counterman Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Well, I read Green's thread and there was one thing I agreed with completely. Just go for the kiss. I had a recent experience where I know if I had gone for the kiss, things would be different. I went in, she didn't pull back but I kissed her on the cheek. Things happened between then, and now everytime I talk to her it seems she has to go against everything I say, like we're both trading insults. What I'm asking now is that since I do still like her, should I just go for it? I mean, next week will probably be the last time I see until a while.
PersonMan Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Things happened between then? trading insults? What I get from that is maybe shes upset you didnt kiss her on the lips? If so, kiss this broad on the ****in lips next time.
harmfulsweetz Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Definitely. Girls adore men that can take control of a situation, and don't wuss out, sure nothing wrong with nerves, but if you can take the risk, extra bonus points.
Author counterman Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 Yes, I can do that. Will I? That's another question. It changes the dynamics of things. I know what my explanation would be for doing it, but I'm not sure how she'll handle it. I could get slapped actually:lmao: This is the girl that needed a week to decided if she wants to date me. We met up once and she says she needs to becomes friends first to date. I really don't think she's too interested.
harmfulsweetz Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I'd be wary of her, she could easily friendzone you. Perhaps you should next her?
Author counterman Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 I agree with you and have already moved on. But, now, I'm looking back... and wondering whether I should have just gone for it. I think I'll just let the idea go.
carhill Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 What I'm asking now is that since I do still like her, should I just go for it? I mean, next week will probably be the last time I see until a while. I agree with you and have already moved on. But, now, I'm looking back... and wondering whether I should have just gone for it. I think I'll just let the idea go Conundrum, much? Why not take this 'friend' out on a date, give her a nice solid firm passionate kiss and then next her? Resolve it, get it done, and move on in a positive way. Her response will tell which positive way that is. Either way, you build your own path the way *you* want. Good luck
Author counterman Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 Conundrum, much? Why not take this 'friend' out on a date, give her a nice solid firm passionate kiss and then next her? Resolve it, get it done, and move on in a positive way. Her response will tell which positive way that is. Either way, you build your own path the way *you* want. Good luck Yes!.... That's brilliant! I'll go for it next chance I get, and then leave it at that. We'll remain friends, hopefully, but most important thing is that I got it off my chest. On the flip side, if things turn ugly and she calls he guy friends to get me...hmmm
carhill Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 If she calls 'the guy friends', you've identified the orbiters. Why be one of them? Having had orbiter duty, I'd rather leave a smoking hole in the desert by acting than remain orbiting in limbo for a lifetime. That's cr@p. I do this now to get rid of the women who are playing with me. Give em a nice passionate kiss on the lips and they exit tootsweet. Peace returns
Author counterman Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 If she calls 'the guy friends', you've identified the orbiters. Why be one of them? Having had orbiter duty, I'd rather leave a smoking hole in the desert by acting than remain orbiting in limbo for a lifetime. That's cr@p. I do this now to get rid of the women who are playing with me. Give em a nice passionate kiss on the lips and they exit tootsweet. Peace returns I love the way you think! I do not intend to be one of them, so I'm just gonna go for it. Really don't know what's going to happen. Anyone going to convince me not to?
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 NEVER KISS A GIRL ON THE CHEEK... THE LIPS IS WHERE ITS AT Look that first kiss is actualy the thing that helps get you the girl... well atleast helps get her for another date.. where then there will hopefuly be a make out session. Just get your face close to hers... if she lets you real close ... just go in for the kiss... You could also try something like "Hey come close I want to wisper you a secret" then when she gets close for the secret just Kiss her If you get slapped just smile and say "it was worth it"
reservoirdog1 Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Several years ago, when I was just getting back into the dating scene after an 11-year relationship, I was a bit hesitant about just up and kissing a woman I was on a date with. However, we were having drinks, sitting near each other, the tension between us was ratcheting up. So finally I said "I'm finding it really difficult to not kiss you right now." I can't remember what she responded, but it was clear that she liked the idea. So I leaned in and did it, twice. No tongue, no tonsil hockey right away. Pulled back from it slowly and she said "wow." Good times ensued. So, if you're shy about it and don't feel comfortable just leaping in and kissing her, find a way to "announce" your intention (i.e. don't ASK her if you can kiss her). And don't try to take her tonsils out right away. The idea is to get her to experience that little electric jolt and like it. Tongue can come later.
