audiojunky Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Ok, this is somewhat of a follow up discussion with a different twist. The original discussion was here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t231902/ The original discussion I posted in this forum in a nutshell goes like this: Potential girl didn't tell me till after we fooled around about having genital HSV-1. I went down and used my hands (the extent of it) and two days later she broke this news to me because she was worried I would freak out. I freaked out just a bit, but was more upset over the late disclosure. A few days later she gave me some info from her nurse apparently saying that even though I had tested negatively for HSV2 (because I had an ex gf who had it) that I could still be a carrier. I went to my doctor who told me then that the herpes 2 type specific test is a yes or no deal... if you have it you are positive and there is no "hidden carrier" issue. Anyways, I decided to get re-tested for both. My HSV1 test came back positive, but my HSV2 test was negative. Since I have never had any symptoms of HSV1, the doctor said that the positive test means previous exposure but not active. I also asked the doctor if it is still possible that someone with HSV1 who has had an outbreak in the down below area could pass it to someone who has it but has never had an outbreak below.. and she said yes. So anyways, I guess I could still potentially be at risk for contracting it down below if I decided to move forward with this girl, but at the same time I'm still feeling a little annoyed that she didn't break the news before we became physically involved. This has caused me to take a step back and really assess whether or not I want to be involved with her. Any thoughts?
Pleco Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I just posted on your other thread. You can ignore my question, it was answered here. Sorry for the misunderstanding. The only way she would likely pass HSV1 onto your genitals is if she has it orally and goes down on you. Type one is very unlikely to spread from vaginal sex. So it's not sex that's dangerous for you, it's her going down on you IF she has it orally as well as in her genitals. Just FYI It was a mistake on her part to refrain from telling you until after she had potentially exposed you. But in her defense, many people don't view oral sex as very dangerous. She made a mistake for sure, but it doesn't mean she's a bad person. How long has she had the virus? Has she told anyone before? If it is a new infection and you are the first person she's had to tell, it was probably extremely difficult for her to say. Her reaction to this situation will be the most telling: does she realize she made a mistake or is she treating it like it's not a big deal? Is she on any antivirals? This would make her much less contagious. I think you are more worried right now about what this situation says about her morals than anything else. This could either be a one time thing where she really wasn't thinking and truly regrets it, or this could be her personality. How well do you know her?
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