ribeena Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Hi, Haven't been on here for a while as I haven't felt the need to which is good as I've been feeling happy & secure in my relationship and have been busy planning my wedding! However, there is something on the horizion that may potentially rock the boat... my bf's stag do!! I had my hen do a few weeks ago and it was quite a low key affair, with my closest friends & family having a nice day out. I originally wanted it to coincide with my bf's stag do as I knew I would feel uncomfortable about it and hoped me doing something at the same time would take my mind off things! Well it hasn't worked out that way... My bf is having a big full on do, over a whole weekend, staying away with all his mates (there's about 20+ of them!!!) and NO family members... I am a bit jelous as: - My do was so small and low key, no heavy drinking or night time activities - I didn't have nearly as many people at mine and it was at home, with family too - There was no action with the opposite sex what-so-ever! I am trying to be very mature about the situation and not let my jelousy get the better of me as I would really like my bf to have a good time, but it is hard because of the following... - A few of my bf's friends have recently become single ie. "Women haters!" - They are all very boysterous sports players - They are staying away from home - They might go to a strip club & my bf might get a lapdance (which would really upset me) - They may expect my bf to do dares, or whatever, with other women (which again would really upset me) And ontop of this me and my bf are having problems in the bedroom... because of an infection I had, which is causing me great distress at the moment and although my bf is being wonderful & understanding about it all it's still getting to us quite a bit. I feel a bit inadequate & depressed about it at the moment, I have discussed how I feel about all of the above with my bf, he assures me that he loves me and it won't be anything like I fear. I don't want to keep bringing it up and making a big deal out of it but it does still greatly concern me and I don't want to get completely overriddled with jelously and end up wanting to call quits on the whole wedding!!! I feel like we've put so much effort into the wedding which is about the both of us and our relationship that these stag & hen parties seem to mock it all! Apologises as my posts tend to be along the same lines!!! For the record I do see a counsellor for my low self esteem, anxiety & other "issues". Just wondered if anyone had any advice? Or has had a similar experience? A low key party verses bf going all out - how did it make you feel? How did you deal with it?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Is this the same guy from your other threads? I don't know that I would be comfortable with him going out under those circumstances either. What made you decide to marry him if you don't mind me asking... I went back and read your other threads and I'm wondering what good things he has done to make you want to spend the rest of your life with him? What did he do to help you trust him, especially with something like a stag party with possible strip club involvement?
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