marsle85 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Messages like this: "Well do you think cuddling with me would put a smile on that pretty face of yours?" make. me. gag. This guy sends me nightly texts (whatever) and most of the time they make me crack up. He's even this corny in person... the other day he mentioned how he had to go through my agent to talk to me. He goes on about how I'm a "model" etc. The thing is, he knows I don't like it- I roll my eyes, and don't respond to 99% of these *lame* messages. Gosh, just a glimpse of the last week's texts: "Why are you so cute?" "Can I show you how a princess should be treated?" "Your so cute, sweet, polite, gorgeous, respectful, amazing... you have no idea how rare and special you really are". Yikes. Thing is, he wants to take me out (he said Applebees:sick:) and a movie (Ironman). None of that sounds appetizing. Maybe i'm snooty, but ordering chicken crispers doesn't sound romantic. He's a nice guy, attractive- but not MY kind of guy. There isn't enough depth. As I was writing, he just sent this: "I have missed you even more since I've been home. You're cute, funny, sweet, polite, amazing to say the least". Half of me thinks/HOPES he's trying to play me - because there has to be an excuse for this behavior. Yuck. Would I LIKE these messages if they were from someone else? Some of you may think so, but it's just not me. I can't stand Facebook comments from couples: "So and so is my eternal sunshine, I live for them". I don't even CHANGE my status on Facebook. Don't get me wrong. When I am close to someone, I'll sit on your lap, I'll hold your hand, I could kiss for hours, I'm very sweet and I love physical intimacy. I'm not afraid of that kind of closeness, but to me - simple is best. I enjoy, and appreciate "I miss you" more than "I miss you more than the sun and the stars, yadayadayada.." Who's with me?
TheBigQuestion Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Most of those are a little much. I most certainly would not use those cheesy lines over and over again. I admit that I've had MOMENTS of similar corniness, but I nearly always recognize them as such and correct course.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 this kind of stuff just SCREAMS trying too hard. major turnoff.
Laugher Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 yup, im completely with you there! I know girls who like this but it aint for me...all that romantic crap makes me cringe..like you, I like affection but as for all that bull. To me it just screams fakeness and its like they have a message template they just to send to all the girls..
MrNate Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Messages like this: "Well do you think cuddling with me would put a smile on that pretty face of yours?" make. me. gag. This guy sends me nightly texts (whatever) and most of the time they make me crack up. He's even this corny in person... the other day he mentioned how he had to go through my agent to talk to me. He goes on about how I'm a "model" etc. The thing is, he knows I don't like it- I roll my eyes, and don't respond to 99% of these *lame* messages. Gosh, just a glimpse of the last week's texts: "Why are you so cute?" "Can I show you how a princess should be treated?" "Your so cute, sweet, polite, gorgeous, respectful, amazing... you have no idea how rare and special you really are". Yikes. Thing is, he wants to take me out (he said Applebees:sick:) and a movie (Ironman). None of that sounds appetizing. Maybe i'm snooty, but ordering chicken crispers doesn't sound romantic. He's a nice guy, attractive- but not MY kind of guy. There isn't enough depth. As I was writing, he just sent this: "I have missed you even more since I've been home. You're cute, funny, sweet, polite, amazing to say the least". Half of me thinks/HOPES he's trying to play me - because there has to be an excuse for this behavior. Yuck. Would I LIKE these messages if they were from someone else? Some of you may think so, but it's just not me. I can't stand Facebook comments from couples: "So and so is my eternal sunshine, I live for them". I don't even CHANGE my status on Facebook. Don't get me wrong. When I am close to someone, I'll sit on your lap, I'll hold your hand, I could kiss for hours, I'm very sweet and I love physical intimacy. I'm not afraid of that kind of closeness, but to me - simple is best. I enjoy, and appreciate "I miss you" more than "I miss you more than the sun and the stars, yadayadayada.." Who's with me? Man, I feel sorry for you women that have to put up with stuff like that on a daily basis. This is why it may look like women like men who ignore them. It's not the fact they're being ignored, but rather the guy gives them space. But I also have to ask, why the disdain towards applebees? lol I've seen this in more than one post.
Rorschach Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 While those do come off as really cheesy and over the top, I still feel a bit distressed to hear women talk bad when people are treating them 'too nice'
Pfiend101 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 He sounds like how I used to be. I grew out of it. I can see how it would get annoying. It is a little over the top. How do you tell someone they are being too nice? lol
Lakeside_runner Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 While those do come off as really cheesy and over the top, I still feel a bit distressed to hear women talk bad when people are treating them 'too nice' Don't. These texts really sound just fake. It may be just me but I could see myself sending these messages after being in a relationship with someone for a couple of weeks at least. Compliments at the beginning are best in person and not to often - this is what makes them special. There is a difference between sending these ready-cut-out texts "You're so special and unique" when you're not even dating and a text that says "I am 6000 miles away on my way to the airport and I miss your look and your smile when you talk to me tilt your head and look me in the eyes". (Gosh I miss sending these texts well it just wasn't meant to be...)
