shadowplay Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I'm going to paste something I wrote in another thread. Whether this guy is interested or not doesn't matter that much to me, I'm just curious. Background... I looked at a place to share with other people my age two days ago. Two guys and a girl were living there. It seemed to go well and they told me they'd get back in touch the next day. I wrote them an email that morning that I was interested and a few minutes later one of the guys from the house responded to my email and excitedly told me that I seemed cool and I got the place. But then a few minutes later he retracted with disappointment and said he had talked with the other housemates and they still had to show it to one more person that day, but I was the front runner. That night he sent me an email: We really enjoyed meeting you yesterday and it seems like you'd be a great roommate. A friend actually just got back to us and was interested in taking the room, and we decided to give it to her. I feel like you'd be a wonderful friend if you stay in the area. What do you think about grabbing a beer sometime soon if you stay in area? Hope the search goes well and I apologize for leading you on earlier. I told him I was slightly disappointed, but it was cool, and good luck with their new roommate. I added "sure, i'd love to grab a beer." He wrote back: Hey Shadow, I'm disappointed as well. Definitely got a good feeling about you. Let's do something soon! How's Thursday? I said Thursday was fine, and then he responded for us to meet at this bar on Thursday night at 9. So we are... Is this him wanting to be friends, or does he seem interested? Again, it's not a big deal either way. I'm trying to make new friends anyway, and I'm not exactly in a dating mindset. I'm mostly just curious.
tigressA Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I really can't tell from the info you've provided here. You'll know for sure once you meet him at the bar, I think.
missfrenchie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 In my opinion - I'd be thinking he was interested... But I guess you won't know till you go huh!? I love reading stories like this... Keep us posted, yeah??
Alma Mobley Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I think he is interested but will feel things out when he meets up with you.
alphamale Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I think he is interested but will feel things out when he meets up with you. whay exactly will he "feel out"??
magda Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I bet he's interested. He sounds friendly enough that it'll be fun one way or another.
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 That night he sent me an email: We really enjoyed meeting you yesterday and it seems like you'd be a great roommate. A friend actually just got back to us and was interested in taking the room, and we decided to give it to her. I feel like you'd be a wonderful friend if you stay in the area. What do you think about grabbing a beer sometime soon if you stay in area? Hope the search goes well and I apologize for leading you on earlier. He wrote back: Hey Shadow, I'm disappointed as well. Definitely got a good feeling about you. Let's do something soon! How's Thursday? Please refer to the bolded parts above. Perhaps he just wasn't paying attention, but in the first email, he started in first person plural (referring to himself and his roommates) when talking business matters (the room) and how they all liked you as a person. But then he switched to first person singular when he took it to a more personal level and basically suggested that you two go out some time. In the second email, he keeps it in first person singular again when talking about doing something with you. This is enough for me to say with certainty that he's interested. Perhaps I'm being ridiculous in my analysis, but it's all about the details...so all I'm trying to say is: replace every "I" in his emails with "We"...it makes a huge difference... And besides...if you're a guy, put yourself in this guy's shoes...I honestly wouldn't have gone beyond "good luck with your search" unless I had some modicum of interest...seriously...
missfrenchie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 And besides...if you're a guy, put yourself in this guy's shoes...I honestly wouldn't have gone beyond "good luck with your search" unless I had some modicum of interest...seriously... Hahaha... Well said USMCHokie!!
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I was going to post in your other thread that this guy seems interested when he invited you to grab a beer. Now I am even more sure, he is DEFINETLY interested in you. Is he hot?
malala7 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Definetely interested. Why would he want to hang out with you? Even if he felt bad about leading you on into thinking you got the room, he wouldn't bother inviting you to a BAR. Have a great time and keep us posted
Kamille Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 This is great Shadow, whether he wants to meet you as a friend or a date! See? You're very likeable!
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I wouldn't ask a girl to hang out with me unless I was interested in ripping all her clothes off
Author shadowplay Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 I was going to post in your other thread that this guy seems interested when he invited you to grab a beer. Now I am even more sure, he is DEFINETLY interested in you. Is he hot? Yeah, he's quite cute as I recall.
Author shadowplay Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 This is great Shadow, whether he wants to meet you as a friend or a date! See? You're very likeable! Thanks!
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 oh I'd like to add maybe the reason you didn't get the place is because the guy thought you were hot so changed his mind and would rather have a go at you... and not have to worry about you living there
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 oh I'd like to add maybe the reason you didn't get the place is because the guy thought you were hot so changed his mind and would rather have a go at you... and not have to worry about you living there This thought crossed my mind as well...
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 This thought crossed my mind as well... Me too... As in he would rather date you than have you as a flatmate.
Hot Carl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 He doesn't sound interested to me. He was probably just writing all that because he's a nice guy.
Author shadowplay Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 He doesn't sound interested to me. He was probably just writing all that because he's a nice guy. I can never tell whether you're being serious or not.
Author shadowplay Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 (edited) well, i ****ed that up about as much as I could. I drank a few shots of vodka to relax before I met up with him and thought Id be fine. (I've done that before and it's been totally cool). Things were going cool, we were having a lively conversation and he definitely seemed into me, and then I went to the bathroom and apparently blacked out and threw up all over the floor in the stall. Some girl helped me. Then I guess I called my ex for help and he came by to pick me up. And apparently he and the girl carried me out of the bar (I couldn't walk). W...T....F..... I can't believe this happened. It's so embarrassing. I hardly ever drink, and now this guy probably thinks I'm a wino. I suck at life. That is all. Edited May 28, 2010 by shadowplay
Kamille Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 well, i ****ed that up about as much as I could. I drank a few shots of vodka to relax before I met up with him and thought Id be fine. (I've done that before and it's been totally cool). Things were going cool, we were having a lively conversation and he definitely seemed into me, and then I went to the bathroom and apparently blacked out and threw up all over the floor in the stall. Some girl helped me. Then I guess I called my ex for help and he came by to pick me up. And apparently he and the girl carried me out of the bar (I couldn't walk). W...T....F..... I can't believe this happened. It's so embarrassing. I hardly ever drink, and now this guy probably thinks I'm a wino. I suck at life. That is all. What??? It sounds like you were given a roofie SP. Any chance anyone slipped anything in your drink?
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