thelostsoul89 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I need some advice on what to do here! Recently my brother in law started dating a sixteen year old, he just turned twenty and she will be seventeen at the end of June. They are not having sex so I am somewhat okay with their relationship. Now to the issue, the girl lets call her *Sandy. She has not had her period since November of 2009, she is not pregnant and the doctors can't find anything wrong with her. Her parents refuse to take her to get more advanced tests done because get this... they don't want to pay the co-pay, $40.... I mean they don't even care about her, what if she has fricken cancer?? They both work so I have no clue what the heck their problem is. My only conclusion is that they don't give a flying crap about her. My question is what can she do legally? What can we do to help her, if anything? I was considering letting her move in with us when she turns seventeen, but i'm afraid that her parents will call the police about my brother in law. ( They know how old he is and that they are dating ect. and they are fine with it. They even let her come over and stay until 1 am on school nights...) So basically I have 2 questions : What can she legally do for herself since her parents don't care about her health, and what age is the age of consent/ moving out on your own, we live in Arizona. If anyone has been or known of a situation like this, I would really love your advice. Thanks
2sure Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Wow. I would be struggling as well. The best I can think of, seeing as her parents DO have insurance but simply refuse to pay the co-payment.... Either give her the 40.00 for the co-pay, or help her find a part time job. The co-pay is not large, so paying it and a few future co-pays is doable .
Author thelostsoul89 Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 Thanks for the advice 2sure. I know my Brother in Law is totally willing and capable of paying for the co-pay. But I have a feeling they still would not go for it. I mean what kind of a **** excuse, 40 dollars REALLY grr. I mean they buy her clothes and food ect. I just do not get people. I don't have any children yet but if my daughter had any issue like this I would be doing whatever I could to help her. Ugh it makes me sick.
candymoon Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Yuck, Too many parents are afraid of caring for their daughters' reproductive health and it's sick. I don't think it's about the co-pay. I think it's about her sexual organs. Aren't there free clinics out there just for that purpose? Like PlannedParenthood or something that would take tests? What about those free county hospitals that people can go to without insurance? I used these in my area when I was underage and needed help or was not covered under any insurance plan. I don't advocate lying and saying she doesnt have insurance, but you got to do what you have to do for your health. Go to your county's/state website to look up the age of consent or moving out for underage children. Actually, I'm sure the county website will also have health programs & facilities listed (free to the public) for people who don't have medical coverage. Check the counties surrounding yours as well as you might have to take her outside the county. Worse comes to worse, she can just walk into an emergency room by herself and say she needs help. Then her parents will be forced to do it, as the hospital won't turn her away. They will have to pay for ER visit too, but... too bad. She will get into hot water with her parents, but at least she will get treatment... if the parents don't allow treatment, then the hospital might be inclined to call child protective services... that should force their hand. I wont comment on a 20 year old dating (sexually or not) a 16 year old. I guess he just squeaks by the statutory laws in your state.
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