davidL Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Hey this is my 1st time posting here so if I break a forum rule please let me know Anyways here is my story, I met this girl towards the end of last year through mutual friends, we got along well, eventually hooked up a few times, and it was all gravy. After awhile though we stopped hanging out as much and things cooled off between us, she works a crazy schedule and I work 40 hours a week myself so it can sometimes be hard to find a day or time that works to meet. Recently however we have been hanging out a little more, we went to the park 1 day, went to a few parties, we made out 1 of the nights etc. I am just wondering what would be a good direction to go with this girl, I'm a little confused as to her feelings toward me. She is usually receptive to hanging out but I have to be the one to initiate it. I think unfortunately I like her more than she likes me even though its obvious she likes me somewhat still. I figure I could either play it cool and just stop talking to her for awhile or theres a more direct approach of letting her know she means a lot to me. I think the latter approach has the potential to blowup in my face, as theres not a bigger turnoff to a girl than telling her hey btw I really really like you alot please go out with me please? I'm tempted to ask her friends but the problem with that is that of course they are going to tell her I was asking about her. Of course I could just move on go find other girls alot of fish in the sea and I'm certainly keeping my options open but I really do like this girl and wondering if there is a best way to go about salvaging the situation. Any input would be appreciated thanks guys
suprisinginsight Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Hey this is my 1st time posting here so if I break a forum rule please let me know Anyways here is my story, I met this girl towards the end of last year through mutual friends, we got along well, eventually hooked up a few times, and it was all gravy. After awhile though we stopped hanging out as much and things cooled off between us, she works a crazy schedule and I work 40 hours a week myself so it can sometimes be hard to find a day or time that works to meet. Recently however we have been hanging out a little more, we went to the park 1 day, went to a few parties, we made out 1 of the nights etc. I am just wondering what would be a good direction to go with this girl, I'm a little confused as to her feelings toward me. She is usually receptive to hanging out but I have to be the one to initiate it. I think unfortunately I like her more than she likes me even though its obvious she likes me somewhat still. I figure I could either play it cool and just stop talking to her for awhile or theres a more direct approach of letting her know she means a lot to me. I think the latter approach has the potential to blowup in my face, as theres not a bigger turnoff to a girl than telling her hey btw I really really like you alot please go out with me please? I'm tempted to ask her friends but the problem with that is that of course they are going to tell her I was asking about her. Of course I could just move on go find other girls alot of fish in the sea and I'm certainly keeping my options open but I really do like this girl and wondering if there is a best way to go about salvaging the situation. Any input would be appreciated thanks guys The girl is obviously interested. Its generally the standard that the male makes all the moves ie ( men are generally viewed as the aggressor.) Don't think it would indicate if she liked you less than you like her? I would just say stay the course you are going...keep asking her out see where that leads... if all is good at around 3 months of "dating" i generally come out and ask the girl if she wants to start dating exclusively...thats a good indicator of how much she digging you.
Author davidL Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 thanks suprisinginsight I guess I'm worried about lowering her interest level. When I 1st met her last year she was the 1 chasing me as I had just gotten my heart broke pretty bad earlier in 09 and I was really wary of women at that point in time. Eventually I started to be the one to phone her invite her to stuff etc. I'm pretty sure thats the reason my last relationship ended too I was too into my ex so that would explain why I am still being really cautious I guess, getting burned sucks :/
suprisinginsight Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 thanks suprisinginsight I guess I'm worried about lowering her interest level. When I 1st met her last year she was the 1 chasing me as I had just gotten my heart broke pretty bad earlier in 09 and I was really wary of women at that point in time. Eventually I started to be the one to phone her invite her to stuff etc. I'm pretty sure thats the reason my last relationship ended too I was too into my ex so that would explain why I am still being really cautious I guess, getting burned sucks :/ Getting burned always does suck and usually brings about some sort of defense mechanism. Glad to see your getting over your ex and moving on the greener pastures. I don't see anything that indicates shes losing interest, looks like she waiting for you to make the move. ( not sure if she knows about your ex ) but if she does then its even better since she is obviously giving you space to get over your ex, and allowing you to let her know when you are ready to start another relationship. All i see is green light. Best of luck to you David.
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