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 The thing was I was hitting all the right notes and whatnot by being confident. Then, when we met up, I ended it with a kiss on the cheek. She then called it "hanging out" when it was actually a date. It's cause I didn't go for it. Now, everytime I have a first date, I'm going for it. Because that's what I normally would do. So, I'm going for this one. And, I'll tell you guys about it.
You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 haha gotta agree with you guys. Now groping a woman's body without the right signals would be crossing the line. I've never NOT been kissed if I liked the guy. Truly the ones that I friend zoned I never had any intention of kissing in the first place. Guess I send the signal if I want to be kissed.
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Hmmm, I don't think I am getting any signals that she wants me to kiss her. The only thing I got was that she never pulled away whenever I touched her back, arm, leg or went in for the kiss on the cheek. So, I might get slapped, might make her mad at me, whatever. I'm going for it.
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Yeah, there are actually. I am actually really surprised I didn't go for it.
You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 There are actually wussy men will not kiss after a few dates. Do women ever put up with that? I do it on the first date. Not being overly shy if I like someone...I'll go for the kiss first
You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Hmmm, I don't think I am getting any signals that she wants me to kiss her. The only thing I got was that she never pulled away whenever I touched her back, arm, leg or went in for the kiss on the cheek. So, I might get slapped, might make her mad at me, whatever. I'm going for it. What does her eyes look like when you're within kissing range? She'll look like a deer in headlights if she wants it.
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 I actually don't know. But when I am really close to her, she doesn't look me in the eye too much. She does it a little, holds my eye contact then quickly averts her eyes. Really have no clue. Do you think I should move in a little closer, as in kissing range and then look at her lips then eyes then lips again? Just to gauge if she wants it. I think she wouldn't pull back.
You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I actually don't know. But when I am really close to her, she doesn't look me in the eye too much. She does it a little, holds my eye contact then quickly averts her eyes. Really have no clue. Do you think I should move in a little closer, as in kissing range and then look at her lips then eyes then lips again? Just to gauge if she wants it. I think she wouldn't pull back. Look at her lips, then her eyes, to let her know it's coming.
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Hmmm, I don't think I am getting any signals that she wants me to kiss her. The only thing I got was that she never pulled away whenever I touched her back, arm, leg or went in for the kiss on the cheek. So, I might get slapped, might make her mad at me, whatever. I'm going for it. If shes going out on date like situations with you... then just assume a LIP KISS would be a good idea
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Damn, now I KNOW I really should have gone for it. That's a lesson learnt. Funny thing is I keep looking at her lips. I can't help it. But yes, when I go for it, I'll let her know JUST before it comes. I don't think any date-like situations will happen anytime soon especially after what I did or didn't do. Should I still go for it anyways? I mean, next week will probably be the last time I see her. Or, should I ask her to meet up and then do it? Either way, it's happening.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 (edited) Dude dont read too much into what a bunch of people on an internet forum say. I have had mixed results I tend to always go in for the kiss these days but before that I didnt and still had success. The first four relationships I had after I got out of the military, I never went in. I went for a hug and they would kiss me on the cheek, the next date I kissed them. Women are all different some want you to try while others want you to wait, some are interested some arent. People say if you dont try you will be friendzoned or whatever. Fact of it all is, they are either interested or they arent. Kiss on the first date shouldnt matter if they like you. Same applies here you can just go in and kiss her at the end of the date and say goodnight, she will probably allow you a kiss but she may not think anything of it. Edited May 26, 2010 by Ihavenoidea
Author counterman Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 I agree, I don't think interest in a guy is primarily based on whether he kisses on the first date or not. Even though some girls do put it in such a way that a non-attempt shows lack of interest from the guy. My friend went on a date with a girl and they didn't know whether to kiss on the first date or not. Anyways, next night they met and ended up kissing, so yeah. It doesn't really matter if she's really interested. To be honest, I'm not really expecting anything from it. I'll just go for it and she may allow it but afterwards, I am going to be continuing my life as it is. So yeah, just a moment of thrill.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I agree, I don't think interest in a guy is primarily based on whether he kisses on the first date or not. Even though some girls do put it in such a way that a non-attempt shows lack of interest from the guy. My friend went on a date with a girl and they didn't know whether to kiss on the first date or not. Anyways, next night they met and ended up kissing, so yeah. It doesn't really matter if she's really interested. To be honest, I'm not really expecting anything from it. I'll just go for it and she may allow it but afterwards, I am going to be continuing my life as it is. So yeah, just a moment of thrill. exactly, it sounds like you are good to go to me. Just need to get the date.
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