Aleksandr Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Hello all, First off, thank you for listening to my problem and perhaps giving me some advice. My problem is very complex and confusing, at least I think so, and I'm not even sure if I fully understand it. But, here goes... I met a girl a few months ago on an online forum about poetry. I am a writer and a poet, and she is too, so we started off as friends who simply enjoyed talking to each other about a shared passion and hobby. However, it soon became more than that, as I feel in love with her personality and her attitude about life. In the beginning, she didn't want to be anything more than friends, not because she disliked me, but because she didn't like the idea of a relationship in general and was disillusioned with love; she thought she'd never find it. However, I fell in love with her, and soon she fell for me, but of course, with her attitude about love, it took her a little longer. However, she fell quite hard for me, and I did the same for her. Now, we started talking for several hours a day after I asked her out, and she said yes. I enjoyed talking to her, and I still do. But a few weeks ago, I started thinking differently. Here's where it gets odd. I love her deeply, and I still do. However, she relies on me totally for her own happiness, as she is gravely depressed. I feel trapped now, because I feel that I cannot leave, lest she possibly hurt herself or do something like that, but I no longer want to stay. I love her, but I...I honestly can't really explain what it is, but I just don't want to be a part of this relationship anymore. The problem is, I don't know how to let her down easy without her doing something drastic, and I also hope to avoid feeling massive amounts of guilt about this whole thing, which I will undoubtedly will. The problem is that she loves me and is so kind to me and is so incredibly caring, and I love and appreciate that, but...I just don't want her. I can't explain it as I said before, but I want out. I feel so horrible about this whole situation. I would appreciate any ideas at all.
madjac74 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Hey its best to be honest as quickly as possible otherwise she can get more attached or you can do more damage by blowing her off and stuff and making her wonder whats going on. If she is this crazy about you then its never going to be easy so just man up and do it.
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