juniperjo Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 My brother who is 32 is dating a 19 year old girl and he says he is in love with her and would marry her in a heartbeat, and I am quite disturbed considering I am the baby of the family at 20. I just think he has such low self esteem that he went for whoever available and this girl needing a place to stay shacked up with my brother within the first month...what is he thinking? She will change in the next few years and he will be heartbroken when she leaves him for a hot young stud!
Author juniperjo Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Jealous much? I am not jealous I am embarrassed and ashamed that he went after a teen girl thank you! She was 18 at the time. He is my big brother but, his actions make me disgusted!
Lakeside_runner Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Well, so far all we've heard about is that her biggest flaw is her age. Does she act immature? If she were 25 or even 30 and behave the same way as she does now - would you accept her?
witabix Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I am not jealous I am embarrassed and ashamed that he went after a teen girl thank you! She was 18 at the time. He is my big brother but, his actions make me disgusted! All of this is in your own mind.She is 19 he is 32? 13 years difference? That won't seem much in a few years. There is a piece of 'thinking' that goes... Minimum age = half your age + seven. Or 23 in the case of a 32 year old. What are you embarrassed about/ashamed off. Their R is none of your business anyway, he is your big bro, be happy he is happy!
Author juniperjo Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Well, so far all we've heard about is that her biggest flaw is her age. Does she act immature? If she were 25 or even 30 and behave the same way as she does now - would you accept her? Yeah she is immature she doesnt even have a car or job. She has about 100 guy friends in her phone that she texts constantly. They have nothing in common. I think my brother is siick for not dating someone his own age! She is using him for a place to live and a ride in my opinion. My brother isnt rich but I think the girl needs to date men her own age! Really statistics say getting married that young chances are your gonna grow and change and end up divorced!
make me believe Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I think a man in his 30s dating a teenager is creepy. Sorry. She is just beginning college and he is probably well established in a career. They are at totally different stages in their lives! They are probably both insecure (since you said your brother seems to be) and using each other for the validation. He gets a hot piece of arm candy that he can likely manipulate as he wants to, and she gets an established older guy who's probably throwing money at her to get her to stay. But, ya know....if it works for them...
Author juniperjo Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Well, so far all we've heard about is that her biggest flaw is her age. Does she act immature? If she were 25 or even 30 and behave the same way as she does now - would you accept her? yes if she was 25 or 30 and expierienced life sure it wouldnt be a problem, but since he has already done the partying and having fun stage she is gonna do it and ruin or break his heart when she realizes how boring he is. Shes a teenager she should go to college and work not shack up with any guy willing.
Author juniperjo Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 I think a man in his 30s dating a teenager is creepy. Sorry. She is just beginning college and he is probably well established in a career. They are at totally different stages in their lives! They are probably both insecure (since you said your brother seems to be) and using each other for the validation. He gets a hot piece of arm candy that he can likely manipulate as he wants to, and she gets an established older guy who's probably throwing money at her to get her to stay. But, ya know....if it works for them... thank you it is creepy...this girl has family issues and was kicked out of her parents home so its obvious he is being used. I want him to be happy but he looks like a phedophile in alot of eyes!
FitChick Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Tell your brother to make sure he uses a condom, has a vasectomy if he never wants kids or makes sure SHE uses birth control if you don't want things to get even worse.
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 My brother who is 32 is dating a 19 year old girl and he says he is in love with her and would marry her in a heartbeat, and I am quite disturbed considering I am the baby of the family at 20. I just think he has such low self esteem that he went for whoever available and this girl needing a place to stay shacked up with my brother within the first month...what is he thinking? She will change in the next few years and he will be heartbroken when she leaves him for a hot young stud! Jealous much? My first thoughts also I am not jealous I am embarrassed and ashamed that he went after a teen girl thank you! She was 18 at the time. He is my big brother but, his actions make me disgusted! Dude you are really judgmental its not like he is your dad or grandpa Well, so far all we've heard about is that her biggest flaw is her age. Does she act immature? If she were 25 or even 30 and behave the same way as she does now - would you accept her? I don't think it is any of this guys business. I'd seriously give my little brother a spanking if he came at me with this crap All of this is in your own mind.She is 19 he is 32? 13 years difference? That won't seem much in a few years. There is a piece of 'thinking' that goes... Minimum age = half your age + seven. Or 23 in the case of a 32 year old. What are you embarrassed about/ashamed off. Their R is none of your business anyway, he is your big bro, be happy he is happy! Sound advice... Yeah she is immature she doesnt even have a car or job. She has about 100 guy friends in her phone that she texts constantly. They have nothing in common. I think my brother is siick for not dating someone his own age! She is using him for a place to live and a ride in my opinion. My brother isnt rich but I think the girl needs to date men her own age! Really statistics say getting married that young chances are your gonna grow and change and end up divorced! But is she hott? I think a man in his 30s dating a teenager is creepy. Sorry. She is just beginning college and he is probably well established in a career. They are at totally different stages in their lives! They are probably both insecure (since you said your brother seems to be) and using each other for the validation. He gets a hot piece of arm candy that he can likely manipulate as he wants to, and she gets an established older guy who's probably throwing money at her to get her to stay. But, ya know....if it works for them... I think you probably find a lot of things men do creepy thank you it is creepy...this girl has family issues and was kicked out of her parents home so its obvious he is being used. I want him to be happy but he looks like a phedophile in alot of eyes! creepy is something girls feel... I thought you were his little brother not his little sister
samspade Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 My brother who is 32 is dating a 19 year old girl and he says he is in love with her and would marry her in a heartbeat, and I am quite disturbed considering I am the baby of the family at 20. I just think he has such low self esteem that he went for whoever available and this girl needing a place to stay shacked up with my brother within the first month...what is he thinking? She will change in the next few years and he will be heartbroken when she leaves him for a hot young stud! Nothing wrong with the dating part. Every man in his 30s who can should experience the supple flesh of a younger woman. There's nothing "creepy" about it at all, they're two willing adults. As for the marrying part, sounds like he needs to get his feet on the ground and think straight.
