fbislife Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Omg. When we first met I had trouble getting her to talk now she won't shut up. For the last week she talks at a mile a minute and won't let me get a word in. Now I'm the kinda person who talks a bit more then I should but I'm not a fast talker. She is talking really fast and sometimes I can't understand her becauseshe has an accent andshe is a fob from australia so she sometimes uses different words. I can't go back and ask her what she means because by time I open my mouth she's on a different story. I'm afraid if I tell her to be quiet she will go back to her old way of not talking at all. Any tips? Also it seems like when I tell her something she is just trying to get back to her story like if I say yea there was a fight today she will say oh ok cool anyway blah blah blah. What do I do?
butterflysil Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 how long have you been dating? maybe it's her true self.
deux ex machina Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 She used to be quiet? Maybe she's nervous, or overcompensating a little bit. Although, it is very fast...I don't know. I think you should let her know how you feel. In a tactful way, of course. If you think about it...you'll always have things to bring up with a partner. There will inevitably be times where you'll have to have not-so-pleasant conversations, otherwise things will only compound and fester. So don't avoid conflict. It can be healthy. Maybe ask her what's changed. Something must have, I'd wonder what it is, and if is she is okay.
TaraMaiden Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I had a girl friend whose BF was a constant incessant babbler... it's almost as if he was scared of silence, believing that if there was a silence, it simply had to be filled.... She tried to tell him tactfully at first, that really, he didn't need to be speaking so much... then one day, she laid her hand gently on his mouth and said "you need to breathe between words...." Finally, while she was reading one day, he was yet again, going off into a bout of verbal diarrhoea, so she pointedly put two bits of cotton wool in her ears, and carried on reading. he eventually got the message. I don't know if they're still together, but he did ease up.....
Rorschach Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I had a girl friend whose BF was a constant incessant babbler... it's almost as if he was scared of silence, believing that if there was a silence, it simply had to be filled.... She tried to tell him tactfully at first, that really, he didn't need to be speaking so much... then one day, she laid her hand gently on his mouth and said "you need to breathe between words...." Finally, while she was reading one day, he was yet again, going off into a bout of verbal diarrhoea, so she pointedly put two bits of cotton wool in her ears, and carried on reading. he eventually got the message. I don't know if they're still together, but he did ease up..... Having somebody talk to you while you're trying to read is the worst and people do it all the time too. Normally people talking fast is a sign of nervousness thats probably all it is. I agree with everybody else, bringing it up in a tactful way should help.
EasyHeart Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 How much or how little people like to talk is part of their basic personality. It's not something the can (or should) try to change. If it bothers you that much, it's a dealbreaker and you need to move on.
forevertoday Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 My gf used to talk a bit more than she should when we were out with friends. All I had to do is talk to her and explain. Repeat/remind until she is properly trained.
hopesndreams Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Also it seems like when I tell her something she is just trying to get back to her story like if I say yea there was a fight today she will say oh ok cool anyway blah blah blah. People like that are so irritating.
TaurusTerp Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I had a girl friend whose BF was a constant incessant babbler... it's almost as if he was scared of silence, believing that if there was a silence, it simply had to be filled.... She tried to tell him tactfully at first, that really, he didn't need to be speaking so much... then one day, she laid her hand gently on his mouth and said "you need to breathe between words...." Finally, while she was reading one day, he was yet again, going off into a bout of verbal diarrhoea, so she pointedly put two bits of cotton wool in her ears, and carried on reading. he eventually got the message. I don't know if they're still together, but he did ease up..... Even if it worked, that is intensely disrespectful....
ADF Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 It is very difficult to tell what a man might mean when he says a woman talks too much. There is a common belief that women talk more than men. That is 100% false. Men talk more than women do, and this tendency is especially pronounced in mixed gender settings. So, it may be that your Gf is unusually chatty, or it may be that she is just more vocal than you'd like her to be, or are used to having women be. Without seeing her in action, it is hard to know.
Shakz Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Maybe, if you can get a word in edgewise, you could tell her how much you like her sexy Australian accent but when she talks so fast she sounds just like an American. That should slow her down a bit.
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