Author marsle85 Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 "I am 6000 miles away on my way to the airport and I miss your look and your smile when you talk to me tilt your head and look me in the eyes" well there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I like thattttt, AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU
Rorschach Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Don't. These texts really sound just fake. It may be just me but I could see myself sending these messages after being in a relationship with someone for a couple of weeks at least. Compliments at the beginning are best in person and not to often - this is what makes them special. There is a difference between sending these ready-cut-out texts "You're so special and unique" when you're not even dating and a text that says "I am 6000 miles away on my way to the airport and I miss your look and your smile when you talk to me tilt your head and look me in the eyes". (Gosh I miss sending these texts well it just wasn't meant to be...) Eh it's just frustrating because I enjoy being overly cheesy, but when I do it its more of a joking thing, but I still enjoy doing it. Between these threads and the sex forum recently I've started to feel like I'm just too nice of a person for some women, which of course I am, but the bigger fear is that 'some' women is approaching 'most' women. Whatever, even if only 1% wanted me to be nice and gentle and 'make love' not 'F***' that just means I have to go on that many more dates to find somebody.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 While those do come off as really cheesy and over the top, I still feel a bit distressed to hear women talk bad when people are treating them 'too nice' its not about being "too nice". these type of messages just seem rehearsed and fake.
sagetalk Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Messages like this: "Well do you think cuddling with me would put a smile on that pretty face of yours?" make. me. gag. This guy sends me nightly texts (whatever) and most of the time they make me crack up. He's even this corny in person... the other day he mentioned how he had to go through my agent to talk to me. He goes on about how I'm a "model" etc. The thing is, he knows I don't like it- I roll my eyes, and don't respond to 99% of these *lame* messages. Gosh, just a glimpse of the last week's texts: "Why are you so cute?" "Can I show you how a princess should be treated?" "Your so cute, sweet, polite, gorgeous, respectful, amazing... you have no idea how rare and special you really are". Yikes. Thing is, he wants to take me out (he said Applebees:sick:) and a movie (Ironman). None of that sounds appetizing. Maybe i'm snooty, but ordering chicken crispers doesn't sound romantic. He's a nice guy, attractive- but not MY kind of guy. There isn't enough depth. As I was writing, he just sent this: "I have missed you even more since I've been home. You're cute, funny, sweet, polite, amazing to say the least". Half of me thinks/HOPES he's trying to play me - because there has to be an excuse for this behavior. Yuck. Would I LIKE these messages if they were from someone else? Some of you may think so, but it's just not me. I can't stand Facebook comments from couples: "So and so is my eternal sunshine, I live for them". I don't even CHANGE my status on Facebook. Don't get me wrong. When I am close to someone, I'll sit on your lap, I'll hold your hand, I could kiss for hours, I'm very sweet and I love physical intimacy. I'm not afraid of that kind of closeness, but to me - simple is best. I enjoy, and appreciate "I miss you" more than "I miss you more than the sun and the stars, yadayadayada.." Who's with me? How does this guy even have your phone number? Have you even given him the most remote hint that you could like him? If not, he is a complete weirdo.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 well there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I like thattttt, AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU Thanks. I was just making a point that compliments over texts should be reserved for the time an actual relationship forms and their content is substantiated, they have a meaning. If a guy starts with texts as described in your original post and you guys date after while it will become just boring and empty. That, or he'll burn out pretty quickly.
skydiveaddict Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Just another example of why girls dont go for "nice guys"
Lakeside_runner Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Just another example of why girls dont go for "nice guys" Ok, "nice guys" as example given by Marsle - that's a no no. Nothing wrong with a kind-hearted man.
skydiveaddict Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Ok, "nice guys" as example given by Marsle - that's a no no. Nothing wrong with a kind-hearted man. true.........................
SilentVoice Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 (he said Applebees:sick:) Who's with me? Has he lost his mind. If I am not mistaking you are from NYC like myself and all he could come up with is Applebees,double gag, what is he 16? I am with you... once a conversation starts" So how has my lovey dovey .etc etc" I am running in a different direction.
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Blech, Applebees! Either you're not snooty, or I must be snooty too, because something about being asked out on a date to bland, uninspired chain restaurants practically makes me gag. I still remember being kind of sort of interested in this one guy until he asked me out on a date and suggested TGI Fridays. I understand the need to keep things on the cheap, but hell, I'd rather have a guy offer to buy me coffee, than offer to take me to Applebee's. And that among all of his other nausea-inducing texts...I don't think you are a bitch...I would be totally turned off too.
