lovetoloveu2 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I need advice badly! Help! Me and my ex do NOT speak AT ALL. But last week we spoke briefly over text and i decided to surprise him with an unexpected visit. Well what I didnt expect was a woman to be there-especially the woman he was with before me. They have been on and off for 11 years! Well, I didnt say anything, I just left and I called him asking how he could do that to me-I cried, and was really upset. Well he came over to talk about things and he spent the night. I was in heaven! He also told me that that woman was there to stay in his life-and that she was very important to her and he has deep feelings for her and has feelings for me but not enough to pursue me-WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!! Well he spent the night and like I said I was in heaven!! Well here we are today and I havent heard from him-its been three days. I called him and he said well ______, we dont speak, and i told u how i felt, its human nature to have feelings for someone you were once involved with but AGAIN i wont or will pursue you. Look at the whole pie and not just one night of me coming to visit you! WHat does all of this mean?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
Lauriebell82 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I need advice badly! Help! Me and my ex do NOT speak AT ALL. But last week we spoke briefly over text and i decided to surprise him with an unexpected visit. Well what I didnt expect was a woman to be there-especially the woman he was with before me. They have been on and off for 11 years! Well, I didnt say anything, I just left and I called him asking how he could do that to me-I cried, and was really upset. Well he came over to talk about things and he spent the night. I was in heaven! He also told me that that woman was there to stay in his life-and that she was very important to her and he has deep feelings for her and has feelings for me but not enough to pursue me-WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!! Well he spent the night and like I said I was in heaven!! Well here we are today and I havent heard from him-its been three days. I called him and he said well ______, we dont speak, and i told u how i felt, its human nature to have feelings for someone you were once involved with but AGAIN i wont or will pursue you. Look at the whole pie and not just one night of me coming to visit you! WHat does all of this mean?!?!?!?!?!?!?! It means that he used you for one night, cheated on his girlfriend, and then ditched you because he isn't into you. He sounds like a jerk, move on!
Template Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I agree with the above post. I hope you have the self decency, and self-respect to know that you deserve better than this dirtbag.
Lauriebell82 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I agree with the above post. I hope you have the self decency, and self-respect to know that you deserve better than this dirtbag. I fear that she will continue to pursue him because of his comment that "he cares deeply for her." None of the other stuff matters, just that comment. It's a sign of low self-esteem and codependency. OP, you probably don't realize it (or else you wouldn't have posted this thread) but this guy is NOT into you and you need to leave him alone. I know it's hard to do, as you do have deep feelings him. In your defense though, he was a dumb a-hole for spending the night with you and giving you false hope. Men like that are scum and are not worth your time. PLEASE listen to what we are saying..have you sought counseling for your low-esteem? If not, I suggest you do so. It will help you to build up your confidence and you will realize that you are worth more then some loser who screws with your head.
sugarmomma Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 OMG!! He is a cruel ass-hole. No contact completely. Change your number if you have to cuz he is beyond nasty!
LoveLace Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 It means that he used you for one night, cheated on his girlfriend, and then ditched you because he isn't into you. He sounds like a jerk, move on! That's about as simple as it can be put, I think...and by saying he will not pursue you I'm pretty sure it means he doesn't want you to pursue him either. He said whats her name will always be in his life so even if he cares for you, clearly he has chosen her to commit to.
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