silverplanets Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Actually , I think misfit has something ..... Sorry .. misfit should have read bittersweet ... Stand by the point though ... why is all this work drama "working" for you ..... what might it be substituting for or diverting attention from .... Where's your fufilled life that means you don't need work to be more than work ... Chris
Author technician07 Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Iron, Silver, Nadia I must say that I'm impressed by your input. Alot of it makes sense. I just moved to the city where I work a little while ago. I lived about 45 minuates away before. Just about all of my free time has been spent taking care of issues at my house, fixing things and working on upgrades. That said, my social life has been almost non-existent. Normally I go out 2-3 times a week. I guess it would be fair to say that I might be living out my social life at work more than I normally. Maybe even looking for a little excitemnet where I normally wouldnt be. In terms of making NC rule on the social networking sites, I have a pretty good reason. Many of the friends I grew up with (including myself) got involved in things they shouldnt have been involved in, and many got into trouble. I have worked very hard to get away from that life, got an education, and worked my way up the ranks to a company I want to be at for the next 30 years. Just about all of my friends from back then never left that life behind and continue to lead a life surrounded by crime. Eventhough they are still doing that, they understand that I needed to do what was best for me and leave. The only way I stay in contact with them is via facebook. I would rather not have my co-workers see the things they post to me amongst other things accessable through FB. As for someone seeing me change shirts, I was trying on a product that we sell. I really do appreciate the insight from all of you, especially sharing your personal experience. I just needed to take a step back and look at the big picture. Like I have said, I'm not going to make it a priority to talk to her and put this to an end tomorrow. Then I'm going out to have some drinks and fun.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 My question is this...Is she flirting because she wants to sleep with me, or just for the attention. what difference does it make? If we tell her its because she wants to sleep with you, you gonna take that as a green light to bed down someone elses wife? And if we tell you she just wants the attention....did you just lose interest in an easy piece? or would you try harder? Also, what would be the best way to go about this? Obviously avaoiding it would be the best method. how about stop flirting with someone elses wife, and if she flirts to not flirt back. And, I have been cheated on so I know what that feels like. Physically though, I'm extremely attracted to her and really want to sleep with her. then do it....but then have the guts to face her husband and confess it.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 (edited) ........read more of the thread Edited May 26, 2010 by Dexter Morgan
nadiaj2727 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Technician- I'm glad you are thinking, IMO a lot of self-reflection and honesty is necessary before one can make a positive change. But the important thing is action. So I do hope you leave this woman alone and focus on your job. And focus on making a life for yourself outside of work and being truly happy. Good luck
ComputerJock Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 Technician - You mentioned e: ex girl friend, or ex wife. The reason you broke up may have bearing on your current situation. Didn't you say she accused you of cheating, and here you are with the same behavior, flirting which leads to Emotional Affair which leads to Physical Affair. I think you need to read other sites like infidelity, and chat cheaters. IMHO
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