malala7 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 If you have read my previous thread then you have an idea of my story. I have been talking to a guy for a few weeks now, 6 dates total. Last time we went out was Saturday night. He joined me and my 2 girlfriends in a night of adventures in the city. Prior to this day, things were going very weel. We communicated often enoug, every other day or so and went out of awesome dates, kissed and nothing more. Saturday was a very different experience. He suggested a karaoke place and I loved the atmosphere, it was loud and fun. Perfect for a night out with friends. He treated me nicely, was very affectionate, paid for me and brougt buggle gum (since the last time we were together I was blowing bubblegum bubbles like a 15 year old) so yeah, the evening was going great. We all had a little bit to much to drink and moved to another venue. He made sure we got a cab and was nice to my friends. After dancing for a few hours or so, we were pretty drunk and ready to go home. The rest of the night is a blur but I do kno that we took a taxi to his house and then he drove me and my 2 friends home. The next day I texted him saying 'Thank you for last night. I hope we were not too much trouble'. He responded: 'No problem, I had fun ' I said I was glad and he texted he was going to the gym. That was the last I heard of him and that was Sunday afternoon. He usually texts every other day, or sometimes I send him a message, but this time around I think is his turn to contact me. I am getting frustrated, at first it was fine not to hear from him everyday, but now I wonder if I should move on or wait for him to get back to me'. Any advice? Do you think he didn't enjoy Saturday but didn't want to tell me that?
Ihavenoidea Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I hate this part of dating. Hes probably sitting on the the other end waiting for you to text him. Thinking that you are losing interest. I say keep communicating unless he stops all together. Or make plans for something.
Author malala7 Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 I hate this part of dating. Hes probably sitting on the the other end waiting for you to text him. Thinking that you are losing interest. I say keep communicating unless he stops all together. Or make plans for something. Do you think he is just waiting for me to contact him? I'm going to give it another day, if not I'll text him. If he answers fine if not fine.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 He might be its hard to say. I usually give a woman a day or two at the most and if they dont contact me assume they have lost interest. Communication levels should be mutual. Try talking to him this evening and if nothing then move on.
jadepeony Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 ^I agree with the above poster that communication levels should be mutual. If this guy is really interested in you, he'd be contacting you everyday because you'd be on his mind everyday. There are two scenarios that I can imagine for the information you've provided: 1. It seems like he's only slightly interested in you, and during the times he's not seeing you, he's probably hanging out with other girls. 2. He is really interested in you, but is waiting for you to give him a sign that you're interested in him too. Sometimes guys need a little encouragement because they're afraid of rejection too. How many dates have you spent with him 1 on 1? If you feel that you guys have been on a good number of dates (and i don't mean the ones with friends), but haven't really been progressing towards anything, it probably means there's isn't any chemistry. Nothing's gonna happen if there isn't a connection.
Author malala7 Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 ^I agree with the above poster that communication levels should be mutual. If this guy is really interested in you, he'd be contacting you everyday because you'd be on his mind everyday. There are two scenarios that I can imagine for the information you've provided: 1. It seems like he's only slightly interested in you, and during the times he's not seeing you, he's probably hanging out with other girls. 2. He is really interested in you, but is waiting for you to give him a sign that you're interested in him too. Sometimes guys need a little encouragement because they're afraid of rejection too. How many dates have you spent with him 1 on 1? If you feel that you guys have been on a good number of dates (and i don't mean the ones with friends), but haven't really been progressing towards anything, it probably means there's isn't any chemistry. Nothing's gonna happen if there isn't a connection. That was our first time going out with other people. We have been in 5 dates alone and have had such a great time but not much communication in between dates. I assume he is seeing other girls which is totally OK with me because we are just getting to know each other, but I like him and would like to continue things the way they are. I thought things were getting better but perhaps I was mistaken. I don't want to continue texting him because I was the last one to text on Sunday. what do you think?
alphamale Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Do you think he didn't enjoy Saturday but didn't want to tell me that? i think going out with three hens may have overwhelmed him. next time keep it one on one
Author malala7 Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 i think going out with three hens may have overwhelmed him. next time keep it one on one Yes, I feel bad for him because we were a handful. However, he wanted to come so I guess he got what he wanted. LOL. Hopefully the is a next time
xpaperxcutx Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I would contact him just to say hi. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there a little to get results. If he doesn't reply, then I wouldn't bother. I had this happen to me once, but I hadn't been too bothered by it. I was dating a guy and I told him we would be better off as friends. I knew he had dating other girls besides me and he told me he was okay with with the friendship. But he ended up as a sourpuss when he didn't reply to my texts. So I just wrote him. You can't place someone on a pedestal, especially those who are still on the prowl. If you extend the courtesy and they repay you in kind, it's better to associate yourself with them.
