Morals Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 A little backstory. Last night I found out a girl whom I befriended on a dating site changed her FB status to single. I asked her what happened, consoled her and went back to browsing my other websites. She ended up messaging me back saying "Thanks! I might be coming to <my town> soon!" My reply: "Oh? Visiting your sisters? (sorority)" Her reply: "Maybe, or seeing you! hehe" My only response was to laugh out loud, realizing I needed to type something I just typed "ha!" in the chat line. Part of me has moved on. See, fall of last year we chatted and she said she would visit, then she kind of stopped talking and found this other guy whom she fell in love with, got into a relationship with. We've never met in person. I just find the whole situation rather humorous because now that she may be interested, I'm not really. I'm single at the moment but something about her dropping me (last year) and making me an option just doesn't sit well with me. I moved on, and now just see her as an acquaintance. Sure I'll hang out with her if she comes down, but don't know if I want anything else other then that. MEANWHILE....(at the legion of doom....just kidding) I'm also chatting with a few girls on some other websites. I have like 3-5 conversations going on. Reason being is that usually, a couple fizzle off and then don't ever continue with correspondence. ALSO... I'm spending time with a close female friend whom I believe may or may not be escalating to a something more then friendship. She is also the one whom I would most likely want to be in a relationship with. So life isn't bad right now, but it just never fails that when I think things are going to be simple, God goes "Hey, just to screw with your head...I'm going to throw a few girls who are slightly interested in you your way." Now I'm caught between a friendship that I want to be more, a girl who wants to drive 4 hours to see me, and a few girls online who are chatting with me. Needless to say this situation is unprecedented.
witabix Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 This is like having an itchy nose just after plastic surgery, you have to pick carefully. You said being sidelined/optioned didn't sit well with you. Don't do that to someone else, the girl you are interested in now...... Play that through before you go off looking through the fields of wild oats. Just a bit of friendly advice, oh and congratulations.
LittleMissWonder Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Congratz! It is always good to have options. It sucks to live in a world of scarcity!
Author Morals Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 I wasn't trying to brag. It's kind of like a double edged sword for me. When I want to focus and see where the friend is, while at the same time this other girl who made me an option now wants to make me a priority. It is nice having options, but sometimes I wish life was not always making things extremes (No options to lots of options).
jadepeony Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 You picked out the answer yourself; you'd probably want to go for the close female friend because, as you said, she is the one who you would most likely want to be in a relationship with. I think she's probably the best choice by far because you guys are already close friends. As for the other girls, I personally don't think that you'd be successful with people you meet online. And the girl who recently became single again is probably still on the rebound--don't be her fall back. I'm just telling you from experience.
Author Morals Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 You picked out the answer yourself; you'd probably want to go for the close female friend because, as you said, she is the one who you would most likely want to be in a relationship with. I think she's probably the best choice by far because you guys are already close friends. As for the other girls, I personally don't think that you'd be successful with people you meet online. And the girl who recently became single again is probably still on the rebound--don't be her fall back. I'm just telling you from experience. Yea, plus I don't see Long distance relationships working out. Even though it's not that far away, 4 hours, I just don't see it working out that well. Not that I'm unintelligent, but I never graduated from college, and she is in grad school...and I always get the feeling that people in grad school feel .......superior to people not. Could just be my imagination, but ultimately that opinion of mine would poison any potential relationship with her. As for the other girls online, I don't put too much stock into them. I know that some people will just get bored and find another guy that looks better/sounds funner/etc. I just find it amusing that God decides to now, at of all the times in my life, to give me options. Sometimes I honestly feel like a rat in a maze with the cheese being constantly moved as soon as I get close to it...
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