Houdini176 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 So I just turned 16 yesterday and I still don't have a girlfriend. I'm really getting sick of being the only person that I know who hasn't ever done *anything* with a girl, ever. Period. I've never been kissed in any way, nor have I ever kissed anyone. I've liked about three girls in the last six years, and each time I've failed at getting a date from any of them. With last little "crush", I made her laugh every day, we walked in the hall together sometimes, and I thought that it might evolve into something. But, of course, it didn't. In the end it just crumbled into nothing, and anymore I barely talk to her anymore compared to before. Girls don't seem to like me, in fact I haven't heard of a girl liking me in about four years. Honestly, what am I supposed to do? Some people are going to post "Oh, it's just your high school years it doesn't even matter!" But, the problem is - I want a girlfriend. I want to be able to get to know some of these awesome, cool people at a level that I haven't with anyone else. I *want* this, regardless of how foolish I'm thinking or how wrong I am about all of it, I still want it. I can't stop wanting it, and I can't persuade myself out of any of this. Heck, if I had a choice I'd stop liking girls. It just isn't happening, so does anyone have any suggestions? Is there anything I'm doing wrong? It just comes so easily to everyone else, and I want to try this out for myself. Thanks in advance.
Cealabeala Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Hi, I'm a nineteen year old girl and I remember feeling exactly like you. When I was sixteen I had never had a boyfriend either, and it really worried me. I felt like I was weird for not having experienced it, and I wanted a boyfriend SO MUCH. I've always been a hopeless romantic, and I have a feeling your the same : ) Then when I was seventeen I had an awesome summer. I had a job and I was making loads of new friends and having a great time, not really thinking about guys much at all. Then BAM, I met a guy, fell for him and amazingly, he fell for me too. The funny thing is I didn't meet him through work or any of my new friends, he had always been around but we hadn't noticed each other before. So I think he was drawn to me because I was happy and not really desperate for a boyfriend anymore. Ironic, yes. We went out for a long time, he was my first love and he ended up smashing my heart to smithereens. Seriously, as bad as you think you feel because your lonely, its nothing compared to the pain of a break up. So I hope that makes you feel a little bit better. Looking back to when I was your age, most people I knew hadn't had a serious relationship either. Your totally normal. You just have to try to be happy in other ways, because honestly, thats the only way your going to find someone.
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