your own life. You guys have plans so not much else really needed this early. Communication should be mutual however. Personally I feel with how easy it is to communicate a woman should have no problem taking 5s seconds out of her day to say whats up after a couple days.
malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Ummm, hate to be blunt (actually, I love to be blunt), but you've already made plans with her for this coming weekend...so what the hell do you have to call or text her about...? It's not a game at all, as much as you want to think it is...it's called "live your own life"...you've only been out with this girl once, and you're already expecting you two to be attached at the hip via phone...? In my opinion, in the early stages of dating, you should really only be calling or texting to set up the next date...since you already set up the beach date, the only reason to call might be late this week to confirm and set up the details... I agree, it's better to keep things very casual at first. A text once in a while to say hi and set up a date works fine. I don't want someone texting me twenty four seven. On this particular case, they set a pattern of daily phone contact so the expectations are there. I say you two are moving too quickly and she decided to back off a little. Wait until your date. Good Luck!
malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I agree with USMC that you need to live your own life. You guys have plans so not much else really needed this early. Communication should be mutual however. Personally I feel with how easy it is to communicate a woman should have no problem taking 5s seconds out of her day to say whats up after a couple days. Of course communication should be mutual, the problem starts when one person, either the man or the woman are always initiating.
Author crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Ok. I think I'm gonna go with you all on this. I'll just back up too. Things just kinda started off in hyperspeed, so I got a little confused. I'm probably reading in a little too much. Thanks, all.
phineas Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 After a date, I call a chick once (do not text) & if she don't pick up I leave a message asking her to give me a call back. If she doesn't return my call I move on. I refuse to waste my time chasing after a woman. Not when there are plenty of women out there who actually return my calls.
Author crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 After a date, I call a chick once (do not text) & if she don't pick up I leave a message asking her to give me a call back. If she doesn't return my call I move on. I refuse to waste my time chasing after a woman. Not when there are plenty of women out there who actually return my calls. That is generally my exact practice. To the "T" actually. In this case, it went so well, I hate to write her off so easily. Today will tell the tale.
Vasto_Lorde Posted May 31, 2010 Posted May 31, 2010 That is generally my exact practice. To the "T" actually. In this case, it went so well, I hate to write her off so easily. Today will tell the tale. Hope it works out well for you. I have a two mail rule that I follow. If after I send two emails or text messages and get no response, I move on.
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