AIC Posted May 29, 2010 Posted May 29, 2010 To be honest this just sounds like he was bored with your sex life. Maybe you are too, you've got nothing to gauge it against after all. An amazing sex life can get married couples through all sorts of other problems, but a boring sex leaves them a sitting duck. Just my opinion but you guys need to get wild and naughty and 'out there'.
2long Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Actions speak, words don't. This affair sounds like it was pretty intense and it's all still very recent. Your H needs 2 be willing 2 do whatever it takes for YOU 2 feel safe in your marriage, and that will take a lot more hard work on his part than simply complimenting you and taking you out 2 dinner. He needs 2 establish NC on the OW, and you need 2 give it time - like a month or more without responding 2 him - for him 2 demonstrate he means business. Recovery can't even start until the affair is completely shut down. And even then, it's going 2 be a rough couple years for both of you (but a very rewarding process, if you do it well). best, -ol' 2long
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