shutterbug1 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Hello all. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of over a year because I wasn't feeling attracted to him anymore, not having sex etc. We were friends for over 6 years and click perfectly on so many levels, but he is not attractive to me. I tried to overlook it, as I have many flaws I'm sure and he's kind enough to not be shallow, but I couldn't help it anymore. Not to mention I had a hard year last year, taking care of my sick dad and then being with him as he passed away within the same year. My ex was clingy throughout the whole ordeal and didn't understand my need to be away from him bc of that. I broke up with him in february bc I was tired of hearing him constantly tell me how worthless I made him feel etc. I did a not so good thing and checked his emails a week later and found out he was corresponding with another girl. Me and my ex were still talking, he was begging me to get back together. I felt decieved to say the least. How could you try to move on so quickly? So needless to say my jealousy got the best of me and I gave him another shot. Now I'm in the same predicament.. We broke up (I initiated it again) and first week--he starts emailing that girl again!!! Wtf!! I know its not my problem and I know its wrong, but how do I stop being so obsessive about it!!!? I don't want him but I'm terrified of him moving on. I have had horrible anxiety since discovering they're talking again.. I am so stressed I don't know what to do. Please help me!
yume Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 YOU broke up with him. Stop checking his email. Move on. It's inevitable that he'll be talking to other girls - but you yourself said you're not attracted to him. So get over it. Everyone feels this way about their ex but the fact that you keep obsessively digging through his email is just making it worse for you.
Author shutterbug1 Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 I want to stop obsessing and checking his email-- I want to not care if he starts to get involved with someone. I want to move on really. But its that feeling I get that I am terrified I made the wrong choice breaking up with him. He's at a place in life where I just know the next girl he meets or dates, he will settle down and have babies with.
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