Aokay Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Okay so i just need some outside opinions on my current situation due to the fact that i can't make any sense of it. So me and my ex-gf were together for over a year and we just recently broke up. She was an amazing gf in the beginning (aren't they all?). But I saw signs of jealousy in the beginning that was cute at the time due me thinking it wouldn't develop into anything more than that. So i guess at the 6 to 8 month point of our relationship, her jealousy skyrocketed and she became very insecure of my past relationships to the point where we would argue everyday. I was basically her first everything and she felt as if she didn't mean as much to me as my past relations. So after about 3 to 4 months of arguing about my past, she started drifting apart from our relationship as it took a toll on her mental state. She stopped caring about my past which led to her to stop caring about me. We finally called it quits two weeks ago and I'm coming to terms with the fact that maybe she was too unstable mentally to be with even though i would have done anything and more to be with her. So tonight she tells me the reasoning for her jealousy is that she was so fascinated with love that she tricked herself into loving me. Now that's where I don't understand this situation. How can jealousy derive from love? especially to the extreme? and when i say extreme, i mean it was really bad how jealous she got. She tells me that she'll never be crazy like she was with me to anyone else and she had no idea she could ever even be that way. But can someone be jealous from tricking yourself that you were in love? and if so, can one just easily trick them-self that they were never in love/loving that person to begin with? I just don't understand how the jealousy was that extreme and a simple explanation is that of "hey, i tricked myself into being in love with you and that's why i was insane". Wouldn't it be more logical is that you were insane because of how in love you were? i just don't get it.
northstar1 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 She sounds immature and confused and she's trying to rationalize her behavior and place blame on you. Unless you gave her reason to be jealous (talking to ex's etc), then her actions were irrational and you likely are better off in the long run with this breakup. Sounds like she has to deal with her insecurities and self esteem issues before she is ready to be in a relationship.
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