You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Nothing wrong with the dating part. Every man in his 30s who can should experience the supple flesh of a younger woman. There's nothing "creepy" about it at all, they're two willing adults. . I have no opinion on this arrangement because he knows what he is getting into. He can hedge his bets if he so chooses. But the above! LOL As if 30 year old women's flesh is all gone to pot and rot....
Lakeside_runner Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 After all you wrote about her behavior - I vote 'creepy' too.
Twenty-ten Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Very creepy and sad for your brother. He will find out the hard way that this won't last. She will leave him eventually wanting to experience more of life and other men, so really he is setting himself up for a lot of heartache. I don't blame you for being worried about him. He has low self-esteem, which explains his tendency to be with someone this significantly younger, so when that time comes and it ends, sure he will be heartbroken but that's life and that's love there are no guarantees and we cannot aid those we love from getting hurt. Let him live out his own journey, it's the only thing you can do unfortunately.
Twenty-ten Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 thank you it is creepy...this girl has family issues and was kicked out of her parents home so its obvious he is being used. I want him to be happy but he looks like a phedophile in alot of eyes! Meal ticket much? I don't know about the pedophile comment seems extreme, but loser for sure. But it's not your worry to have, he needs to live his own life out, and it is not even your shame to have it's his actions not yours. People know that.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Another vote for creepy and sad. But he's an adult, and has to make his own mistakes. He will probably get burned, but hopefully he will learn from it.
dazzle22 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Well, I married someone 12 yrs younger, but I was 50 when I did, so there is a huge difference there. She is an immature CHILD. Does he know about her other men? No one ever listens when a family member tells another to break up, so just work on trying to get the marrying idea out of his head, and hopefully he will come to his senses before he does something permanent and legal.
Pfiend101 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 If I was 32 and some hot 19 year old with a tight body wanted it. Id be tappin it too.
Author juniperjo Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 If I was 32 and some hot 19 year old with a tight body wanted it. Id be tappin it too. She is NOT exactly hot! She looks 12 she has a flat chest and a long pointy nose....besides her looks isnt the issue its that my brother has his own issues he shouldnt involve a barely legal girl in his life til he gets his own straight. I feel he is taking advantage of her inexpirience and is ruining her youth. He is a homebody and she is a social bug...its like oil and water. He cant talk to other girls or text them as friends she flips out but its okay she does with other guys. He has been single for 2 years and I think he just went for the first girl who was willing! Its a mess and Im sorry but you dont meet and marry a teenager this soon!
Author juniperjo Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Well, I married someone 12 yrs younger, but I was 50 when I did, so there is a huge difference there. She is an immature CHILD. Does he know about her other men? No one ever listens when a family member tells another to break up, so just work on trying to get the marrying idea out of his head, and hopefully he will come to his senses before he does something permanent and legal. If she were 25 and him 37 thats def different...Im 20 and i know im not gonna be the same girl in 5 years so why settle so young I want to live a lil she wants to play suzy homemaker at 19 what a joke!
magda Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 They are both experimenting. Maybe it will work, sounds like it won't. He's old enough to manage his affairs. Do you believe he is incapable of making grown up decisions for some reason?
Author juniperjo Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 Question for everyone who says a 30 yr old dude dating a 19 yr old woman is creepy. Do you people think it should be illegal for a 30 yr old to date a 19 yr old? No one has said it should illegal..its disgraceful to men to be so low and desparate to grab onto a young niave teen...knowing full well she isnt meant to be a lifelong partner. Maybe back in the 40's and 50's it worked. These days young girls should go to college and have jobs like me and then worry about a man. My brother has no right to prey upon a girl that young...he has no morals and it disgusts me along with others. EVERYONE KNOWS FULL WELL THIS GIRL IS GONNA CHANGE HER MIND SO MUCH IN THE NEXT YEAR THAT HE WILL BE BACK TO SQUARE ONE OR WORSE ALL ALONE WHEN HE COULD HAVE BEEN WITH SOMEONE READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND HAVE A FAMILY NOT A TEEN WHO JUST BEGAN LIFE!
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