xRJ85x Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 OK, so we all know one of the stupid "Rules of Dating" is for a guy to wait 2-3 days optimally to call a girl. Since I'm one of the guys that hates the rules, I'm afraid of it working against me in a way. I got this girl's number online last Thursday (when she sent me a response email). We exchanged a couple more messages each Friday about possibly running into each other on Saturday (we were gonna be out in the same area with friends), but that didn't end up happening. Now I had a very busy Sunday and Monday and didn't really get a decent chance to sit down and call her. So I plan on doing it tomorrow, which is Tuesday. That's a totally of about 4 days. So my question is, despite me asking for your number and saying "Hopefully we run into each other," would you think of getting a call 4 days later as not interested or losing interest or is this OK? I really wanna meet up with her, but I'm just afraid that wanting to sit down to call her may backfire for some reason or another. And this would be in general, for any guy that wanted to call a girl but just didn't get a chance to sit down so he could plan a first date with her. Thoughts?
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I think it's reasonable, but I'm 36 and we tend to be more patient and understand people have lives, kids, other priorities, etc. But definitely call her tomorrow.
Author xRJ85x Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 I think it's reasonable, but I'm 36 and we tend to be more patient and understand people have lives, kids, other priorities, etc. But definitely call her tomorrow. I'm 25, so I don't have kids, but had a full work schedule today and had a lot of errands yesterday (Sunday). The possible good thing is that she says she's very busy too in her profile (she teaches and then coaches every day).
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 If I were her, I might be thinking you lost interest, but you haven't hit the "point of no return" yet. When you call tomorrow, definitely have a date idea planned so she knows are ARE still interested enough to have made a plan.
norajane Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Well, what's the alternative at this point? Waiting even longer to call?
Author xRJ85x Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 If I were her, I might be thinking you lost interest, but you haven't hit the "point of no return" yet. When you call tomorrow, definitely have a date idea planned so she knows are ARE still interested enough to have made a plan. Ughhh...great, so my interest and kindness is technically backfiring... Yea, that's why I wanted to "sit down" to call her. It was her bday Saturday (I think, that's why she was out), so I wanted to talk to her a little and ask her how it went before I asked her if she wanted to meet up this weekend.
skydiveaddict Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Well, what's the alternative at this point? Waiting even longer to call? true you should call her tomorrow
Author xRJ85x Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 Well, what's the alternative at this point? Waiting even longer to call? Yea, but I'm also talking about it from a general point of view because, as I said, my main concern is that she'll think I'm not interested when in fact I completely am, but just couldn't. I'm hoping the whole "online" thing getting her number gets me a little more breathing room...
Confusedalways Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Definitely call!! I was just freaking out because this guy hadn't messaged me back for 2 days-- haha. I get that people have lives but it is reallllly hard when you're interested in someone to be rational. Call tomorrow
skydiveaddict Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Plus I think that three day rule is a load of crap. I would call the next day
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Again, I think you're still in "the window," but definitely ask her out to do something specific on a specific day (not just a general "so, you wanna get together sometime?") so she knows you're interested enough to have actually planned a date. Yeah, women all know about the 3-day rule. And all a guy will get from that is gone.
Author xRJ85x Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 Plus I think that three day rule is a load of crap. I would call the next day It is crap, which is why it causes a problem for guys who just wanna be themselves. In my case too, it wasn't an option. I got her number, then she told me she'd be in the same place I was the next night, so I said maybe we'll run into each other (I couldn't say "Hey lets meet up then!").
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