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 well, I sent the text. I'll update you. Thank you all for your advice
jadepeony Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 That was our first time going out with other people. We have been in 5 dates alone and have had such a great time but not much communication in between dates. I assume he is seeing other girls which is totally OK with me because we are just getting to know each other, but I like him and would like to continue things the way they are. I thought things were getting better but perhaps I was mistaken. I don't want to continue texting him because I was the last one to text on Sunday. what do you think? Either give him a text or wait patiently for him to contact you (if you see it worthwhile), but you have to understand that even if you want to continue dating as you are, something has to happen eventually. That could mean progressing towards an exclusive relationship with him, or having to stop seeing him altogether once he finds someone he wants to see exclusively. If you feel that you always have to make an effort to see him, then stop contacting him, or just decide that you only want to be friends.
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 the guy is fat hahaha! Is whatever. It was good and it was fun
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 he replied. We are getting together when he comes back from the long weekend. Thanks again loveshackers
Ichi-boned Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 If you have read my previous thread then you have an idea of my story. I have been talking to a guy for a few weeks now, 6 dates total. Last time we went out was Saturday night. He joined me and my 2 girlfriends in a night of adventures in the city. Prior to this day, things were going very weel. We communicated often enoug, every other day or so and went out of awesome dates, kissed and nothing more. Saturday was a very different experience. He suggested a karaoke place and I loved the atmosphere, it was loud and fun. Perfect for a night out with friends. He treated me nicely, was very affectionate, paid for me and brougt buggle gum (since the last time we were together I was blowing bubblegum bubbles like a 15 year old) so yeah, the evening was going great. We all had a little bit to much to drink and moved to another venue. He made sure we got a cab and was nice to my friends. After dancing for a few hours or so, we were pretty drunk and ready to go home. The rest of the night is a blur but I do kno that we took a taxi to his house and then he drove me and my 2 friends home. The next day I texted him saying 'Thank you for last night. I hope we were not too much trouble'. He responded: 'No problem, I had fun ' I said I was glad and he texted he was going to the gym. That was the last I heard of him and that was Sunday afternoon. He usually texts every other day, or sometimes I send him a message, but this time around I think is his turn to contact me. I am getting frustrated, at first it was fine not to hear from him everyday, but now I wonder if I should move on or wait for him to get back to me'. Any advice? Do you think he didn't enjoy Saturday but didn't want to tell me that? Why the hell did you bring your friends with? What a dumb idea.
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Why the hell did you bring your friends with? What a dumb idea. I know it wasn't the best of ideas. The original plan was that me and my friends were going to go to an 80s party he suggested I should go to. We couldn't find tickets and I asked him if he still wanted to hang out. He picked the place and asked me if I was coming with my friends or alone. I said either way and he told me to bring them. He was probably being nice. Too late now
TheLoneSock Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 He's getting bored with you, and probably feels the whole thing is becoming stagnant. You said you've been on over 6 dates now and there's been nothing more than kissing? Hmm.....
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 He's getting bored with you, and probably feels the whole thing is becoming stagnant. You said you've been on over 6 dates now and there's been nothing more than kissing? Hmm..... He might. Why do you come to that conclusion? Was it the lack of communication or the lack of sex? I am not going to have sex with him so that things can flow. I'll do it when I feel is right and 6 dates is way too early for me. I'm more traditional and he figured that out quick enough.
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 He's getting bored with you, and probably feels the whole thing is becoming stagnant. You said you've been on over 6 dates now and there's been nothing more than kissing? Hmm..... I was going to say that and was surprised that no one had mentioned it until you. 5 dates and no sex yet, or even a heavy makeout session...he's probably getting frustrated and wondering when/if it's ever going to happen.
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 I was going to say that and was surprised that no one had mentioned it until you. 5 dates and no sex yet, or even a heavy makeout session...he's probably getting frustrated and wondering when/if it's ever going to happen. Hmm, Last night he texted 'Good night girl who makes out behind courtains' And I replied Haha, funny way to remember me. I don't know if I should laugh about that' He replied 'U should'. So yeah, I guess we have made out. Depending on your definition of making out. To me is more passionate kissing and something more, perhaps grabbing something her and there.
crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Hmm, Last night he texted 'Good night girl who makes out behind courtains' And I replied Haha, funny way to remember me. I don't know if I should laugh about that' He replied 'U should'. So yeah, I guess we have made out. Depending on your definition of making out. To me is more passionate kissing and something more, perhaps grabbing something her and there. If he's still wanting to go out with you after six dates with no sex, he's interested in you for sure. I'd be getting bored, myself.
Author malala7 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 If he's still wanting to go out with you after six dates with no sex, he's interested in you for sure. I'd be getting bored, myself. I don't know? What do you suggest? Taking him to the bathroom or the back of his car? Wtf? He hasn't tried anything and I'm perfectly content with that!
crimsonmike Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I don't know? What do you suggest? Taking him to the bathroom or the back of his car? Wtf? He hasn't tried anything and I'm perfectly content with that! GD! Nothing! Don't be so sensitive. I just said he is OBVIOUSLY into you if he's still pursuing you! I suggest be HAPPY. I don't see a problem.
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