Daseal Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 All, I went through a break up about 1.5 months ago. There's a lot of history, I'll try to be brief. I had a close friendship with my ex-girlfriend that I kept in touch with her, etc. Nothing ever happened, but that relationship drove the girl in question crazy. The reasons are obvious and it's a complicated situation. Anyhow, I asked for a break to figure things out, and we never recovered from that. During that time I was able to tell my ex we simply can't communicate for a long time while I repair myself. I'd love to be friends with her again, but we simply can't be as close as we were. Anyhow, I've been going back and forth with this girl for some time. It started off with me being desperate and defeated. It was down right pathetic for a while. At 27, I've gone through quite a few break ups, but never felt like this before. She's really a great girl and I hate that I might lose her. Anyhow, every time I finally come to grips with her being out of my life, she pulls me back in. About a week after our initial break up she wouldn't answer my texts or calls (did it maybe once a day / every other day) she finally did. We met for dinner. I got to say my final peace and thought it was over. That night she called me and we had a heart felt conversation and I thought we kinda repaired things. Then we would talk from time to time. Then she broke it off again, and when I said okay, I understand, etc. She reached out to me again. Just recently, we spent an amazing Saturday together. She and I both agreed it was amazing, we loved every second we spent together and it was great. Later that week a mutual friend met with her, and she completely blindsided me by telling this person she couldn't handle the ex situation (it has been resolved, but the past still hurts her, obviously) and she broke up with me again. Then I never responded, two days later she stopped by my house to pick up something little like vitamins. Just tonight I talked to her and we talked. She had a big event for work and she told me about it. Before we hung up, I told her that she was really confusing me. And her response was that she was 'trying to be nice' Can anyone interpret this for me? If you need any additional details, please ask. I tried to keep it fairly vague so it's short. I really do love this girl and the only issue we ever had was my ex, who is out of the picture completely. I know she's hurt, but she loves me as well. It seems like me making myself distant helps, but I'm not really good at games. I've let her know how I feel. At some point, I need her to make a decision so I can keep my sanity.
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 so your trying to get back with the girl you JUST broke up with? Or were you dating ex "A" a month ago and ex "B" caused drama and now you want to get with ex "B"... I'm just trying to figure this out
Author Daseal Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 My apologies. It was confusing. There are two girls here: Girl A: We broke up 1.5 months ago. I want her back, and she's told me she still has strong feelings for me, and is concerned with Girl B. Girl B: Long time friend. Since pre-school. We had a fairly intimate (no sex, nothing like that, just close friends. Even after we broke up some time ago, we stayed roommates.) We get along great as friends, terribly when dating. I've severed ties with this girl. The only parts of my original post she was in was the fact that Girl A had big issues with the closeness of the relationship with her.
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I think it is one of those wait and see situations. If you really think she is the one why not say something crazy like "lets move intogather".... really I don't have any good advice for you. Things might work out but I can't interpret her actions/words for you
ADF Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Almost any time two people break off a relationship, there is bound to be a lot of ambivalence on both sides. Your ex's behavior is erratic because she wavers back and forth in her own mind about how she feels, about what she wants. This is perfectly normal. The thing that worries me most is your having taken a "break" from your relationship. Well, in my experience, there are no "breaks" in relationships. A "break" is really just a break up in slow motion. The fact you decided to break off your relationship to sort out your feelings about this other woman probably hurt your ex far more than you realize. She was probably devastated by that decision. Her trust in you must have been badly damaged, her sense of security in her relationship with you utterly destroyed. If you were in her place, how would you feel about your GF breaking it off with you so she could sort out her feelings about an ex BF? Frankly, it sounds like this relationship is too damaged to be repaired.
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