icemann12 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i broke up with my gf of 2 months saturday, now i dont know why i did, even right afterwards i was wondering what my reasoning was.. for the past month or less i was thinking fairly often "would i be happier if i were single?" but im guessing thats a normal thing right? another thing is my best friend is a girl and everyone im friends with knows that, on saturday i was hangin with my gf, and i got a text saying whatsup? so i answered with nothing you, and she said ehh work is dead, i miss you we havent hung out in a while, my girlfriend then proceeded to get up and say get out, when she saw that i really was going to leave she said she was kidding, but i could tell she wasnt, that got me mad but now that im thinking about it was that worth putting a stop to the relationship..? so my reasoning for the breakup was my thinking of would i be happier single, and that one moment, when the majority of the time with my ex i was happy, and people saw that i was happy too... the other thing that bothers me is im wondering if i am just getting into my own head and thinking too much instead of enjoying what i have.. its been on my mind nonstop since i did it, and im starting to wonder if i should try talking to her, i need help here, all ive done is think about it and i cant think of the answer, that or im afraid to realize an answer whatever one it may be... please help loveshack iceman
Author icemann12 Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 another thing that credits her flipping about my best friend texting me is her ex bf cheated on her with his best friend
Author icemann12 Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 wow guys unbelievable advice, thanks.
Els Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I was going to post. However. With an attitude like that (you all OWE me advice by virtue of forum membership, how dare you not reply!) and pretty lame sarcasm to boot, I don't think anything I say will be of value. All the best with your breakup. Btw, may I suggest you post in the 'Breaking Up' or 'Coping' forums instead, you may get better response there (as you deserve, of course ). Also, would be nice to have some capitalization, quoting of conversation, etc - posts that are a struggle to read will always receive less responses, simply because most people have already done work at work and prefer to not have to struggle their way through a poorly-written post at home.
MyNameIsJane Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 My impression is that you should remain broken up. People often hit a rut way further on in their relationships... and by way - I mean by month 8 or 9. Month two is supposed to be the honeymoon phase... its usually by month three that you know if something is serious or just a fling... and you were already wondering if you would be better off single by month two! Thats a big sign! Think about others in month two of their relationships... Usually all over eachother and sickeningly cute.... not thinking about the single life... As far as her getting uneasy about your girl bff, that is normal... you guys are a new relationship and she doesn't know enough about you yet to be completely comfortable with you having such a close relationship with another girl. You have to be sensitive to that. You can say " she is just a friend" all day and night... but that is something that just takes time and observation before she becomes comfortable with it... and time is something you guys didn't have. -- just a girls point of view Edit: also.. what's with the rude, sarcastic post?
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