Pfiend101 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I would think the restaraunt type wouldn't matter too much if you were into a guy. How about Olive Garden?
sweetjasmine Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 "I am 6000 miles away on my way to the airport and I miss your look and your smile when you talk to me tilt your head and look me in the eyes" Now that is sweet and romantic. Because it's actually personal, so it sounds honest. It doesn't sound like a series of canned, over-rehearsed lines that just repeat the same words over and over and it's not coming from someone who you're not even in a relationship with. I love sweetness and affection, but there's a time and place, and if it sounds forced or rehearsed, it really comes out all wrong. And if you haven't been seeing someone for long or even exclusively, the "I will love you until the stars turn cold" type of sappiness is too much too soon. It hints at an obsessive personality or desperation.
sweetjasmine Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I would think the restaraunt type wouldn't matter too much if you were into a guy. How about Olive Garden? I don't think the restaurant type is a big deal, but I think this is where people are coming from: he's sending her lots of texts, talking about how amazing and wonderful and pretty and sweet and polite (?) and respectful (?) and unique and special she is and how she deserves to be treated like a princess and how she doesn't know just how special she is. And she's so special and amazing that she deserves a night out at a chain restaurant with microwave-heated processed food. When you put it that way...
SilentVoice Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I would think the restaurant type wouldn't matter too much if you were into a guy. How about Olive Garden? I am pretty sure you was talking to the op,but I will answer as well. I personally will not go to any chain restaurants for a date. I don't need Reservations but with the abundance of family owned restaurants and diners I rather go there.
Green Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Messages like this: "Well do you think cuddling with me would put a smile on that pretty face of yours?" make. me. gag. I'd be more likely to txt " Well do you think a good **** would put a smile on that pretty face?" This guy sends me nightly texts (whatever) and most of the time they make me crack up. He's even this corny in person... the other day he mentioned how he had to go through my agent to talk to me. He goes on about how I'm a "model" etc. The thing is, he knows I don't like it- I roll my eyes, and don't respond to 99% of these *lame* messages. Gosh, just a glimpse of the last week's texts: "Why are you so cute?" "Can I show you how a princess should be treated?" "Your so cute, sweet, polite, gorgeous, respectful, amazing... you have no idea how rare and special you really are". Other then setting the next date I wouldn't really txt or call at all. Yikes. Thing is, he wants to take me out (he said Applebees:sick:) and a movie (Ironman). None of that sounds appetizing. Maybe i'm snooty, but ordering chicken crispers doesn't sound romantic. He's a nice guy, attractive- but not MY kind of guy. There isn't enough depth. A chain resteraunt.... SAD AND GROSS.... But damn Iron Man sounds good although I don't think I would suggest it unless I knew the girl liked it. I would take a girl to a NON chain resteraunt that was really good but not to pricey and then I would try and get her back to my place... If I was in NYC I might take the girl to some kind of comedy show stand up or improv... get some drinks into her. As I was writing, he just sent this: "I have missed you even more since I've been home. You're cute, funny, sweet, polite, amazing to say the least". Half of me thinks/HOPES he's trying to play me - because there has to be an excuse for this behavior. Yuck. Would I LIKE these messages if they were from someone else? Some of you may think so, but it's just not me. I can't stand Facebook comments from couples: "So and so is my eternal sunshine, I live for them". I don't even CHANGE my status on Facebook. You would die if you saw my facebook... I have my gf in my profile pic and my last status involved her haha Don't get me wrong. When I am close to someone, I'll sit on your lap, I'll hold your hand, I could kiss for hours, I'm very sweet and I love physical intimacy. I'm not afraid of that kind of closeness, but to me - simple is best. I enjoy, and appreciate "I miss you" more than "I miss you more than the sun and the stars, yadayadayada.." Who's with me? You are not a bitch, I personaly would not do any of the things this guy has done... really lame and needy almost... unimaginative.... Seriously I'd more likely randomly txt a girl "poop" then this stuff
BobSacamento Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 When you pile it on like that the compliments just lose all meaning.
Author marsle85 Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 I would think the restaraunt type wouldn't matter too much if you were into a guy. How about Olive Garden? Olive garden is fine. Actually, cost doesn't matter so much as much as originality. I prefer a cute little secret place than a chain restaurant. Worst of all, I think he predominantly expresses himself in this verbal fashion. For example, I never responded to that "cuddle with me" text, but he continued: "Or maybe not." One time I canceled with him, and he said "Yeah, I don't blame ya- i'm ugly" He's NOT ugly, at all. He has a great body, really positive, really outgoing- but as much as I hate receiving unnecessary compliments, I don't like distributing them either.
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