Thebob Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 So my ex is back in town from school, we only dated for 2 months, we were never really official but pretty much we were. Anyways I went 8 months NC with her since September and told her not to talk to me till she is back in town this summer. Anyways I contacted her yesterday and she was pretty much shocked. She has contacted me during the year 3 times and I blew her off each time because I didn't want any part of that. But anyways, She wanted to know how I was doing, how my job is, what my schooling situation is and we agreed to meet up for lunch and catch up. But the problem is she is in a new relationship but its a LDR for the summer and the whole summer. Should I even catch up with her? or should I not. We never got in a fight or anything so it's not like it was a horrible breakup, it was just distance that killed it. She seemed happy to hear from me since I never initiated contact so I could heal and get over her in which I am now and I feel if we meet up it won't affect anything. Thebob
northstar1 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I wouldn't. She's back for the summer and wants someone to give her attention back home. What about her BF back at college? Sounds like she likes to have 'choices' and always someone giving her attention. I would avoid this drama myself, as if you get sucked in, she's leaving again in a few months back to school........then what?
Author Thebob Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 True, but it could just be friends with benefits. Next year Ill finally be going to a university and will be submerged with a school that is 70% females and 30% males so it could be good practice for next year and I'll find a better girl than her during that time. The only reason why I am contemplating it is because she wanted to be with me but her previous relationships was LDR and she couldn't do it a second time in which I understood cause LDR's suck big time. I honestly dont think its a bad decision to meet up with her and catch up since we were never on foul terms. Thebob
LikeABirdWhoFlew Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Hey I respect your decision and what ever you do is ultimately up to you. However, I wouldn't give her the time of day. Like the previous poster said, this girl likes to have options and needs to feel secure every damn town she goes to by having a man that will go crazy over her. Let her realize what it feels like to have to do things on your own. Also think about the pathos in this, you and her dated for only 2 months and it took you 8 month of NC to get over her and you are now saying you think you might be ready for it. I thought the same thing after 6 months of no-contact with my EX only for her to tell me she is seeing someone new and is soooo happy with him. It sent me back to day ONE! To me it's not worth it. Wait until you get to University next year and forget all about her. peace, D
Author Thebob Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 True true, you're right man... I know where you're coming from, but why not get some fun out of it since we were only serious for 2 months? that is the only thing I'm debating.... And yea she wants options, or maybe she really just wants to catch up and is happy with her new boyfriend. But if she was willin to have lunch I'm thinkin your correct on the options part. Thebob
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